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What's Your Biggest Barrier To Meeting Others

IcerMora said:
My biggest hold up about meeting someone is the fear of being known, both in a vulnerable sense and also in a 'what if I'm being set up' sense. Especially in regards to zoo stuff. I'm also shy and awkward. I can talk a big game online and posture, but when it becomes real life I end up losing all of my confidence
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this is the problem i run into. its a bit annoying. but i use fake names and never use my real number. if you dont take measure to protect yourself then no one will. no face no case. but me personally i dont care about who someone is outside of the zoo world its strictly to fulfill our zoo fantasies and then leave until we schedule to do it agian. nothing more to it.
 
AirBender101 said:
this is the problem i run into. its a bit annoying. but i use fake names and never use my real number. if you dont take measure to protect yourself then no one will. no face no case. but me personally i dont care about who someone is outside of the zoo world its strictly to fulfill our zoo fantasies and then leave until we schedule to do it agian. nothing more to it.
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Works well till you have to give an address lol defeats the purpose of the secrecy.

Doesn’t apply if you bring your dog somewhere, but somewhat mandatory for horses.
 
kyhorse said:
Works well till you have to give an address lol defeats the purpose of the secrecy.

Doesn’t apply if you bring your dog somewhere, but somewhat mandatory for horses.
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yeah but at that point if your sharing address then you built enough trust to know they are not gonna do anything. me i meet up with them at their place or a place we agree to meet up at. its not that hard.

some people overthink things. but agian if you you don't truat them then dont give your address. i vet people pretty well and have never had an issue. Just people who don't really follow through sometimes because they become scared. but luckily ive gotten the chance to have a few experiences that were great.

also you can rent a hotel ive done that a few times.
 
AirBender101 said:
yeah but at that point if your sharing address then you built enough trust to know they are not gonna do anything. me i meet up with them at their place or a place we agree to meet up at. its not that hard.

some people overthink things. but agian if you you don't truat them then dont give your address. i vet people pretty well and have never had an issue. Just people who don't really follow through sometimes because they become scared. but luckily ive gotten the chance to have a few experiences that were great.

also you can rent a hotel ive done that a few times.
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They tend to object to a 1300lb stallion in their rooms 😆
 
I honestly don't think it's something I'd want to share with anyone, really in any capacity, regardless of safety or whatever. Ick factor is through the roof for me personally.

I actually don't think I'd mind just meeting to like, chill or whatever though. Probably a pretty bad risk/reward going on there though so pretty unlikely.
 
The primary reason and my largest barrier to meeting others is just me being shy, not taking the initiative to send that initial message if there's somebody I see on the forum I feel I'd really get along with. It's something I've worked on this year (hence me finally coming out of my shell and getting more active on here) and I'm glad I did it tbh. Met a couple wonderful people in the past few months, one of which I now consider a good friend, and I finally feel like I'm breaking down myself inflicted barrier.
 
bc161 said:
Yesssss. Good for you, that's really fucking awesome.

"Above all, you must first beat yourself"
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Thanks dude, I truly appreciate that comment ❤️

It's honestly been a fucking battle. However I made a promise to myself that 2025 will be a year of discomfort, where I push myself to do things outside my comfort zone and it's paid off huge so far.

Too many amazing people out there, even within this community, that I've missed making connections with due to my own timidness, and just felt that needed to end
 
Danelvr said:
Thanks dude, I truly appreciate that comment ❤️

It's honestly been a fucking battle. However I made a promise to myself that 2025 will be a year of discomfort, where I push myself to do things outside my comfort zone and it's paid off huge so far.

Too many amazing people out there, even within this community, that I've missed making connections with due to my own timidness, and just felt that needed to end
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I hear you brother. I'm trying to get better and be better and people doing the same is getting me so hyped lately. Appreciate you putting out good vibes homie, be well.
 
I am finding it difficult to simply make new IRL friends, period. People in general don't seem that available in different ways for different reasons. I'm not even available how I want to be all the time though either due to my own stuff. I don't really have much room or energy for a social life right now. I really miss having a deep in person connection to someone. I have felt rather lonely and isolated lately. : (
 
Been thinking a lot about this question all day (came across it this morning while on break at work). I'll include a couple other reasons I feel are barriers to meeting others through this forum, and within the community itself.

One smaller worry in the back of my mind is the worry of being setup when eventually meeting with others. I'm not overly concerned with it, as I do vet people and ensure that when we do meet it is somewhere public, no animals, and taking all necessary precautions (the guidelines on this forum are sage advice). But there's always that little voice in the back of my mind saying, "what if?". Moreso concerned with local furries who are looking to out furs that are into zoo over anything else. I do love taking part within the local furry community and I'd hate to have that come to an end.

And lastly, one other barrier for me personally is simply the fact I am not currently an owner. I really can't blame those who are owners and are reluctant on meeting up with those who aren't. As a previous owner I fully understand the hesitation, and the risk on meeting up via forums such as this. Back when I had my Corso in the 2010's I truly felt that there was not a snowballs chance in hell I'd let anyone I meet through forums such as this to experience anything of a zoo related nature with her. I do find that it's sad and mildly frustrating to me that the amount of people looking for an experience at the owner's expense has really made it difficult for those like myself who wish to make genuine connections with others on the forum here
 
Danelvr said:
Been thinking a lot about this question all day (came across it this morning while on break at work). I'll include a couple other reasons I feel are barriers to meeting others through this forum, and within the community itself.

One smaller worry in the back of my mind is the worry of being setup when eventually meeting with others. I'm not overly concerned with it, as I do vet people and ensure that when we do meet it is somewhere public, no animals, and taking all necessary precautions (the guidelines on this forum are sage advice). But there's always that little voice in the back of my mind saying, "what if?". Moreso concerned with local furries who are looking to out furs that are into zoo over anything else. I do love taking part within the local furry community and I'd hate to have that come to an end.

And lastly, one other barrier for me personally is simply the fact I am not currently an owner. I really can't blame those who are owners and are reluctant on meeting up with those who aren't. As a previous owner I fully understand the hesitation, and the risk on meeting up via forums such as this. Back when I had my Corso in the 2010's I truly felt that there was not a snowballs chance in hell I'd let anyone I meet through forums such as this to experience anything of a zoo related nature with her. I do find that it's sad and mildly frustrating to me that the amount of people looking for an experience at the owner's expense has really made it difficult for those like myself who wish to make genuine connections with others on the forum here
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Another reason why I only really talk to other owners, it removes that element out of it, and when both have equal skin in the game it ensures a bit more stability.
 
IcerMora said:
My biggest hold up about meeting someone is the fear of being known, both in a vulnerable sense and also in a 'what if I'm being set up' sense. Especially in regards to zoo stuff. I'm also shy and awkward. I can talk a big game online and posture, but when it becomes real life I end up losing all of my confidence
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you're fine. everyone is shy at first
 
It’s definitely a trust thing for me . Cape Town is a small city and I’ve only found one really good mate I chat to regularly. As a new owner I’m also very wary of who want to meet purely just to try my girl. Being on the other side of the coin I understand- to have this incredible urge to be intimate but you have no idea of how to find your community or where to start.
 
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