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An online crush...

Zetaman40 said:
Impossible for me? Yes. Unless dogs learn how to type on a keyboard. That would be interesting :husky_laughing::husky_wink:

For nonexclusive zoos I'd say a long distance relationship is possible but I wouldn't recommend it. A "healthy" relationship is all about connecting with somebody on an emotional and physical level, its kinda hard to do that on a computer screen all the time. Imagine being in love with someone but not being able to feel the warmth of their embrace. To not be able to be affectionate with them. To miss them constantly because they live far away from you. It sounds.... Difficult. Not impossible if the person has the means to travel to where your at or they live within a reasonable distance though
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All true. There is a wide, gaping chasm separating online fun from offline meeting. We all have a simple side of our brain that tends to ignore that chasm and really go for it all, online. The more realistic, and albeit, smarter side of our brain finally sees that chasm, and that sometimes causes trouble. There are exceptions, a few of which we've read in this thread, but there aren't many of them.
Thank-you for your comments.
 
Kristy said:
All true. There is a wide, gaping chasm separating online fun from offline meeting. We all have a simple side of our brain that tends to ignore that chasm and really go for it all, online. The more realistic, and albeit, smarter side of our brain finally sees that chasm, and that sometimes causes trouble. There are exceptions, a few of which we've read in this thread, but there aren't many of them.
Thank-you for your comments.
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MareButtUddrrLovrr said:
Story of my life; I've developed so many online crushes over the years that it's played a major part in my dismal success rate. Out of all of those online crushes, the very few that did reciprocate turned out to be too ethereal that any plans to actually meet up with them turned to eldritch cyan-green vapors (instead of dust). It was like flirting with ghosts...

The only successful relationship that was online didn't even start as a crush; it was more of a friendship that transitioned into an incrementally deeper connection. The shame of it all was that...even SHE ended up leaving. So, I'm basically back to square one.
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The online thing is such a gamble like that. It might be easier if we went into an online relationship TRYING to keep it firmly our mind,
"No. No love here. Not letting that happen." On the other hand, that may be asking too much of ourselves in some cases.
 
4mounting said:
I was talking to someone on BF that I really wanted to meet, but I wasn't really in a great place emotionally at the time. I lost touch with him and at this point wouldn't know where to start finding him! I think I had a crush on him def though I don't think it was mutual.
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Aw, I'm sorry...maybe if that was on BF, he'll join here and see you. Keep an eye on the "Introductions" section!
 
Kristy said:
Have you ever developed a crush on someone online? Do you even think it's possible?
You've exchanged a few PMs with this amazing person over a period of days. They seem so perfect, your heart has already been fluttering for them. You can't wait for their next message...running to your computer is the first thing you do upon waking in the morning or arriving home. Your phone or computer can't get online fast enough...is there a message? Is there? Is there?

So, dear hearts and gentle people, have you ever found yourself in this position, or do you believe it impossible?
Feel free to expound upon your comments.
Thank-you!
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This has happened to me, several times... But ONCE, everything "came together"... We met in person, and the magic between us was even stronger than it was online.
We've been in a wonderful long-distance relationship, for 7 years, now... We meet when we can, and keep in touch almost daily, in between visits.
 
eisbaer63 said:
This has happened to me, several times... But ONCE, everything "came together"... We met in person, and the magic between us was even stronger than it was online.
We've been in a wonderful long-distance relationship, for 7 years, now... We meet when we can, and keep in touch almost daily, in between visits.
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Oh my goodness! That's wonderful...I'm happy for you!
 
Kristy said:
Have you ever developed a crush on someone online? Do you even think it's possible?
You've exchanged a few PMs with this amazing person over a period of days. They seem so perfect, your heart has already been fluttering for them. You can't wait for their next message...running to your computer is the first thing you do upon waking in the morning or arriving home. Your phone or computer can't get online fast enough...is there a message? Is there? Is there?

So, dear hearts and gentle people, have you ever found yourself in this position, or do you believe it impossible?
Feel free to expound upon your comments.
Thank-you!
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It's very possible, and can not even begin to tell you how many "crushes" I have had over the years online. Some fleeting, lasting only a short time before for one reason or another contact is broken off.......some still going on to this day. I swear I have worn out a few refresh buttons checking for new messages every few minutes.
 
silver_Lining said:
It's very possible, and can not even begin to tell you how many "crushes" I have had over the years online. Some fleeting, lasting only a short time before for one reason or another contact is broken off.......some still going on to this day. I swear I have worn out a few refresh buttons checking for new messages every few minutes.
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I know the feeling! ??
 
silver_Lining said:
It's very possible, and can not even begin to tell you how many "crushes" I have had over the years online. Some fleeting, lasting only a short time before for one reason or another contact is broken off.......some still going on to this day. I swear I have worn out a few refresh buttons checking for new messages every few minutes.
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Oh yes, and with your heart going crazy with anticipation each time you click, even though your last click was less than ten seconds ago.
Yep...I know. Thank-you for sharing all this.
 
Yes it has happened but a long time ago. I was much younger and the girl was 20 years old. It ended up fading in time but I didn't forget the good days when we were online. Then I got married and never had anyone online again.
 
MareButtUddrrLovrr said:
Story of my life; I've developed so many online crushes over the years that it's played a major part in my dismal success rate. Out of all of those online crushes, the very few that did reciprocate turned out to be too ethereal that any plans to actually meet up with them turned to eldritch cyan-green vapors (instead of dust). It was like flirting with ghosts...

The only successful relationship that was online didn't even start as a crush; it was more of a friendship that transitioned into an incrementally deeper connection. The shame of it all was that...even SHE ended up leaving. So, I'm basically back to square one.
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success rate does not matter, just keep asking!
 
lonewolf8 said:
i'm the same here as i am in person I can't see being any other way not fake what you get here is what you get in person sure in person it will take some time to get this part out of me unless we have been chatting and have talked about it in advance but i don't know how to be anything other than what i am and i am a straight forward honest type of guy sometimes too much and that is why i'll tell a person you can ask me anything you want to ask the only rule i have is don't ask a question you don't want to know the answer to
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Make sense, yes. Thank-you for commenting.
 
Sandtail said:
Yes it has happened but a long time ago. I was much younger and the girl was 20 years old. It ended up fading in time but I didn't forget the good days when we were online. Then I got married and never had anyone online again.
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Oh yes...things like that never leave our memory, no matter how happy we are in a subsequent relationship.
Thank-you for sharing, and so beautifully.
 
Yes. Very much. In fact, I'm still in touch with a woman whom I met several years ago on ZoosBook. We now chat regularly on Skype.
 
It’s easier for one to fall in love with a shadow than the actual person.

Whatever online crushes I had. I knew it was unrealistic and impossible. I’m always thankful for their time, but I know better than to keep dreaming.
 
Yes. All the time. Finding ladies in this lifestyle is like trying to find a needle in a stack of needles in a needle producing factory after a tsunami, in the middle of a super tornado, with an asteroid bearing down on it. So when I find a woman that I kind of vibe with it's natural to develop a crush.
 
I myself have never actually fell in love with someone online but a couple of bartenders that used to work for me did and I warned them ahead of time that when they actually met the person in live circumstances, they would be different but neither of them listened to me. You can't believe how crestfallen both of them were when the so-called "Love Of Their Life" showed up and they were completely disappointed as neither of them were anything like they described.

That being said, while I do not have romantic feelings towards them, there are three interesting ladies that use this forum that totally enthrall me. They appear to be very fun-loving & down to earth people that really know how to have a good time. Reading their posts and watching how they interact with others, I think it would be a hell of a good time if we all got together for a night out on the town. They are @Kristy, @Pippa & @knotinterested. These three ladies exhibit themselves with grace, knowledge and yes sexuality. I've come to appreciate just about everything they have to say and love how they speak their mind and don't give a damn what anybody thinks, they are honest and that's about all you can ask someone to be.
 
texasspud66 said:
I myself have never actually fell in love with someone online but a couple of bartenders that used to work for me did and I warned them ahead of time that when they actually met the person in live circumstances, they would be different but neither of them listened to me. You can't believe how crestfallen both of them were when the so-called "Love Of Their Life" showed up and they were completely disappointed as neither of them were anything like they described.

That being said, while I do not have romantic feelings towards them, there are three interesting ladies that use this forum that totally enthrall me. They appear to be very fun-loving & down to earth people that really know how to have a good time. Reading their posts and watching how they interact with others, I think it would be a hell of a good time if we all got together for a night out on the town. They are @Kristy, @Pippa & @knotinterested. These three ladies exhibit themselves with grace, knowledge and yes sexuality. I've come to appreciate just about everything they have to say and love how they speak their mind and don't give a damn what anybody thinks, they are honest and that's about all you can ask someone to be.
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My goodness...I am positively blushing here, and honored to be placed among such admirable women, as they are in so many ways.
Thank-you, Tex!
 
texasspud66 said:
I myself have never actually fell in love with someone online but a couple of bartenders that used to work for me did and I warned them ahead of time that when they actually met the person in live circumstances, they would be different but neither of them listened to me. You can't believe how crestfallen both of them were when the so-called "Love Of Their Life" showed up and they were completely disappointed as neither of them were anything like they described.

That being said, while I do not have romantic feelings towards them, there are three interesting ladies that use this forum that totally enthrall me. They appear to be very fun-loving & down to earth people that really know how to have a good time. Reading their posts and watching how they interact with others, I think it would be a hell of a good time if we all got together for a night out on the town. They are @Kristy, @Pippa & @knotinterested. These three ladies exhibit themselves with grace, knowledge and yes sexuality. I've come to appreciate just about everything they have to say and love how they speak their mind and don't give a damn what anybody thinks, they are honest and that's about all you can ask someone to be.
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You were talking about me? I speak my mind? I'm down to earth? And to be included with Knotinterested and Kristy? Oh wow! I hope my Mistress doesn't see this! I'll pay dearly for such overwhelming praise! Thank you for your very kind comments. I shall make an effort to live up to them. Thank you! ?
 
There was ONE online crush that I painfully became un-crushed to, due to her opposing political stance. Nothing as disappointing as becoming attracted to someone that turns out to be a real-world "enemy."
 
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