Feeling of guilt

[knottymelbourne]

Hi Knotty, fellow Melbournite here.

the guilt and shame stuff is familiar to me too. You’re not a bad person for having unconventional desires or for finding ways to meet them; but it can certainly feel that way when you feel forced to keep them secret. And covid has been isolating for us all in a way that makes us extra-reliant on the people around us AND the things that make us feel good.
only you can judge whether there’s a way to safely broach the topic with your partner, but as someone who has crossed that bridge a number of times in my relationships I’d be happy to offer some advice if it’s welcome?

Hi you’re absolutely right about Covid. It’s driving me crazy. It’s also making harder to be alone to feel comfortable. I’m constantly around my partner and constantly around our dog. And constantly horny, and then constantly guilty for sneaking around behind his back in our home. Or locking myself in the bathroom to read/post here.

 

[Aussie Animal Lover]

Hi you’re absolutely right about Covid. It’s driving me crazy. It’s also making harder to be alone to feel comfortable. I’m constantly around my partner and constantly around our dog. And constantly horny, and then constantly guilty for sneaking around behind his back in our home. Or locking myself in the bathroom to read/post here.

sounds like you might just need to bite the bullet and tell him. it sucks to be hiding something from someone you love

 

[MaryesK9]

Hi everyone

Just wondering if anyone else goes through moments of guilt about their fetish? I have moments where I feel really down that I do this behind my partners back, that looking at animal porn is wrong, that Im taking advantage of our dog, it seems to go through varying degrees. Im even sometimes convinced that after I have moments where I am really into it and being really naughty I then have periods of really bad luck, like something bad happens and the universe is punishing me. Which I know is silly, but then I have thoughts of like, is it really?

And then I kind of try to stop, which lasts a week, two, tops, and then Im so horny and so turned on that I take major risks like pretending to go to the kitchen in the middle of the night for a glass of water just so I can let our dog lick me for a few seconds. And I feel so turned on 24/7 and free for a while, and then will have another time where I am guilty again.

Covid lock downs seem to affect it as well. Being home all the time now I am SO turned on I just want to spread my legs for our boy and I want to share it openly with my husband to stop the guilt from setting in but I am so scared, yet horny.

It's just a constant up and down of wanting it, wanting acceptance, to being ashamed, to trying to ignore it, to then being so turned on I cant think of anything else and can not control it.

Sometimes I think I am going crazy

Early moments of feeling some shame that have since departed. For awhile, I knew I was allowing access to often during the week, but the guilt or shame only fell on me after he pulled out and I still had needs... Sprint ahead three years and I was seldom left unsatisfied and rarely felt shame or guilt.
Still wonder once in awhile how difficult things could get if our secret affair with the dogs was ever exposed. The Covid response seems to be fairly normal and quite common....

 

[ausdoglover27]

Hi from a fellow Aussie
I used to feel guilty but have come to accept its who i am doesn't make it any easier

 

[HahaCuteDoggo]

I've had several chances to gently explore with dogs, one a very loving and friendly but clipped male and a shy but affectionate intact female, but every time I would be too nervous and guilty about what I was going to do, so I never did much beyond cumming onto the floor in front of the girl dog. Nowadays I feel guilty I never took the chance to experience even seeing how they feel if I were to touch them. Even that last sentence feels creepy after typing it, lol... I'm in hell haha

 

[HahaCuteDoggo]

I never feel guilt about the fetish. The only times I'll feel guilt is when I tread into the territory of addiction. Then I'll step away and abstain, get really horny and that absolves all the guilt. Nothing in itself wrong with enjoying animal porn, animal sex, or even doing it behind your partners back in my opinion. Its an animal. It doesn't count as cheating. Its also completely understandable why you're not being open with them about it. And you would only be taking advantage of the dog if this was non consensual and I don't think that's what you're doing. I say just keep enjoying your little secret guilt free.

Yeah, overall I feel less guilt now than I did then. Now it's more like, I really want to play with and enjoy physical connection with other animals and dealing with all those kinds of feelings, you know

 

[HahaCuteDoggo]

Im not sure I do. You mean just managing the urges?

Managing them while aware I'm not in an easy position to play and experiment safely I suppose.

 

[newdestzoo]

Sometimes when I'm super horny I can get kind of freaky and that has made me examine myself. Also I have felt bad when I get off 5 or more times in a day, no matter how I do it.

I think if I was actually a bad person though I'd have to be hurting something else. I usually stick to jacking off and letting a dog lick me while I do. Also all my dogs totally want to mount me when I I let them, so what's the real harm? I am definitely weird, but I am not manipulating a woman's feeling to get into bed with them, then leaving them when I get what I want. Not caring about the affect this has on them for instance. That is more normal than letting a dog eat you out but there's no real harm in this last scenario.

 

[RGT]

The best thing to that I found which helps, is a partner that is into it and understands...

Sadly, most of us are unable to find a partner into it, especially for guys that are straight. Not enough women on here and it is hard for a guy to out himself to his GF in hopes she is also into it, while chancing she is not and will turn him in.

I am thankful I have no guilt over giving my stallions an orgasm using my ass.

 

[Anubis83]

well, guilt is usually part of the cycle in any out of the accepted norm human behavior, it's also relative to what kind of restrictions are imposed on your society, for an example if you were born in a country that legalizes weed... you will never feel the guilt of a conservatively raised religious person who occassionally takes a couple of puffs

 

[RGT]

well, guilt is usually part of the cycle in any out of the accepted norm human behavior, it's also relative to what kind of restrictions are imposed on your society, for an example if you were born in a country that legalizes weed... you will never feel the guilt of a conservatively raised religious person who occassionally takes a couple of puffs

I disagree. Guilt is tied to a person's personality.
Zoophilia is illegal in every state I have ever lived in, however I have never felt any guilt over having sex with animals, despite it is not the norm.
Having sex with an animal does not harm anyone, does not harm the animal etc., so why should I feel guilty.

Now, if I was to do something during sex to accidentally hurt an animal (like someone having sex with an animal that is too small, too young, resisting and they try to force etc.), then I would feel guilt. But when I let my stallions hump me up the butt, none of those things happen, so there is absolutely no reason for me to feel guilt, and thus, I don't!

 

[Anubis83]

I disagree. Guilt is tied to a person's personality.
Zoophilia is illegal in every state I have ever lived in, however I have never felt any guilt over having sex with animals, despite it is not the norm.
Having sex with an animal does not harm anyone, does not harm the animal etc., so why should I feel guilty.

Now, if I was to do something during sex to accidentally hurt an animal (like someone having sex with an animal that is too small, too young, resisting and they try to force etc.), then I would feel guilt. But when I let my stallions hump me up the butt, none of those things happen, so there is absolutely no reason for me to feel guilt, and thus, I don't!

All I'm saying is that guilt is relative to ones limit of taboos, what someone sees as a taboo someone else might not... guilt about something is just a reflection of the inner convection about that thing

 

[Anja123]

I'm always rather passive / submissive if I let a dog mount me (F35), and never force him to do anything. If I then feel how keen he is to hump me and have his way, I don't think he's suffering from the experience. Also, as soon as I start offering myself to my dog, he gets really excited and can't wait to jump me. That are not signs of a dog that is suffering from the experience, quite the opposite. So, I don't feel guilty.

 

[Tie-fighter]

I'm always rather passive / submissive if I let a dog mount me (F35), and never force him to do anything. If I then feel how keen he is to hump me and have his way, I don't think he's suffering from the experience. Also, as soon as I start offering myself to my dog, he gets really excited and can't wait to jump me. That are not signs of a dog that is suffering from the experience, quite the opposite. So, I don't feel guilty.

You must feel incredible to him if he can't wait to be inside you.

 

[Knottykid]

I might feel bit guilty after I cummed from zoo play but it goes away pretty quick.

 

[Splashgirlx]

I've suffered cheaters guilt for years, but even when it's really bad and you close everything down, you open it all up after a month or two. It's part of who you are and you shouldn't feel guilty about that x

 

[SheepieSheepie666]

I've been struggling with how to cope with the shame I feel attached to my "Preferences" (Sheep, goats, horses, most hooved or barnyard animals besides pigs and cows). I hate that I'm into this sort of thing at all, and I've never really reached out to like minded people about it either. I've never acted on these urges, and idk if I ever will. I can handle hiding it (my gf and my family don't know, and they never will.) There's times where I can't even looking at myself. Most of the time I just ignore it or suppress it. I don't keep a journal, but I make artwork as a way to vent, and this is my first time on the forum.

What are ways that could possibly help with the guilt?

 

[humananimal]

I don’t know whether it helps. Somehow I am the other way round. I have always had this desire, cows and sows, and on our farm at home, I fucked them as often as possible. To me it was natural. The cows liked to be fucked and I desired her that much too.
Nobody knew about it (I think). Strangely I newer felt shame or guilt in this religious home.
You have never done it, just the desire. Can’t advice much. If you actually do it at some time, the problems will maybe chance.
But maybe you find it is awful and feel worse for what you have done. Or you like it, and then what do you feel then ?

 

[FoxandtheHounds]

Well first off welcome to the forum! Secondly, I will say this nicely since some here might not, there is a plethora of information you can find here using the search function. Including threads where others talk about some guilt they might feel or have felt about their love for animals. Though I do understand everyone has a unique situation. But, reading through those other threads could help because we do not know much about you or your exact situation.

With that out of the way, beings I don't know much about your situation or plans I can only offer limited advice. You have to ask yourself where your guilt is actually coming from. Are you feeling that way because of what others might think? Your family or girlfriend maybe? What exactly are the "urges" you speak of? You don't intend to do anything harmful right? If you love the animals you desire and treat them with respect and the care they deserve then you should not feel guilty for that. But, you have to get to what's actually bothering you about your attractions. Also if you've never acted on these "urges" there's even less reason for you to feel guilty. As long as your "urges" are along the lines of having those critters well being in mind. Cannot emphasize that enough. I cannot give any other advice before knowing your full intentions.

 

[SheepieSheepie666]

Well first off welcome to the forum! Secondly, I will say this nicely since some here might not, there is a plethora of information you can find here using the search function. Including threads where others talk about some guilt they might feel or have felt about their love for animals. Though I do understand everyone has a unique situation. But, reading through those other threads could help because we do not know much about you or your exact situation.

With that out of the way, beings I don't know much about your situation or plans I can only offer limited advice. You have to ask yourself where your guilt is actually coming from. Are you feeling that way because of what others might think? Your family or girlfriend maybe? What exactly are the "urges" you speak of? You don't intend to do anything harmful right? If you love the animals you desire and treat them with respect and the care they deserve then you should not feel guilty for that. But, you have to get to what's actually bothering you about your attractions. Also if you've never acted on these "urges" there's even less reason for you to feel guilty. As long as your "urges" are along the lines of having those critters well being in mind. Cannot emphasize that enough. I cannot give any other advice before knowing your full intentions.

Thanks for welcoming me
Maybe I should elaborate a bit more
I don't wanna do anything harmful to the animals, I'm no zoosadist or anything like that
I have strong desires to become intimate with a sheep or horse, I've wanted this since I was like 13 tbh
I've dealt with these conflicting emotions for years. Sheep, horses, goats, I find them very attractive. My gf and I trash on zoos a lot (that's my "cover" lolol), and she'd for sure leave my ass if she found out
I love her so much, but this is something she absolutely cannot find out about me. It'd ruin us.

These desires are very powerful, a few occasions I've gotten depressed because I haven't been able to do what I really wanna do

I find these animals (sheep, goats, horses, so on) very beautiful, and I would do nothing but love and care for one if I were to ever have one.
My guilt comes from knowing how frowned upon these desires are. I know for a fact my gf and a lot of my family would drop me in a heartbeat
I keep all my "interesting" pics on an encrypted SD card and hide it in a drawer.

Hopefully that helps some. I'd love to meet friends here so dms are welcomed-
Thank you

 

[Daneζ]

Let me start by saying welcome to the community!

These feeling of guilt that you are feeling are not uncommon. Many people on here feel the same way that you do, especially when they are first starting out. But there is nothing to be ashamed of. It is perfect heathy to be attracted to our four legged friends, whether you act on those attractions or not is your choice. I personally could not live happily, and would be deeply depressed as you stated, if I tried to suppress my zoo side. Having sex with animals is not a bad thing, as long as you always put the animals wants and needs first. Contrary to popular belief, mutually enjoyable interspecies sex is possible. I hope this helps, and if you have any other questions, feel free to ask!

 

[Porky]

What are ways that could possibly help with the guilt?

I dunno why you're feeling guilty about it; you haven't done anything other than fantasizing about it. If you want help with that, go talk with a shrink.

Alternately, buy your gf a spring lamb fur coat and make her wear it while you take her from behind. Bonus points if you get her to baaaa.

 

[ryirkil]

My gf and I trash on zoos a lot (that's my "cover" lolol), and she'd for sure leave my ass if she found out
I love her so much, but this is something she absolutely cannot find out about me. It'd ruin us.

It makes sense to feel guilt if you have to "trash" on yourself in public. Probably not the only factor. Support group can help, feel free to make friends here.

I keep all my "interesting" pics on an encrypted SD card and hide it in a drawer.

Hopefully that helps some.

Watch out for thumbnails. Not likely anyone will find them without purposefully searching for evidence but still, good to keep in mind.

 

[Erja]

Hi you’re absolutely right about Covid. It’s driving me crazy. It’s also making harder to be alone to feel comfortable. I’m constantly around my partner and constantly around our dog. And constantly horny, and then constantly guilty for sneaking around behind his back in our home. Or locking myself in the bathroom to read/post here.

Maybe bringing up the matter, as by accident. Just to see his reaction to the subject. Be carefull, it can breat up your marriage if he opposess to it.

 

[Erja]

We joke about it which leaves me confused. We have a peculiar sense of humor though so I really can’t tell.

Didnt read this one, i can understand your confusion.
I think its hard to admit to a partner if you dont know his real feelings about it. He wont admit it just as you wont.
Maybe , as by accident let out a wow if you see a dog mate, Might catch his attention

 

[theobserver]

@knottymelbourne,

everything you have written is totally understandable. You want your husband to fully accept you as you are, with your kinks and everything. You want to be able to share that part of your sexuality with him, and not to have to constantly hide it. Not knowing where you stand with him regarding this issue is what is causing you such tension - you want to fully enjoy you k9 but there is this shadow of a doubt of how your husband would react. I hope you'll find a solution and thread carefully - try to find how feels about it in small steps. Read with him a sex story which features some k9 action or share with him a one page comic with this theme.

 

[WanneBee]

Constantly. Even with the "acceptance" rising I still have fallbacks where I feel incredibly guilty and terrible for it and wish I would have never started opening up about it.
But I have to be honest with myself and my feelings, it will be much healthier that way in the end.

 

[Wstrngrts]

We joke about it which leaves me confused. We have a peculiar sense of humor though so I really can’t tell.

Lots of time joking is a way that many people approach very sensitive topics. I'm not out to my spouse, but I'd like to be. I do however make sure our dog is in our room - our bed, during sex. I want my wife to see that he's part of my life too. she loves the dog, he's devoted to her, and if he had his way he'd lick her all the time. She's hesitant to let him. There's been an occasion or two, where she's seen him, sniff and lick me after we've had sex. When she asked, I quipped, well I guess we're all part of the pack.

Let the discussion flow into more shared moments where the dog is with both of you. Who knows, your husband may be less opposed to it than you think if he's joking about it...

 

[Foxhound03]

I have been feeling unbearably guilty today. I was holding my dad's dog the other night, and she sniffed at my crotch. I was already very aroused by the thought of her licking me, so I gathered my wetness onto my finger and offered it to her to see if she would be down. She immediately licked it up, so I spread myself out for her. She sniffed me, and she continued licking me indirectly off my finger, but seemed very nervous when she got near my groin. So, I did the most disgusting thing I could've and used peanut butter to coax her there. I feel awful, I took advantage of an innocent being. Sorry, this turned into more of a vent than anything but goddamn I feel gross

 

[Curiosity21]

I have been feeling unbearably guilty today. I was holding my dad's dog the other night, and she sniffed at my crotch. I was already very aroused by the thought of her licking me, so I gathered my wetness onto my finger and offered it to her to see if she would be down. She immediately licked it up, so I spread myself out for her. She sniffed me, and she continued licking me indirectly off my finger, but seemed very nervous when she got near my groin. So, I did the most disgusting thing I could've and used peanut butter to coax her there. I feel awful, I took advantage of an innocent being. Sorry, this turned into more of a vent than anything but goddamn I feel gross

No need to feel gross. You weren’t forcing her or mistreating her. You were just showing her that what she wanted was okay with you. It was up to her whether she went there or not.