Like many others I struggled with self directed shame, confusion, and anger at myself for 'giving in' to my lust... Then I started to think about 'why' I would even have those feelings or doubts to begin with. We could go down a very deep rabbit hole discussion about religion, sexual hang-ups, cultural conditioning, etc... but I'll simplify it: I am an atheist but a good person and a student of the human condition, so I ask myself two simple questions, Am I hurting anyone (or living creature) and Am I violating anyone's rights (legal or natural rights)? No and No.