Girl, no.
good question!
Aw dont say that... Stuff like that causes depression. Its too far to say that they dont want that person to be happy.
If anything i shed a tear to the comment of "you will be alone forever" i felt that inside.
Actually, the "being alone forever" is what I meant to quote. I was just too lazy to scroll up and quote it properly. She started it.
Trust? I'm not even sure how trust works sometimes... I've found trust can be a gamble sometimes. But maybe I have no idea what I'm talking about?
Marriage is useless, you love someone and you don't need to have it written down on paper, but to have a minimal liability regarding the potential children you may have together. Not marrying also means no divorcing. Wanna quit? Just walk out of the door. Explanations will follow a bit below.
May I say "material girl"? Have your stuff and his separate is one thing, but whenever things had to go unplanned, things will by definition go downhill. Those contracts/agreements are just a god given for lawyers and so.
..........Soul mate? Sounds like fairy tale bliss to me. Can you explain exactly what that is, if you have a definition for that outside of a Disney movie?
Thanks, and I'll pass on the kids. Those of us that consider ourselves as free spirits have no desire for children. Now don't get me wrong - I think kids are great as long as they are your kids and not mine. I even donate regularly to St Jude Children's Hospital and to Le Bonheur Children's Hospital. I have a soft place in my heart for the unfortunate I guess. At least people around me are always telling me that.
The problem is that this is 2020 and the 70s are gone forever. Today people seem to be out for what they can get and it doesn't matter who they hurt to get whatever they desire. If any time in history was really good then it had to be the 60s with all the "Love Children" and "Free Love" of that day. At least from the things I read about it that time seemed like a neat time to be alive. Even so they did have prenuptial agreements back then too.
Honestly it seems more like a scam if anything. Not to mention, marriage is useless for divorced parents that ACTUALLY want to be parents for their children.
While I do indeed agree with that attitude, try having stalkers when they are dedicated to screwing you over, and they have to "get even or dominate" when you tell them no... That shit is scary.
I can certainly attest, there are such things as gold diggers, and I narrowly escaped one
Fortunately, I have only been stalked by guys wanting a date. I would be more than scared if someone was stalking me to do bodily harm. The guys that asked me to marry them were serious but they never tried to push it on me after I had told them "NO" but at the point they asked me to marry them any continued relationship with them was dead. To continue to date them would have encouraged them that I might have an interest in becoming married later on but just not right now. Those times after HS that guys asked me to marry them was way too soon for anyone to be asking that question. I had never even said that I loved them - It was just way out of place.While I do indeed agree with that attitude, try having stalkers when they are dedicated to screwing you over, and they have to "get even or dominate" when you tell them no... That shit is scary.
Getting back to the topic, what about people who intend on pushing for "marriage" solely as a way to get more material goods? You said prenuptial, but still, it might not stop individuals from trying...
Even if a lesbian couple wants children and absolutely abhor the idea of having sex with a man in order to become pregnant, there are sperm banks and artificial insemination.
What kind of traits makes someone a gold digger?I can certainly attest, there are such things as gold diggers, and I narrowly escaped one
@Horst Trapper basically called me one above but I don't think that was what he meant.
But a "Gold Digger" generally refers to a woman, but it can be a man too - that is out to get as much money or material things out of a realtionship as possible.
I'm aware of their goals (yes there are both gold digging men and women), but my question would be how to keep yourself safe from one.
well, this lady had a bit of a sordid history. She had already been married twice. First husband killed himself (or did he?) after getting her pregnant in high school and having 2 kids. Second husband is a convicted pervert (later got arrested for exposing himself at a mall to underage girls), he got her pregnant too, then he left her shortly after. Anyway, by the time I came along, she kept pushing marriage and started skipping birth control, probably hoping I'd get her pregnant so she could wring me out to dry. She only wanted me for my money and I made significantly more than her at that time. And she put on a very good show. Her first 2 kids were great, the 3rd which was shared custody was an A-hole. But as the relationship progressed, it became more clear that she had ulterior motives.
I wouldn't know how to protect oneself from one other than prior experience. I know, it's crap advise, but I learned more about myself, and life in general from that particular relationship.
My "No Relationship" way of life kinda protects me from any hope a gold digger would have. With a guy it would be more like @raks post.
I'd bet that you could write a book on the answers that you could read if you googled "Ways to know a gold digger"
I knew that you didn't mean it in the "Gold Digger" sense. Although I don't agree that someone such as I that protects their assets is a "Material Girl".
