AllBeastLover
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AllBeastLover
it sounds like there were some complicated things going on the these woman, your first lady sounds to me like she very much wasnt over her last relationship, if that was true, know that had absolutely nothing to do with you and sadly there also was nothing you were ever going to be able to do about it.
as for the second experience you mentioned, knotinterested is right, life-it happens, i know its not remotely satisfying to hear that, but people drift apart for many reasons and sometimes there is no explanation, try not to dwell on it, that will merely make you crazy.
With lack of evidence to the contrary, trust that these woman both enjoyed your company as they said they did. I would also assume that the reasons they left or drifted away had more to do with something going on within themselves than anything you did, especially in bed.
If you find another gal you want to be with, I would suggest being honest and open with her about your wants, needs and desires, even before you have sex (within reason of course given the site we are on). If the relationship progresses she will want to be your best friend in and out of bed, and communication is key. Ask her to tell you what she wants, she will most probably hesitate, ask her gently and with compassion until she lets you know what she likes, she will worry about being judged, make her feel safe and allow her to express herself without judgment, and yes this takes time.
Be honest with her, let her know that yoiu either want or dont want, what she has expressed, and if you dont want the same things be careful to let her know that you arent judging her desires, even if you say no. Rememeber the mid is a powerful thing, hot sweet talk can be wonderful foreplay.
Also remember that even the best relationships dont always last forever, life happens.
i hope you have better luck in the future, I dont know how old you are, or how old your partners were at the time, but it sounds like the complications of youth. and the better you know yourself the more you will be able to communicate with other people, but you also have to keep in mind, they might not be able to hear or understand what you might tell them, patience is a virtue and it can be learned.
I'm 29, I'll be 30 soon. I had my first human experience when I was 28, last April (not this past on) My ex was 29. The second girl was 24, but she had no experience, and I always told her that if and when she's ready, let me know, I didn't want to rush her.