When did you first try sex toys?

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Same here. Started with "household items". Once curious, it became a game of "would it fit" and "how would it feel". The best was a small wooden baseball bat given out at a Ranger's game. It turns out that it does fit with some determination :) I really enjoy all the similar stories of making due with what you have. Great thread!
 
First purchased sex toy was a little dildo when I was 16, first one I ever used was my mums cheap pink vibrator when I was 12 and looking for some booze, stumbled across a box under her bed of toys for her and her boyfriend, she doesn't know I found them but I did come out as bi to her and she gave me a hug. 😍😍❤️
 
I was always the curious kind so I remember using markers, those M&M tube containers, 7-8 grapes, a few of my parent's sex toy.... I'm definitely not proud of that one. I was probably about 12-13 I don't really remember. And Sometime before 2021, I occasionally feel like I want anal so I had my wife use a strap on me and when she was tired I had her use all her toys on me including a purple wolf dildo and I took the knot XD
 
Doggygirl said:
I got my first toy when I was 12.
Yay for supportive moms who understand that toys are a lot safer to try things with than actual boys.
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I'm no psychologist here and not trying to be rude but im a bit grossed out. I think 12 is way, way too young to buy a kid a literal sex toy. Everyone else here at that age naturally improvised for toys, and usually only got commerical toys at an age where theyd more then likely have developed a healthy sexual relationship before. I think providing a full on pleasure-exclusive object into a blossuming sexuality is abusive and psychotic; and more then likely stunted your development to form healthy relationships. Hopefully not, and I hope I'm wrong about what I said, but my gut and basic understanding about psychology says otherwise.
 
etcetc said:
I'm no psychologist here and not trying to be rude but im a bit grossed out. I think 12 is way, way too young to buy a kid a literal sex toy. Everyone else here at that age naturally improvised for toys, and usually only got commerical toys at an age where theyd more then likely have developed a healthy sexual relationship before. I think providing a full on pleasure-exclusive object into a blossuming sexuality is abusive and psychotic; and more then likely stunted your development to form healthy relationships. Hopefully not, and I hope I'm wrong about what I said, but my gut and basic understanding about psychology says otherwise.
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why should it be different if someone builds himself his own dildo or if you're using a real one?
Masturbating with a dildo doesn't damage your psyche more than masturbating with a real dildo and a real dildo is less likely to hurt you physically.
 
etcetc said:
I'm no psychologist here and not trying to be rude but im a bit grossed out. I think 12 is way, way too young to buy a kid a literal sex toy. Everyone else here at that age naturally improvised for toys, and usually only got commerical toys at an age where theyd more then likely have developed a healthy sexual relationship before. I think providing a full on pleasure-exclusive object into a blossuming sexuality is abusive and psychotic; and more then likely stunted your development to form healthy relationships. Hopefully not, and I hope I'm wrong about what I said, but my gut and basic understanding about psychology says otherwise.
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I think that's a myopic & borderline puritanical way of looking at it. Just look @ the number of people who started @ that age in this thread alone plus any given "when/how did you get into zoo" thread. Human sexuality starts developing @ the onset of puberty & allowing a kid to explore that in a safe way without shame is VERY healthy. Contrast to the number of people now & historically who get told "DON'T MASTURBATE OR GOD WILL SEND YOU TO HELL" & end up w fucked up relationships & body issues. Or hell the number of adult sexually active women who've never had an orgasm!
 
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I think that's a myopic & borderline puritanical way of looking at it. Just look @ the number of people who started @ that age in this thread alone plus any given "when/how did you get into zoo" thread. Human sexuality starts developing @ the onset of puberty & allowing a kid to explore that in a safe way without shame is VERY healthy. Contrast to the number of people now & historically who get told "DON'T MASTURBATE OR GOD WILL SEND YOU TO HELL" & end up w fucked up relationships & body issues. Or hell the number of adult sexually active women who've never had an orgasm!
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Don't try to strawman my argument. I think that providing an object exclusively for pleasure into the primary psyche of someone whose starting to be sexual is harmful.
All the other examples here show a natural exploration. From developing a loving relationship with another being to achieve sexual pleasure to seeking out something to provide sexual pleasure when the want naturally arises. How I seen It is that someone's mother went "you're bleeding, heres a vibrator." To me that's no different than arranging a marriage with a 12 year old who had her first period.
 
etcetc said:
Don't try to strawman my argument. I think that providing an object exclusively for pleasure into the primary psyche of someone whose starting to be sexual is harmful.
All the other examples here show a natural exploration. From developing a loving relationship with another being to achieve sexual pleasure to seeking out something to provide sexual pleasure when the want naturally arises. How I seen It is that someone's mother went "you're bleeding, heres a vibrator." To me that's no different than arranging a marriage with a 12 year old who had her first period.
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Neither did Doggygirl say, that their mom bought them the vibrator out of the blue just because they got their period, nor is that the same as arranging a marriage for a twelve year old o_O
Holy hell, that's one hell of a leap of logic.
 
In my early 20s, my girlfriend at the time used a small vibrator on me. Now, I have quite the collection.
 
was around 14. Experimented with just some House hold things at first. But eventually brought my first toys (Saved up all my birthday money). One being a Large Chance flared from Bad dragon of course. Was enough to make me walk and tremble sideways. eventually got a mary too
 
Once again, when I was around 9 or 10, but this time it was a group effort. I don't even know how it started but it became a habit for the group of us to sneak into one friend's parent's bedroom and use their moms vibrator (wall plug in model) on our dicks while we looked at porno mags we stole from other parents.

Soo, First semi homoerotic group masturbation and first toy in one. Why did none of us think that was weird?
 
Well... i was 12, just learned about jerkin it. I was curious and there wasnt exactly much around so i didnt have very many choices... i like to believe yhat everybody's first toys were improvised but my case was different because my first experimentation was in Urethral insertion. At first it was a q-tip with half of the fluff removed... but then I got hungry for it... i found a small metal rod (that was obviously not made for this) probably around 7" long and after a little bit of practice eventually all i would have to do is put in the tip, angle up my dick and let it go and it would slowly slide itself in. Eventually i could get it in all the way. Most of the time it wouldnt need help, sometimes I lubed it with water and sometimes I used my cum. It was uncomfortable sometimes. But other times it was oddly satisfying
 
etcetc said:
Don't try to strawman my argument. I think that providing an object exclusively for pleasure into the primary psyche of someone whose starting to be sexual is harmful.
All the other examples here show a natural exploration. From developing a loving relationship with another being to achieve sexual pleasure to seeking out something to provide sexual pleasure when the want naturally arises. How I seen It is that someone's mother went "you're bleeding, heres a vibrator." To me that's no different than arranging a marriage with a 12 year old who had her first period.
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This is not an accurate representation of what she said and frankly argue yourself into oblivion if you want. Your in the minority here with this line of thinking. Frankly if I have a daughter some day I’d much rather take the approach of providing her a toy than her coming home one day crying because she’s pregnant.

The train of thought you are having is what leads so many to be insecure about their bodies.
 
etcetc said:
Don't try to strawman my argument. I think that providing an object exclusively for pleasure into the primary psyche of someone whose starting to be sexual is harmful.
All the other examples here show a natural exploration. From developing a loving relationship with another being to achieve sexual pleasure to seeking out something to provide sexual pleasure when the want naturally arises. How I seen It is that someone's mother went "you're bleeding, heres a vibrator." To me that's no different than arranging a marriage with a 12 year old who had her first period.
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Also, im sorry if you'd forgotten what its like to be that young and dumb but you need to remember that when the want appears theyre going to go looking, whether you know they are or not. I for one would rather give her something thats designed for that before she tries something dangerous and injures herself.
A wise man once said... "Its better to have it and not need it, than to need it and instead have to shove a metal rod up your ass because you didnt have it when you needed it."
I'm paraphrasing here but, you get the jist.
 
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