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Feeling of guilt

Honestly? If youre getting serious feelings of guilt and its affecting your day to day life and your own mental health (which it sounds like it is since you decided to make this topic), then my biggest recommendation would be to take a break. You need to clear your head and really think about what being a zoophile means to you and about whether your own feelings towards zoophilia is really worth it to risk you and your husband's relationship (or even your relationship with your dog). Ideally, you would probably want to disclose it to your husband since bottling up emotions is a big no no (trust me).

I left this site for a good while and it gave me the exact break and clearance of the mind that I needed. A moment to reflect on how you really feel, without the biased emotion from constantly logging onto ZooVille.

Atleast thats my two cents lol. I hope you feel better soon <3
 
It's animotional roller coaster just due to the "taboo" nature of this fetish. But until you are able to admit it to yourself and accept yourself for it you will be in this constant battle.
 
Guilt is normal, but sometimes it is the price for doing what you need. I do not believe you need to confess and if you do is it just to make yourself feel better and transfer the burden to your spouse. I have led secret life by choice, and sure, there are moments of guilt but i own them. You will come to grips with the secrets and sometimes its just better that way.
 
Smokin5150 said:
Guilt is normal, but sometimes it is the price for doing what you need. I do not believe you need to confess and if you do is it just to make yourself feel better and transfer the burden to your spouse. I have led secret life by choice, and sure, there are moments of guilt but i own them. You will come to grips with the secrets and sometimes its just better that way.
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I was just meaning confessing to thereself.
 
sarahsingletono98 said:
I not only felt guilty I felt ashamed and embarrassed for the longest time. It took a lot of self awareness and a several years to come to grasps with it and wasn’t until I meet some others in the lifestyle that I started to feel like I was not alone. This site and similar have tremendously
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You shouldn't feel guilt at all. You are a wonderful woman
 
I used to say I didn't care about what society thinks, but over the decades have come to view that as a major simplification of how I feel. I don't feel active negative emotions, but they are there under the surface to gnaw away at me. It's taken a toll. Societal programming is difficult to reject in its entirety. For anybody who is truly free of this, I am envious. Then again, like I was, maybe you are in denial. Logically, if you are a good person and am sensitive to consent issues, you should be okay.
 
knottymelbourne said:
Hi everyone

Just wondering if anyone else goes through moments of guilt about their fetish? I have moments where I feel really down that I do this behind my partners back, that looking at animal porn is wrong, that Im taking advantage of our dog, it seems to go through varying degrees. Im even sometimes convinced that after I have moments where I am really into it and being really naughty I then have periods of really bad luck, like something bad happens and the universe is punishing me. Which I know is silly, but then I have thoughts of like, is it really?

And then I kind of try to stop, which lasts a week, two, tops, and then Im so horny and so turned on that I take major risks like pretending to go to the kitchen in the middle of the night for a glass of water just so I can let our dog lick me for a few seconds. And I feel so turned on 24/7 and free for a while, and then will have another time where I am guilty again.

Covid lock downs seem to affect it as well. Being home all the time now I am SO turned on I just want to spread my legs for our boy and I want to share it openly with my husband to stop the guilt from setting in but I am so scared, yet horny.

It's just a constant up and down of wanting it, wanting acceptance, to being ashamed, to trying to ignore it, to then being so turned on I cant think of anything else and can not control it.

Sometimes I think I am going crazy
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Hanna(InZooWeLove) said:
You are not alone it's true. Each time i was with a dog it felt wrong but so hot too, i have been excited before it and deep down in mood after but still couldn't help but imagined next time. Felt so dirty and naughty, but somehow loved it. Ups and downs are regular. I'd say if you take a good care of your dog and provide him what he now needs - in terms of human love, then you are doing a good thing. Right?
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I think I have finally come to turns . Like poster said I would try to stay away but my desires always brought me back. It was like a bad role coaster ride
 
For a lot a zoos like myself its not a fetish its a sexual orientation, like being attracted to any certain type of human being. The guilt, if you really study it closely, is often from socially instilled viewpoints about non human species, the ideas that we are raised with such as they are separate from us. They are dirty. They are lesser beings and by having sexual relations with them you are degrading yourself, making yourself less human. That it's "just wrong" or "bad" and by doing it you're wrong and bad. Bad human, bad! lol Its such bs. Society's norms and the laws and "ethics" around being zoo is mostly based around the damage that zoosadists have caused and the rest is all just nebulous, illogical kneejerk emotional reactions by uneducated, judgemental, biased, bigoted people who just follow social norms like the sheep that they are (no offense intended to sheep or their lovers?). When we zoos realize all of that is total bs, and we begin to live our lives on our own terms rather than being led like the ?, then we are able to live authentically within our own lives, comfortable in our own skin, knowing we are not "wrong" for who we love. As long as it's consensual.
 
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When I was in a relationship with a woman I felt guilty because I couldn't satisfy her. My male dogs took care of my needs, not leaving room for another person in my sexual life. I made her suffer unnecessarily. That's the only guilt or regret I have regarding my zoo life. More than guilt, what I think the
most about is how much better my life would have been if I was "normal", with wife and kids...
 
I always feel guilty at the amount of sex I have. Im a true "pansexual" which a term people really need to stop using . Im attracted to male female trans and zoo. I used to think it was normal to be fine with sex with many different people but for a lot its strange. Bisexual is a nice term but it doesn't include zoo. I could go on It's impossible for me to be faithful. I have yet to be in a stationary relationship. I have left orgies guilty, like after eating a big meal and feeling tired. But I always get hungry again...

I just do my thing in the shadows and keep it moving...
 
When I first started mating animals, it was pure horny need, I would be so overwhelmingly horny, being the age I was, that I couldn't control my lust, and would end up raping a poor ewe. That was always followed by a deep sense of guilt and regret. This was long before the internet, so I thought I was the only person in the world that did this.
As I grew up, I learnt to control myself a bit better, but would still have moments of weakness, where I would end up taking a ewe or heifer for my own gratification. Even now I am filled with regret and remorse for my behaviour, not for the zooness of it, but for the forcefull raping that I inflicted on these harmless, lovely creatures.
These days I am very active with various loves, but there is a major difference in that I dont force my lovers to do anything they dont want to do, if they want to make love, we make love if they dont we dont, and I dont have an ounce of guilt or self loathing for living this way. I just wish I knew as a kid what I know now, but I guess that is why there is a term "young and stupid "
 
In my experience of beeing zoo I stumbled upon a problem of feeling enormous guilt. I didn't do anything bad. Logicly I wouldn't even be doing anything bad by loving the animal, but here I am with serious problem. I cannot withstand myself beeing zoo. Every time I get heated up and end up having bit of "private zoo searching" I feel taking blame for something unmoral.

Is this something common?
Can you get rid of that?
How do I convice myself I am not hurting anyone?
Are there like zoo psychologist?(I cannot tell anyone obviously)
 
69woofwoof69 said:
I totally understand where you’re coming from. Having to accept that shadow side of your soul in order to come into balance.
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Yeah, but how do I accept that shadow.
Problem is that I know everything is morally okay, but I still feel weight of coulture I was risen in. It's the coulture that I'm used to that makes me feel terrible. Coulture says that zoo people are degenerates and I still feel inside like it's true even tho I know otherwise.
 
Donea said:
In my experience of beeing zoo I stumbled upon a problem of feeling enormous guilt. I didn't do anything bad. Logicly I wouldn't even be doing anything bad by loving the animal, but here I am with serious problem. I cannot withstand myself beeing zoo. Every time I get heated up and end up having bit of "private zoo searching" I feel taking blame for something unmoral.

Is this something common?
Can you get rid of that?
How do I convice myself I am not hurting anyone?
Are there like zoo psychologist?(I cannot tell anyone obviously)
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It is common for new zoos. I would say most of us went through something like this.
You can get over that by accepting you are not like the others. :D

What do you actually do that you have to convince yourself you are not hurting anyone?

I doubt a zoo psychologist will help you accept you are into animals. That is not what the average normal Joe should be like, so you would likely be pressed to give up and turn into a normal human.
 
pes said:
It is common for new zoos. I would say most of us went through something like this.
You can get over that by accepting you are not like the others. :D

What do you actually do that you have to convince yourself you are not hurting anyone?

I doubt a zoo psychologist will help you accept you are into animals. That is not what the average normal Joe should be like, so you would likely be pressed to give up and turn into a normal human.
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At least im not the only one with that problem. TwT
I've never done anything bad to animal. I never even had sexual contact with any cause I felt thats bad. The problem is that i feel like having any sexual relation with animal is like hurting it. I would be scared of doing any harm to any animal by some horny fantasies and also I feel bad while simply watching porn.
 
What helped me to come to terms with being zoo is quite simply asking myself why do I feel in a certain way.
Donea said:
The problem is that i feel like having any sexual relation with animal is like hurting it.
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Why? What makes you think that?
Donea said:
I would be scared of doing any harm to any animal by some horny fantasies
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A part of being a zoophile and having an animal partner is the realization that you have to adapt to what the animal can give you, not the other way around. Put simply if the animal does not like something or does not do something, you have to accept that and focus on the stuff you can do.
Donea said:
also I feel bad while simply watching porn.
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What porn do you watch and why does it make you feel bad? Can you switch to some other porn like yiff art for example. Would that help?
 
pes said:
Why? What makes you think that?

A part of being a zoophile and having an animal partner is the realization that you have to adapt to what the animal can give you, not the other way around. Put simply if the animal does not like something or does not do something, you have to accept that and focus on the stuff you can do.

What porn do you watch and why does it make you feel bad? Can you switch to some other porn like yiff art for example. Would that help?
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I just feel wrong cause of coulture. It's the thing that is hard to get rid of. Knowing that for moast of people something is morally wrong is making it stressfull to do.(far right christian background)

I know how to addapt to animal and stuff. I used to have a few accounts here already, but I abandomed them cause I fealt guilt. I still have that bit of knowleadge. I'm scared that even tho I know what to do I'm gonna do something bad or I might just end not reading the animal correctly or I just might be wrong all along and it's bad for real

I just watch some stuff that I find here. I find comercial stuff a bit artificial and not arrousing. I have e621 account for years already, but it's not the same as real videos. They give expierience on a different level. Problem is again the stress of beeing other than the rest of people around me. It goes like that that I always after having fun I have thoughts that I done that again and what terrible I'am.
 
Donea said:
I just feel wrong cause of coulture. It's the thing that is hard to get rid of. Knowing that for moast of people something is morally wrong is making it stressfull to do.(far right christian background)
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Most people are not you, are they? Most people will never know what you do in your own room.
I am not going to attempt to reason with the religious part of the problem. I have done that a few times on this forum and it does not lead anywhere. But if the religion is the source of your feelings of guilt, you can absolutely find more than one excuse in your holy book to get around that.

I would suggest diving into the problem of why you think being different is wrong and deconstructing it to the very basics. Then reconsidering whether bothering yourself with it is worth the stress or not.
 
pes said:
Most people are not you, are they? Most people will never know what you do in your own room.
I am not going to attempt to reason with the religious part of the problem. I have done that a few times on this forum and it does not lead anywhere. But if the religion is the source of your feelings of guilt, you can absolutely find more than one excuse in your holy book to get around that.

I would suggest diving into the problem of why you think being different is wrong and deconstructing it to the very basics. Then reconsidering whether bothering yourself with it is worth the stress or not.
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I'm not christian or anything I just were told by chistians what is good and bad and now I'm fighting with my own moral compass that is build on wrong assumptions.
EDIT: I mean it's not moral compass, but conscience
 
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Donea said:
Are there like zoo psychologist?(I cannot tell anyone obviously)
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You might want to read Understanding bestiality and zoophilia by Hani Miletski - available even here as pdf.
She is psychologist who studied zoophilia and wrote a book about it.
She has an email and seems to be friendly. She might even recommend some therapist to you if you ask her.

But in all cases you are going to have to do the work yourself. A therapist could help you by asking the right questions or giving the right examples, but you yourself will have to want to help yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else and only you can fight with your own head. There is no magic pill that solves these problems.
This might be a pretty touch fight since it will force you to think about things you may be avoiding.
 
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pes said:
You might want to read Understanding zoophilia and bestiality by Hani Miletski - available even here as pdf.
She is psychologist who studied zoophilia and wrote a book about it.
She has an email and seems to be friendly. She might even recommend some therapist to you if you ask her.

But in all cases you are going to have to do the work yourself. A therapist could help you by asking the right questions or giving the right examples, but you yourself will have to want to help yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else and only you can fight with your own head. There is no magic pill that solves these problems.
This might be a pretty touch fight since it will force you to think about things you may be avoiding.
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YES FINALLY!!!
That book gonna help me a lot. I was just looking for something like this. I mean I could get into articels & blog tab, but I could not find there anything that was intresting enought for me. With tiny exeption for podcasts.
 

A collection of studies on zoophilia

I have collected a number or studies, books and articles dealing with zoophilia over the past years. So here I would like to share them with whoever is interested.
www.zoovilleforum.net www.zoovilleforum.net
Here you go. :D
Includes the book in comment 3.
 
Donea said:
Yeah, but how do I accept that shadow.
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start by simply not calling it "a shadow"... there's nothing dark or shadowy about having feelings for others despite their species.
can't really help much beyond that. i never felt any guilt... why would i? it's a part of me i had no control over, i didn't "choose" to be a zoo. do you feel guilty about your eye color? or what your dominant arm is?
 
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