Men being weird

[BergDry]

No, but I do a good line in ginger cake and last night I took my Christmas cake out of the oven, all nicely baked

I love a Christmas Cake

 

[Goattobeloved]

Stop talking about cakes, you weirdos!
We are here to message hot willing chicks for sex and profit!!


(nah, it is fine, but DO share the recipe!! )

 

[Cookiecaretaker]

 

[JessWoof]

This is a minor complaint of mine but if you're going to message me or engage with me don't call me a female. It's a massive ick. I'm a woman. Girl at a pinch but I am 28 going on 29 so...

 

[GingerUnicorn]

This is a minor complaint of mine but if you're going to message me or engage with me don't call me a female. It's a massive ick. I'm a woman. Girl at a pinch but I am 28 going on 29 so...

But don't you understand that's just what you are? There's men and there's females, duh.

Excuse me whilst I throw up.

There's just something so weirdly distant and dehumanising about it I think.
The only times I've ever seen it used where it couldn't possibly be a red flag is in scientific research papers and lab reports where it's standard practice to state male & female participants.

 

[Cookiecaretaker]

so many like him, i dont knew that they dont see that beeing desperate leads to exact the opposite....

 

[bayareacpl]

This is a minor complaint of mine but if you're going to message me or engage with me don't call me a female. It's a massive ick. I'm a woman. Girl at a pinch but I am 28 going on 29 so...

You ever notice how it’s only hood/trailer trash that call women “female?” That shit screams food stamps, no job, and DV.

Edit: fellas… never do this. The second it happens, you sound like you will ignore us while you scream the tv during your manchild halo marathons, then ask us for $ to renew your Xbox live account. You sound like you pretend you’re hard but youre gonna use my good tweezers to pluck your eyebrows and get your greasy skin marks on my mirror. Like you’ll try to convince us (really yourself) that your v6 white-trash-mobile mustang that you bought with your enlistment money is hot shit. You’ll tell us your name is something like t-roc when it’s fucking Clarence. All of our girlfriends at the club will hear it and appropriately clown you the second you walk away (or right then).

Just don’t do it.

 

[ausbeast420]

 

[libim29689bulatox]

This topic was a really fun read.

It's something I've been rattling in the back of my head because ultimately I had one relationship where this desire was mutual, and that's part of the idea in getting out there with like-minded individuals, maybe I can work on trying to find that sort of a thing again.

But that's the whole bit: I want a RELATIONSHIP, not these damn meat-market shenanigans.

 

[huskylover1789]

So sometimes I'll go through the introductions page to see new people and I'll say hi, react, welcome, etc. Anybody who happens to be new to the site.

But something I've realised is that I always have to go and filter the page to only show brand new posts.

Because without fail on the most recently responded to threads (default filter) there will be a some post of a woman who I'm sure became exhausted and turned off notifs with the 100+ replies on her 7 month old introduction.

Now I'm sure these women are genuinely lovely. But men, being serious? What the hell are you doing?! Is there really no point you've figured out "Hey maybe commenting on every woman's post I can find from the past 2 years" is a little bit weird and creepy?

It's a little sad because there's always some new person (usually a guy or person of unspecified gender) who's not had a single hello or a react in hours or even days! And I'm sure they'd still appreciate feeling welcomed even though you don't want to fuck them.

Like I get it, I'm sure you're probably horny and wow girls are so cool and amazing and pretty!
But please try and be normal about it, I swear I get secondhand embaressment from sharing the same gender!

I find it extremely interesting and very off-putting the amount of outright sexual shit written by men towards human females in a zoo forum. It's kind of exhausting to be honest.

 

[GingerUnicorn]

I find it extremely interesting and very off-putting the amount of outright sexual shit written by men towards human females in a zoo forum. It's kind of exhausting to be honest.

C'mon man we just had a little thing about the inherent weirdness of calling women 'females' not 5 messages ago in this very thread. You literally use 'men' in the very same sentence!

 

[GingerUnicorn]

well certain demographics trying to attack language and trying to destroy the word woman you need to now specify it down to the letter.

I'm not really sure what you're getting at.

The only groups trying to attack women that I can really think of are those in power who would see them stripped of autonomy and rights.

And in case it wasn't obvious it's pretty clearly that the opinion of women is that being called 'female' is not a good thing. I say listen to them.

 

[dj29dkppp]

I should point out that most men would love to get that amount of attention from women, sexual or otherwise.

 

[GingerUnicorn]

I should point out that most men would love to get that amount of attention from women, sexual or otherwise.

This is definitely a bit of a weird point to make.

See as a man who can be attracted to men I've also received a small amount of this type of attention too and it's never felt remotely genuine or exciting, multiplying that one-hundred fold sounds tedious and frustrating.

Imagine for a second living in a world where you have to second guess every single interaction you have with a guy, because almost every single time they're just trying to get pics or a quick fuck. Half the time they can't even be open about what they want.

If you've got friends who are women I'd genuinely suggest asking them about their experiences with attention from men both offline and online in general and also on any kind of social/dating apps.

 

[bayareacpl]

I should point out that most men would love to get that amount of attention from women, sexual or otherwise.

And that’s exactly why you don’t get it, human male. Fucking retards, I swear.

 

[huskylover1789]

C'mon man we just had a little thing about the inherent weirdness of calling women 'females' not 5 messages ago in this very thread. You literally use 'men' in the very same sentence!

It was literally nothing to do with PC or being wierd I just wrote females . My bad, women.

 

[GingerUnicorn]

It was literally nothing to do with PC or being wierd I just wrote females . My bad, women.

Yeah it's less of an active thing, it's just one of those passive things that pervades a lot of people's speech and is seen as a red flag because at base it can come across as dehumanising and and over recent years is becoming more associated with misogynistic public figures who go out of their way to avoid saying 'women'.

Not meant to be an attack, just pointing it out and trying to give a little explanation as to why. People will say 'female' for women but not 'male' when talking about men and at the end of the day there are underlying reasons for that.

 

[SxaBeast]

You ever notice how it’s only hood/trailer trash that call women “female?” That shit screams food stamps, no job, and DV.

Edit: fellas… never do this. The second it happens, you sound like you will ignore us while you scream the tv during your manchild halo marathons, then ask us for $ to renew your Xbox live account. You sound like you pretend you’re hard but youre gonna use my good tweezers to pluck your eyebrows and get your greasy skin marks on my mirror. Like you’ll try to convince us (really yourself) that your v6 white-trash-mobile mustang that you bought with your enlistment money is hot shit. You’ll tell us your name is something like t-roc when it’s fucking Clarence. All of our girlfriends at the club will hear it and appropriately clown you the second you walk away (or right then).

Just don’t do it.

Tell us how you really feel, don't hold back now.

 

[rally.scientist]

The big issues that I found are
1) people who ask "what did you do with your dog?" - who want a quick fix while I'm trying to juggle a career and a busy home life
2) people with no real interest in the role of this site but who want to make a date to get you into bed - even though if I were interested in that, I wouldn't be on this site but on a dating site or something
3) people who send a message saying "hi". What's that all about?
If it were one message every now and again that wouldn't be quite so bad, but I swear that many men on this site have read some statistic or other saying that only one in a thousand of their mails is successful so they dash off to bombard as quickly as possible 999 women who have no interest at all in their proposition until they finally reach their pot of gold. They don't care about the women at all as long as they get what they want.
Every single site that I have ever seen has been killed off from a woman's point of view by these irresponsible males. There's a well-known chat site with a "women-only" room but that is so full of men who pounce on you the moment your name appears on the "joined" list that hardly anyone of the female sex goes there any more

This happens in any kink/fetish community. There are people who are interested in watching, but not participating in various kinks, and when they find a community of said kinksters, they automatically and immediately assume they we are are essentially on-call kink dispensers.

A black man at a swingers club/event? Suddenly surrounded by BBC fanatics, QoS fetishists, and budding cucks who think porn is real life.