People with non zoo partners, how do you handle your zoo self in the relationship?!

When I was in a relationship with a non zoo I used deep repression to try to convince myself that I wasn't. I don't recommend that though as it kind of made me somewhat unemotional in a lot of aspects and I don't think it was fair to my partner.
It would seen to me the three most likely options would be. 1 Find a way to live with that duality which generally will mean a bit of rationalizing. Also if you ever act on it and are caught it can go really bad quick. A subset of that is to accept that you feel it but decided the human relationship is more important and just maybe have a fantasy now and then but don't indulge or promote it. 2. Find a way to test or figure out if your partner is at least okay with it and possibly tell them eventually. This is always a risk and can go badly. 3. Let that person go if you realize they couldn't be happy being in a relationship like that. Having a need to be with someone isn't love it is dependency. Love is wanting the other person to be happy with or without you. Now that said many people do have both some level of love and also dependency but the other person's happiness should at least be kept in mind.
A lot will depend on what decision you can live with and what you think is right.
 
I hear you.

I'm in a relationship like that myself. Been dating my girlfriend for a year now and I don't think I'll ever be able to tell her the truth. She loves animals to death, especially dogs, and maybe that's a hint of the fact that she's zoo, but I also think there are lots of girls out there who just love animals for the sake of loving them without a sexual relationship, and she's probably one of them.

I think some things are best kept hidden to yourself. Do it on the side when she's not around; however, if you want her to be in on it then give subtle hints about your interest in zoo.
 
thickknotlover769 said:
I hear you.

I'm in a relationship like that myself. Been dating my girlfriend for a year now and I don't think I'll ever be able to tell her the truth. She loves animals to death, especially dogs, and maybe that's a hint of the fact that she's zoo, but I also think there are lots of girls out there who just love animals for the sake of loving them without a sexual relationship, and she's probably one of them.

I think some things are best kept hidden to yourself. Do it on the side when she's not around; however, if you want her to be in on it then give subtle hints about your interest in zoo.
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Sometimes the animal lovers are the most against zoo thinking it is harmful. Often people equate animals with children. Not all are like this but enough to be of concern.
 
I have FWB's (male and female) I recently shared and opened up with. The reality is this is not an uncommon everyday hidden side for many, though certainly not all. There is something which hangs in the air like a perfume or sexual musk, and when I asked if they have ever experienced it or thought about zoophilia there was almost a gasp of relief for them to connect. 1 plays the other chats about the erotic aspects of zoophilia. Both are bisexual and have higher than usual libido.
 
For me, I dropped hints over a long period of time to my wife. I told her I was into furry porn and she was completely cool with it even though she had 0 interest in it. She even got me a furry porn coloring book and colored in pictures for me as a gift. We would watch furry porn together and she would talk dirty about the videos while jerking me off. I started selecting videos with feral furry porn and I’d let her know how much I enjoyed those by cumming super hard and vocally. So she’d start picking more feral videos for us to watch. A few times some real zoo would pop up while we were porn browsing and I’d be sure to flex my dick as to let her think that I really really liked seeing those ones. She wouldn’t pick those videos though but she picked up on all my hints.
One day she just rolled over in bed and said she knew I was into beastiality and that she’s completely cool with it but she’s not into it herself. She asked if I would ever want to be fucked by our dog and I told her I already had been many times. She was shocked. More so that I had been doing it and she never noticed.
Before she knew about it all, I felt like I was hiding something kinda important to me. I felt even worse that I was fucking around with our dog that she was refer to as our fur child. I hated having to lie to her about the scratches I’d get.
 
AtomicCookie said:
When I was dating but still active I used to lie and do things behind their back. It was self preservation. You don't tell people you love what illegal activities you participate in for a number of reason. But as a zoo denying the primal intimacy, acceptance, and comfort of your lovers is like drowning. I once stopped for 2 years and was absolutely miserable with who I was with. I eventually met someone who seemed genuinely curious. After enough joking and talking about it I took a chance and let them in on this huge part of myself I had hidden. We've been together for nearly a decade and she is a zoo now as well. It became a best case scenario, but could easily have gone the other way.
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Relationship goals!!
 
For me, I was married before. She knew I was a zoo, and she was ok with it as long as I never did anything behind her back, and I never did. However, those old familiar feelings would always come back for me. I felt like I was stifling a vital part of me. I never told her I felt this way.

Going forward, I don't know if I could ever date someone who was non-zoo, but as most of you already know, finding someone who's a zoo *and* that you vibe with enough to get together with, it's almost impossible. I know I'm not zoo-exclusive, so that kind of lifestyle wouldn't fit with me.

What to do, what to do...
 
ropervto said:
Currently I’m in a relationship with this guy and I really do love him, but i can’t deny my zoo self. Part of me just wants to keep this to my self but sometimes I feel like I’m doing him wrong…I just don’t want to loose him tbh. How do y’all handle these feelings/situations?
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I am lucky my husband knows and accepts it in our lives. I hope you get to that point in life as well.
 
My fiance and I both were interested in zoo when we were younger, and it came up in conversation and we both have expressed interest in actually trying it out :) communication with your partner is the most important thing, we both bring whatever we want to try up and we talk about it, we're both also very into kink and BDSM stuff, so we'll try just about anything once to see if we like it, I like some stuff she doesn't, she likes some stuff I don't, those things we just don't do with each other, but our relationship is pretty unique with how open our conversations are
 
i always kept this hidden from partners, but in my last relationship she found out without me telling her. at first she was very upset with me, but later on she ended up becoming a zoophile herself out of curiosity. we never did any zoo ourselves but from then on we would both masturbate together while watching it. was pretty hot and weird how that turned out. however, personally i still would be too afraid of how someone would react if i told them, so i probably still wouldn't in a future relationship
 
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