Loneliness and Zoo lifestyle

LuvelyLeda said:
You'd know better than anyone could tell you, but you're probably not a zoo if you're only doing this just because the opportunity was there. You should go towards what makes you happy instead of distracting yourself with things that you might regret later on. Guilt and regret is a common issue zoos can have; there are a lot of posts about it on ZV. Not judging, as long as there isn't abuse involved, there's nothing wrong with what you're doing if you can honestly say that it doesn't make you unhappy.


It depends on the person. Lots of zoos have their first sexual experience with a person, but end up preferring to be with an animal anyway. The things that decide someone's sexuality is pretty complicated tbh.


Oh ya, I've thought a lot about how I ended up being the way I am to try and make sense of myself. Maybe there doesn't need to be a reason why? I can't say I know what it's like to be in your shoes, I'm happy being zoo. You'll know what makes you happy, work towards it.
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You think mating has become addicting for me? Is that why I see it as an all encompassing thing? As a silver bullet to any kind of emotional issue that may arise in everyday life?

Because I see it as a massive emotional comfort. And obviously a physical one too.

You think my mating with her is an emotional distraction?
 
Pat98 said:
You think mating has become addicting for me? Is that why I see it as an all encompassing thing? As a silver bullet to any kind of emotional issue that may arise in everyday life?

Because I see it as a massive emotional comfort. And obviously a physical one too.

You think my mating with her is an emotional distraction?
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Sex is fun and awesome, whether you enjoy it with four legs or two doesn't matter. Everything else around it and besides the sex will decide whether you should get a human partner or embrace a serious relationship with your girl. The choice is yours but get some more experience with women before you decide, put your mind at ease.
 
Pat98 said:
Yeah that’s been the missing link I think. I’ve had issues socializing my whole life. Social anxiety has been a big factor of that.
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Do you take your dog to the park or other locations where people are? Having a dog at your side can often be an icebreaker in social situations. And when you do so, put on a smile. You just might be surprised what happens.
Pat98 said:
I think as a result I’ve substituted that with mating with my dog.
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I'm wondering if you're over analizing things here. Often, when we stress over things we end up with too much pressure, for life to happen in a natural way. So, simply choose to be happy where you're at in life at the moment, and also choose to mingle with humans in a relaxed way.
Pat98 said:
I do have a loving and playful relationship with her. Lots of hugging and kissing involved. You’re very right about that loyalty part, I’ve seen an amazing amount of love from her.
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So, cherish this. So many people don't have what you have with your girl. You are so lucky to have her in your life. Trust me on this one.
Pat98 said:
But for some reason I see the mating part as like 90% of the relationship. Maybe there needs to be a balance.
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Well of course. @ZephyrZoo, myself and others here have been saying this as well. And it's ideal that you keep your dog as #1 in your life too.
Pat98 said:
Is it weird that I feel the most love when I’m mating with her face to face?
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NOT AT ALL!!! This is what makes Zoo love so special. This intimate bonding between the two of you is so very special. So STOP feeling "weird" or "guilty, lonely" or anything else that doesn't serve you well. Each of you are consenting adults. That's a beautiful thing!!!

So, I hope this helps you change your mind on how things really are for you. You have a lot going for you. Embrace it, own it, live it!

Hope this helps... 🐕
 
Pat98 said:
You think mating has become addicting for me?
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No.
Pat98 said:
Is that why I see it as an all encompassing thing? As a silver bullet to any kind of emotional issue that may arise in everyday life?
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No.
Pat98 said:
Because I see it as a massive emotional comfort. And obviously a physical one too.
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Yes. So listen to yourself here. "massive emotional comfort" is a very good thing.
Pat98 said:
You think my mating with her is an emotional distraction?
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As I've said before... I feel that you're over analyzing things here... 🐕
 
SaltyDog said:
Do you take your dog to the park or other locations where people are? Having a dog at your side can often be an icebreaker in social situations. And when you do so, put on a smile. You just might be surprised what happens.

I'm wondering if you're over analizing things here. Often, when we stress over things we end up with too much pressure, for life to happen in a natural way. So, simply choose to be happy where you're at in life at the moment, and also choose to mingle with humans in a relaxed way.

So, cherish this. So many people don't have what you have with your girl. You are so lucky to have her in your life. Trust me on this one.

Well of course. @ZephyrZoo, myself and others here have been saying this as well. And it's ideal that you keep your dog as #1 in your life too.

NOT AT ALL!!! This is what makes Zoo love so special. This intimate bonding between the two of you is so very special. So STOP feeling "weird" or "guilty, lonely" or anything else that doesn't serve you well. Each of you are consenting adults. That's a beautiful thing!!!

So, I hope this helps you change your mind on how things really are for you. You have a lot going for you. Embrace it, own it, live it!

Hope this helps... 🐕
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Absolutely! Everything he said👆🏻 You think you've got your foot stuck in tar but it's honey I promise.
 
ZephyrZoo said:
Absolutely! Everything he said👆🏻 You think you've got your foot stuck in tar but it's honey I promise.
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Hey @Pat98 , @ZephyrZoo is spot on... 👆 He and I feel the same here on this one. You're complaining about a pot of gold that you have in your life and you don't even know it.

Yes, it would be advisable for you to mingle more with people... and you should absolutely do that. AND you have someone very special at home that loves you no matter what.

Remember that... 🐕
 
I have not had intimacy with a dog but have dreamed of it since I was 13-14. I have had intimacy with humans, but it did not give me the satisfaction I know I would get the first time with the right dog.

I've always been more prone to imagining scenarios with dogs or horses or (insert x here). With humans, unless I really know them and have high respect for them, I don't get attracted to them just by seeing them.

Like a random person on a street, I probably wouldn't imagine them in bed with me but with a loving and affectionate local dog? Probably.

That is not to say I don't crave a relationship romantically or sexually with humans, I just have not gotten there, so intimacy (does not even have to be sexual) is much more of an acquired desire.
 
America is no joke with adoptions. Almost like you have to sign away your life and pour all of your life savings into adopting ONE animal from a clinic or a shelter.

Yes, yes, I know they do it for security and safety of the animal but like, c'mon! It is so much. Why do you need to know my mother's maiden name and the last four digits of my social? /j
 
I never had those feeling at all I got into the lifestyle just by sheer curiosity after watching on a porn website and I wanted to experience it and I fell in love with it
 
That's certainly a question for you. I've dated or even loved women and men. Never effected my interest in dogs especially. When I first dated women I was excited, but it never felt right for me. Like it was always something that was expected of me, but I wasn't really into it.

Then I fell in love with a dude and life turned upside down. Ive been lucky enough to have lots of great relationships with wonderful people. But even still my attraction to dogs never left me.
 
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