Places like this tend to attract a fuck-ton of gross fetishist, misogynistic pigs (no offense to pigs) looking for women to dominate and use. Something I will never be able to relate to in any way, shape or form.
That's because we're often viewed as life support systems for whatever body part they fetishize and want to slobber on "as a service" to us.
I used to run into that daily on fetlife before I closed my account permanently.
(unsolicited) "Hello Mistress. I wish to be your slave and service your every whim. You may put me in permanent chastity and peg me daily for your pleasure."
(me) "Interesting, however I am looking for a service slave. My kitchen needs cleaning."
(Them) -=-=-= crickets =-=-=-
While on fet I belonged to a group local to me and they met monthly. While I very much enjoyed the company of the handful of regulars, the passer-throughs who walked in dick first got annoying rather quickly.
One young guy walked up to me out of the blue and simply said "I like GILFs with saggy tits."
I laughed so hard in his face I actually felt bad. Well, not that bad, maybe just a little.
But daaaaaaaaaaamn. Sadly, guys like him weren't that uncommon either. That's why I just got tired of it and closed my account and stopped participating in munches. Made a few friends there though, and we still get together outside the realm of fet and the munch. Because, you know, we actually invested the time to get to know one another and became friends.