How many have you said you are a zoo to

How many

  • None and never will

    Votes: 112 24.8%

  • None but I want too

    Votes: 96 21.2%

  • Only one person

    Votes: 98 21.7%

  • Two people

    Votes: 32 7.1%

  • Three people so far

    Votes: 39 8.6%

  • Four or more

    Votes: 75 16.6%
  • Total voters
    452
I haven't told anyone and I do not plan on telling anyone. It's too delicate a subject to approach anyone on and the possibility of it backfiring is too real, moreso when said backfire could result in a really bad time for you at a personal level.

I am happy there are such trusting people who have done it and had good experiences, but I'd keep life ruining secrets secret and take this one to the grave.
 
Evie said:
How did that go?
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I previously mentioned the lukewarm to positive response from the therapists, but my sis and wife were a bit different. I had been hiding it from my wife for a year plus, and just essentially broke down and told her. She seemed to understand, and she knows I have experience, but so far so good.
My sister was much easier to come out to, I was fully owning zoo as a label for myself, and again she seemed to understood, even though she seems to feel bad for me.
I guess I'm lucky, I'm sure things could've gone a lot worse.
 
Most peoples experiences seem to be going alot more smoothly than I anticipated. I don't know if I live in a judgmental area or if I'm just being too paranoid.
 
FF24 said:
Most peoples experiences seem to be going alot more smoothly than I anticipated. I don't know if I live in a judgmental area or if I'm just being too paranoid.
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There's a lot to be said for social dynamics. I imagine that coming out to a group will always go badly, because everyone is answering based on their expectations of what everyone else wants them to say. Same thing for those snippets you hear around town.

Coming out to individual people can be easier, since they know you and they don't feel pressured into saying hateful things.
 
DogMichael said:
There's a lot to be said for social dynamics. I imagine that coming out to a group will always go badly, because everyone is answering based on their expectations of what everyone else wants them to say. Same thing for those snippets you hear around town.

Coming out to individual people can be easier, since they know you and they don't feel pressured into saying hateful things.
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You must have some truly empathetic and kind heated acquaintances.

From my experience, people are more spiteful and intolerant once they are not in a group because the consequences of acting like a bigot one-on-one is less than in a large group or in public.
 
FF24 said:
You must have some truly empathetic and kind heated acquaintances.

From my experience, people are more spiteful and intolerant once they are not in a group because the consequences of acting like a bigot one-on-one is less than in a large group or in public.
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It goes both ways. If someone is a bigot, you're not going to change that, and you've probably made some kind of mistake in judgement if you come out to them. And you might live in one of those places where 90% of the population either is a bigot or have internalized sexuality as some kind of leftist attack.
 
I haven’t told anyone, but I want to tell my wife. I’m pretty sure she saw either this site or a stories site on my phone since she asked me what bestiality is. I answered her question and added nothing else. She hasn’t brought it up since.

I also think my ex might know or suspect as she, being an Information Systems major, looked at our internet data and said what I was looking at was illegal. I never said anything about it to her and she never said anything about it after that either.
 
DogMichael said:
It goes both ways. If someone is a bigot, you're not going to change that, and you've probably made some kind of mistake in judgement if you come out to them. And you might live in one of those places where 90% of the population either is a bigot or have internalized sexuality as some kind of leftist attack.
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I didn't confess anything to them. I saw what happens when another person confessed he was a "clopper" (a person who gets off to furry porn).

My recent social circle is made up of people who either rant about Leftists and Marxists, or people who are subscribed to toxic virtue signalling channels such as Ready To Glare on Youtube. The latter tends to be even less friendly.

I really need new friends but I don't know anyone else who shares my non-sexual interests or hobbies.
 
I'm... honestly lucky in that regard (if particularly unso for other reasons) in that I was able to safely tell some of my closest friends who've I known most my life. They're a very accepting lot, though, and we all know a lot about each other. One even expressed some interest as well, if not as strong as one. Some were not quite as accepting at first, but over a decade of trust and mutual understanding as friends had them reasuring me that they certainly don't think any less of me for it, even if they're uncomfortable about the concept. I don't feel nearly a tenth as trusting with any of my family with secrets half as serious, though.
 
If you do trust someone in real and have for a very long time, it may be safer to simply "test the waters" with mentioning odd fantasies, without admitting to any acts. Though I know not everyone on the server has tried something. Self doubt and worry certainly has plagued me.
 
I'd really love to tell my wife, I think she may even consider it. But like... it's risky and scary, I don't wanna potentially damage our relationship forever if she isn't.

We're thinking of getting a pup soon though, I'm hoping I can use that as bit of a segue into "testing the waters" if she's interested.
 
nekdoneco123 said:
relationships ended or something worse like trying to hand you to authorities?
feel free to not respond if it feels as too personal of a question
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Nah no authorities involved. It's mostly because if I ever get a public image (which I may because of my job), I'm pretty sure at least two of the people I told will not hesitate to out me.

Also, one of those people was my first serious relationship. Not only will she forever have that direct connection to my adrenal glands, she also left me, in part, because I'm a zoo.
 
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