wood_thrush
Tourist
I received a letter from my sister today where she wrote she no longer wanted to have a relationship with me.
I am in the process of coming out to my family: telling them I've had sexual experiences with dogs, and my attractions, and sharing my moral perspective on bestiality/zoophilia. I am also sharing with them about how I had lied in the past to my girlfriend about my sexual interest in animals too. My girlfriend, at this point, knows everything about me in this regard. She knows I'm on here as well, and has decided to stay with me for the time being. We've come to our own agreement about how zoosexuality plays into our relationship (or perhaps rather how it won't). I don't think she's fully accepted this about me though. Rather, she has said to me that she's compartmentalized it.
The first person in my family I told was my sister. She was extremely upset by what I shared. I called my brother a week later, and found that my sister had already told him what I wanted to broach myself. He too was extremely upset, and told me that in his view I had committed rape. He told me he didn't want to hear from me except to tell him when I was going to talk to dad.
That's what my sister wrote too in her letter today too. She wrote that from her perspective I had done something that was like raping a child. I haven't had any chance to explain what I think about consent, how it's important to me, and the about experiences I had. My siblings don't want to hear any of it.
I am going to talk to my dad at the end of the month and share everything with him too. I'm absolutely set on doing this. I have wanted to tell my family for a long time. The value of feeling authentic, genuine and free is so much greater than the feelings of falseness I have been experiencing over the past few years. If it means that my family cuts me out, then so be it. I have accepted this.
Estrangement is not new in my family. My mom is estranged from everyone from being emotionally abusive. No-one from my family talks to her, and I know I do not want to because of her abuse. I never thought I'd face the same possibility of complete estrangement. It's surreal sometimes.
I feel sad, and also resolved. While it's a shame that my siblings don't want to talk to me, I decided awhile ago that I'd find a chosen family if need be.
I'm writing this because I simply want to express what's happening in my life to people other than my GF and therapist. I am also curious about other experiences y'all have intentionally coming out to your family, positive neutral and negative, and reasons why if y'all are comfortable sharing.
I am in the process of coming out to my family: telling them I've had sexual experiences with dogs, and my attractions, and sharing my moral perspective on bestiality/zoophilia. I am also sharing with them about how I had lied in the past to my girlfriend about my sexual interest in animals too. My girlfriend, at this point, knows everything about me in this regard. She knows I'm on here as well, and has decided to stay with me for the time being. We've come to our own agreement about how zoosexuality plays into our relationship (or perhaps rather how it won't). I don't think she's fully accepted this about me though. Rather, she has said to me that she's compartmentalized it.
The first person in my family I told was my sister. She was extremely upset by what I shared. I called my brother a week later, and found that my sister had already told him what I wanted to broach myself. He too was extremely upset, and told me that in his view I had committed rape. He told me he didn't want to hear from me except to tell him when I was going to talk to dad.
That's what my sister wrote too in her letter today too. She wrote that from her perspective I had done something that was like raping a child. I haven't had any chance to explain what I think about consent, how it's important to me, and the about experiences I had. My siblings don't want to hear any of it.
I am going to talk to my dad at the end of the month and share everything with him too. I'm absolutely set on doing this. I have wanted to tell my family for a long time. The value of feeling authentic, genuine and free is so much greater than the feelings of falseness I have been experiencing over the past few years. If it means that my family cuts me out, then so be it. I have accepted this.
Estrangement is not new in my family. My mom is estranged from everyone from being emotionally abusive. No-one from my family talks to her, and I know I do not want to because of her abuse. I never thought I'd face the same possibility of complete estrangement. It's surreal sometimes.
I feel sad, and also resolved. While it's a shame that my siblings don't want to talk to me, I decided awhile ago that I'd find a chosen family if need be.
I'm writing this because I simply want to express what's happening in my life to people other than my GF and therapist. I am also curious about other experiences y'all have intentionally coming out to your family, positive neutral and negative, and reasons why if y'all are comfortable sharing.
