People with non zoo partners, how do you handle your zoo self in the relationship?!

I feel you :(

I'm in the same situation and prefer to be safe by not telling the truth, sometimes you have to keep things private about yourself and that's fine even if it can hurt
 
I suck him off and say, you know what would make this better next time. If I had a big red dog dick in me.

This is what I want, this is who I am, doesn't have to be every day or even very often, but it's going to happen. If that's too much for you to handle we need to make other plans.

Yea I did leave my last partner after waiting around for 6 years for him to get his shit together. Sorry not sorry , it's my life too. It was a good run , now I have a more open minded partner who is very supportive ever tho it's not his thing.

Don't beat around the bush like I did at first. This is what I want, and if that's not for you , it was a good run.

Otherwise the years fly by you realize , "huh , I did everything he wanted to do, but when is it my turn"
 
Id tell her u been together so long and have to be true to her trust is a big thing in relationships I know it's going to be hard I only came out not to long ago and sometimes people find it hard to come to terms with it but that all part of it being honest with yourself is the first step
 
It is really difficult. I casually date and end up having certain ‘rules’ because of my lifestyle like whoever I am dating can’t stay with me at my house.

It is difficult, bu part of how I am and how I protect Myself, my Shepard and how I live.

I have gotten used to it. I enjoy my Shepard and everything about him of course but I also enjoy the company of humans. One day I might meet someone who accepts me and my lifestyle. Until then I just casually date
 
samzeta said:
I'm in a relationship with my HS sweetheart since 2011. Only recently (a bout two years ago) she found a discord Convo (someone pm'd me from a mutual zoo hentai server, unsolicited and I responded once and that's as far as it got) talking about knots. When she found out about that and I showed her my stash of dog and horse porn (all drawn or animated) and I told her of my interest in order to take a semi leap of faith. I told her I don't watch irl stuff (a lie), and that what she saw was the extent of it.

She was already put off by my interest and I feel she thinks less of me as a result. I've never done anything with a dog but I can't imagine her reaction if I told her I want to be a dog's bitch and knot-sleeve. I'm a cis/bi guy but def more on the masculine side, and in my human relationships I prefer females over males, but when it comes to male dogs I can't help but feel submissive, primal, and horny in their intimate presence. God I couldn't imagine what she'd think if she were reading this.

Is anyone else in a similar circumstance or situation? I doubt I'll ever confess to her unless she outright comes out and says she accepts it, or in the best timeline she'd want to join in!
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I have the exact same gender and orientation as you!! Mostly straight man, interested in human females. but when it comes to dogs, I want to be knotted by a big boy
 
The only addition I could say is:
Words, once spoken can never be unsaid.

It's a fine line to walk but if there is doubt and you care if you lose the person, think very carefully before you act.
 
What about the classic "forgetting" to close a tab with zoo hentai or real zoo or leaving a zoomovie in mediaplayer minimized in stead of closing it. That way you can see how he reacts to that. If he reacts badly, you can just say you just came across while looking at other porn. If he is curious, you have a place to start.
 
samzeta said:
I'm a cis/bi guy but def more on the masculine side, and in my human relationships I prefer females over males, but when it comes to male dogs I can't help but feel submissive, primal, and horny in their intimate presence. God I couldn't imagine what she'd think if she were reading this.
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I feel you there. I am also cis/bi masculine presenting. I grew up in the south and had to suppress my bisexuality for a long time and I think that's part of why I became interested in the idea of having a male dog for the booty duty.
As for my partner, I spent decades going through a bunch of losers until I finally found Mrs. Right. I gradually revealed to her that I was bi, and then there was some time of getting her accustomed to my furry anthro porn I liked to look at before revealing the feral stuff.
Now I have a supportive partner who is not into the same stuff but is willing to be somewhat involved as a "handler". We're getting a dog for me to enjoy the company of this year. It took a long time but I did it and I'm happy.
 
Pretty much the only option is to keep it hidden. Unless you met your partner under very specific conditions where you know from the start that they're also zoo, doing anything but keeping that side of you a secret will almost 100% of the time end in disaster, or at the very least leave your relationship worse off as a result. The odds of your partner also being into the same fetish are slim to none, especially in regards to something seen as taboo as this. Save yourself the trouble. It sucks to have to come to that realization but the sooner you do the sooner you'll stop lying to yourself that coming out to a non-zoo would do you any good short or long term. There's no need to take the risk. Keep your animals and yourself safe!
 
With the girls I date, I sometimes have porn in the background playing with autoplay enabled for the next video. I sneak some zoo content and see their reaction. If negative, I play dumb. If positive, I'd definitely push for a conversation. If neutral, I'd make a joke about it and let her respond however she would please.

That is the extent I'd be willing to go. I don't need a zoo girlfriend, but it would be nice. There's more to life than just sex and I try to be thankful for what I have.
 
I know 100% my bf doesn't like zoos or feral artwork even at all but I love him too much to split up over that and so I just keep it to myself, though I guess it does help that I don't feel any need to do anything irl (nor would it be realistic, only really feeling any attraction towards aquatic species)
 
samzeta said:
I'm in a relationship with my HS sweetheart since 2011. Only recently (a bout two years ago) she found a discord Convo (someone pm'd me from a mutual zoo hentai server, unsolicited and I responded once and that's as far as it got) talking about knots. When she found out about that and I showed her my stash of dog and horse porn (all drawn or animated) and I told her of my interest in order to take a semi leap of faith. I told her I don't watch irl stuff (a lie), and that what she saw was the extent of it.

She was already put off by my interest and I feel she thinks less of me as a result. I've never done anything with a dog but I can't imagine her reaction if I told her I want to be a dog's bitch and knot-sleeve. I'm a cis/bi guy but def more on the masculine side, and in my human relationships I prefer females over males, but when it comes to male dogs I can't help but feel submissive, primal, and horny in their intimate presence. God I couldn't imagine what she'd think if she were reading this.

Is anyone else in a similar circumstance or situation? I doubt I'll ever confess to her unless she outright comes out and says she accepts it, or in the best timeline she'd want to join in!
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I feel you, we’re basically the same just that in humans I really don’t care for gender or appearance, but in canines I love myself a bitch…I literally fantasize to pleasure a bitch in heat and fill her up…in reality my dream would be for my partner to feel the same way and get a female dog partner…but the chances are almost inexistent at this point
 
dabster77 said:
Pretty much the only option is to keep it hidden. Unless you met your partner under very specific conditions where you know from the start that they're also zoo, doing anything but keeping that side of you a secret will almost 100% of the time end in disaster, or at the very least leave your relationship worse off as a result. The odds of your partner also being into the same fetish are slim to none, especially in regards to something seen as taboo as this. Save yourself the trouble. It sucks to have to come to that realization but the sooner you do the sooner you'll stop lying to yourself that coming out to a non-zoo would do you any good short or long term. There's no need to take the risk. Keep your animals and yourself safe!
dabster77 said:
Pretty much the only option is to keep it hidden. Unless you met your partner under very specific conditions where you know from the start that they're also zoo, doing anything but keeping that side of you a secret will almost 100% of the time end in disaster, or at the very least leave your relationship worse off as a result. The odds of your partner also being into the same fetish are slim to none, especially in regards to something seen as taboo as this. Save yourself the trouble. It sucks to have to come to that realization but the sooner you do the sooner you'll stop lying to yourself that coming out to a non-zoo would do you any good short or long term. There's no need to take the risk. Keep your animals and yourself safe!
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completely agree. I feel that in the end it’s not that I deny my zoo self, it’s just that I have to be careful with it. I think having zoo friends who are undercover as well can even benefit me. Truly is that not only do I put my life at risk, but my dearest animal too.
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ropervto said:
Currently I’m in a relationship with this guy and I really do love him, but i can’t deny my zoo self. Part of me just wants to keep this to my self but sometimes I feel like I’m doing him wrong…I just don’t want to loose him tbh. How do y’all handle these feelings/situations?
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I told my partner when we first got together. In that space I had so many protections in place that she didn't really know me beyond what I told her. I usually just anonymize myself and tell people pretty early on why waste the time building a relationship if I have to hide myself, then later when I trust them I start to deanonymize a bit. In your situation, I'd advise extreme caution and restraint, you have no idea how he will react and I'm assuming he has ties in your family if y'all have been together long enough. Unfortunately in this situation you're probably doomed to be stuck in the shadows. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
 
My partner isn't a zoo but does experience interest in animals and understand why I do.
They probably wouldn't have as big of an issue so I can't really help here. However I have heard some zoos open up and felt so much relief.
I guess a suggestion I would advice is to be honest with them. Take some time, like Husky said be cautious. Drop some subtle hints.
Have a support system if anything happens. And then it is up to you rather you are okay with not opening up or telling them.
Just make sure you and your animal companion is safe doing so.
 
Spouse knows, no desire for any of it on that end. I hide it and we dont discuss it anymore due to talks of inadequacy, which is fair and im not the best with words to convey the differences and nuances of it. Had expressed though that i could fully embrace this side but i felt like that was left poorly and i dont know how to properly re-engage the conversation without frustration
 
k9pm said:
With the girls I date, I sometimes have porn in the background playing with autoplay enabled for the next video. I sneak some zoo content and see their reaction. If negative, I play dumb. If positive, I'd definitely push for a conversation. If neutral, I'd make a joke about it and let her respond however she would please.

That is the extent I'd be willing to go. I don't need a zoo girlfriend, but it would be nice. There's more to life than just sex and I try to be thankful for what I have.
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Amen
 
ropervto said:
Currently I’m in a relationship with this guy and I really do love him, but i can’t deny my zoo self. Part of me just wants to keep this to my self but sometimes I feel like I’m doing him wrong…I just don’t want to loose him tbh. How do y’all handle these feelings/situations?
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ropervto,

I truly feel for you. I have been where you are. I had felt like I was doing my girlfriend wrong by hiding my zoosexuality from her too.

I was. By keeping my zoosexuality a secret from her, I was preventing her from evaluating me and our relationship on her own terms. It was manipulative of me. I was hiding something about myself I knew she wouldn't like in order to continue dating her, and I deliberately prevented her from getting a say in that. She eventually found out by accident on her own. By hiding I destroyed our trust, and I broke her heart.

The choice: keep it to yourself, or share. Here are some of the pros and cons from my experiences to get you started. These assume that your relationship is a healthy one, and not toxic or abusive!! Some may or may not be applicable to you and your situation:

Don't tell him and keep it a secret. Pros: preserves the relationship as it is, can feel comfortable, can possibly keep you / your animal(s) safe. Easier up front. Cons: If he finds out on his own, you won't have control over your story at first, and he may feel extraordinarily hurt. Your trust might evaporate, and it's extremely difficult to regain trust once it's lost. You may also feel that keeping this as a secret erodes your sense of closeness with him, and it may become exhausting to keep up the facade over time.

Tell him the truth: Pros: You get control over your story and keep the narrative in your hands. You will have an opportunity to show him that you trust him deeply. He will also have an opportunity to show you if he's a good partner for you or not. You may feel liberated and lighter, you may feel that you are truly seen for who you are. Your partner may reveal things he's never shared with anyone and you two might even grow closer together. Can be easier in the long run. Cons: scary as hell. Much more difficult up front, extreme vulnerability. If you have animals then there are probably concerns there too if your partner doesn't take it well. The relationship could end even if he does take it well.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope that you find the way that works best for you. If he's worth your energy, he'll treat you compassionately even if he doesn't agree. If he loves you in return he will listen to you thoughtfully and treat you with respect. My heart goes out to you. Feel free to DM if I can be of any support.
 
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I got real drunk once with a girl and just put some zoo porn on the bedroom TV. I caught her couple times starring at some horse cock. I believe she was getting into it. I felt nervous as hell to introduce this to her. Its been very difficult to find like minded people and this topic is so taboo its tough to bring up in real life situations.
 
Totally depends or who you are talking to. You can get utter delight or utter disgust and revulsion, so be careful. Given the choice, and if distance and online, keep things as anon as you can and find out ASAP, even a frank convo if needed. It it all fails, cut and run. If in a face to face relationship its more difficult and some people might contact the law or try and bad mouth you if they feel strongly against Zoo's. (You just don't need the agro or bad rap full stop) A little dirty talk or Zoo movie that slips into an 'random selection of movies' might reveal what you want to know. But do it ASAP in the relationship and if its a deal breaker, walk away. For both your sake. Lifes too short and tomorrow never comes.

Perfect world, you look where the Zoo's might be: so look for like minded people on like minded sites, or those who might offer a more liberal personality if not Zoo themselves. Zoo sites, swingers sites, ALT lifestyle sites, where at least you might just be thought of as 'kinky' if it all goes south.

We know Zoo's are out there, but we also know that the true Zoo's are usually are very careful and discreet.....even a true Zoo might not jump out at you given the offer of being a fellow Zoo. There is too much to loose.

Thats my humble opinion.
 
When I was dating but still active I used to lie and do things behind their back. It was self preservation. You don't tell people you love what illegal activities you participate in for a number of reason. But as a zoo denying the primal intimacy, acceptance, and comfort of your lovers is like drowning. I once stopped for 2 years and was absolutely miserable with who I was with. I eventually met someone who seemed genuinely curious. After enough joking and talking about it I took a chance and let them in on this huge part of myself I had hidden. We've been together for nearly a decade and she is a zoo now as well. It became a best case scenario, but could easily have gone the other way.
 
That's a tough one. I've been with my boyfriend for over 7 years now, and he only knows a few of my things. This isn't one of them. I decided it's best to keep it from him and just enjoy my doggo when he isn't around. Like others have said, once it's said, you can't take it back. Sorry you're going through it. Wish you all the luck.
 
Thanks for the conversation, all. These are all helpful perspectives to have.
I'm still figuring out where I stand with the zoo thing but the idea of needing to keep such a big secret from a potential partner is extremely offputting to me. One of my worries about really allowing myself to feel into and accept zoophilia is the impact it might have on my ability to relate to and build connections to other people which I do not want to lose in the process.
 
ropervto said:
Currently I’m in a relationship with this guy and I really do love him, but i can’t deny my zoo self. Part of me just wants to keep this to my self but sometimes I feel like I’m doing him wrong…I just don’t want to loose him tbh. How do y’all handle these feelings/situations?
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Happy to say I have a zoo partner although we haven't done zoo... Yet. Both gay men
 
I have a gf I love and while she likes furry things, she has expressed dislike for zoo when we were on the topic of zoo and furry when people just assume they are the same. I am just gona keep this liking to myself because I wouldn't want to lose her over my own likes.
 
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