I wanted to quit this fetish, but I can't!

Everyone (almost) has some form of a fetish. Various greatly on what level they are on. But rest assured majority have something. The only criteria I feel you should go by is are you hurting anyone else regarding your fetish. If not, love yourself and embrace it. Its only that fetishes are such hush hush that you feel it's wrong or feel bad, when it's more common than not. I am lucky enough to have a partner with same interest but I can definitely see how lonely it could feel and make anyone feel bad not having that support. If it hurts no one else. What's the harm. don't overthink this!
 
daikon_radd said:
If it's something that you actually want to rid yourself of, then I'd say to seek therapy. Therapists have almost 100% confidentiality and can only share what you talk about if you mention having a plan to hurt or kill another person, and they can only tell that person. So that's someone you could talk to about your history with this fetish without any fear of legal action, and they would try to help you rewire your brain to not be into this. If you want to keep doing this, then just keep on. This is a community where you can be open about it and we all feel the same. You could always go from one to the other, and neither would judge you for it.
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I second that a professional will help you simply accept things better than people here can. They are discreet and only there to help. But I doubt you can rid yourself of it anymore than a gay can therapy themselves into straight. Just my humble opinion. Wish you all the best.
 
JessiaJ said:
Awww, it must been hard for you too. And I'm sure it wasn't easy to accept everything that's happening around you too I guess?

Everytime I try to accept this, I feel like religious factors blocks it. What should I do hmm
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Aye. That it was. Funny enough I think accepting myself for being gay was harder than this. Probably because beastiality isn't something that's mentioned so I never heard of people's prejudices.

My parents are very religious (but clearly not as much as some people) and just... everything kind of pushed religion away from my life. Guess I call myself agnostic now. Just my story. Not trying to tell you not be religious or anything.

I can't say I feel better or worse moving my hatred of myself towards more deserving people, but at least I feel happy with who I am.
 
JessiaJ said:
Awww, it must been hard for you too. And I'm sure it wasn't easy to accept everything that's happening around you too I guess?

Everytime I try to accept this, I feel like religious factors blocks it. What should I do hmm
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Religions are filled with do’s and don’ts . Who can follow them all? No one can that’s why there is forgiveness, you are judged by your heart. Not one of us is perfect. You are causing no harm to anyone…. I’d say there’s a lot worse hateful, harmful acts in this world…. I was active in church three times a week for many years, and this still never went away. Someone very close to me is very active in church and is gay. He says he was born and made that way it wasn’t a choice. Most would say that is a religious strike against him, but again it’s judge by his heart. That’s why I have accepted I am made the way I am made..
 
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just_do_it said:
Religions are filled with do’s and don’ts . Who can follow them all? No one can that’s why there is forgiveness, you are judged by your heart. Not one of us is perfect. You are causing no harm to anyone…. I’d say there’s a lot worse hateful, harmful acts in this world…. I was active in church three times a week for many years, and this still never went away. Someone very close to me is very active in church and is gay. He says he was born and made that way it wasn’t a choice. Most would say that is a religious strike against him, but again it’s judge by his heart. That’s why I have accepted I am made the way I am made..
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I like this thought, I wish my parents felt this way
 
JessiaJ said:
I wish I was as strong as you to just accept this in the soonest time.
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Definitely don't be hard on yourself, acceptance doesn't always happen over night.

JessiaJ said:
The joy is just unexplainable, but I'm trying to get the negative thoughts out of the way. Any advice? Like should I do it often so I get used to this lifestyle?
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I think you should go at your own pace and explore things how you feel most comfortable. There's absolutely nothing wrong if you ultimately decide this isn't for you, since you should never feel you have to force yourself into a lifestyle that isn't making you completely happy.
 
JessiaJ said:
Thanks love! I needed this. I was beginning to feel like am I the only one that's going through this awful thought.

I'm trying to explore my chances more to see where it brings me.
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It just depends on you how much you open up and surrender to it all.
It's your life and if it makes you happy then enjoy it while you can.
The day will come when you see it as completely natural or even enjoy being his bitch 😉
 
JessiaJ said:
I thought I could wrap things up, forget about it all and just not look back. But I can't.

I felt it was wrong, embarrassed of this fetish and at the same time I wanted it so bad. I decided to live a life where Zoo life isn't part of me. But nothing turns me on more than this.

I feel this fetish has been part of me and it'll not go away anymore.

What should I do? 😔
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Look for a compatible man that you can enjoy this fetish with and share in trust the joy - well I know its not so easy but not impossible.
 
JessiaJ said:
I thought I could wrap things up, forget about it all and just not look back. But I can't.

I felt it was wrong, embarrassed of this fetish and at the same time I wanted it so bad. I decided to live a life where Zoo life isn't part of me. But nothing turns me on more than this.

I feel this fetish has been part of me and it'll not go away anymore.

What should I do? 😔
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Find someone to share it with and, just enjoy
 
JessiaJ said:
Ikr! I realize that not everyone has the same kind of interest. And not everyone knows how good it feels to be indulge in zoophilia
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That last sentence, I couldn’t agree with anything more than I agree with that statement. I would love to at have someone to chat to, meet up with, look at zoophilia porn together, having sex/making love with animals together, just really live out this. Maybe someday.
 
Dreamhouse666 said:
That last sentence, I couldn’t agree with anything more than I agree with that statement. I would love to at have someone to chat to, meet up with, look at zoophilia porn together, having sex/making love with animals together, just really live out this. Maybe someday.
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Not all need the same solution to enjoy life and enjoy the kinks as a fantasy or fetish but don't think anyone should feel guilty for a lust that I think is very natural even if alot would say its wrong and bad - but having a partner that you can trust and share and devolop a joy with is nice but making it a goal as the only solution is a little silly for some - felling guilty about can be at many levels but think alot have fantasies they will not admit sometimes ? ;)
 
Never feel bad for being you. You aren't a serial killer or nasty to others ( assumed) then you are just you. Don't be so hard on yourself! It all gets better just knowing it's in everyone. Also take solace that introspecting yourself is a good trait
 
cooople01 said:
Never feel bad for being you. You aren't a serial killer or nasty to others ( assumed) then you are just you. Don't be so hard on yourself! It all gets better just knowing it's in everyone. Also take solace that introspecting yourself is a good trait
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Just don't let it get out of hand then depression happens
 
Just be yourself ain't nothing wrong in it!

I was zoo before i knew what zoo was. To give you an idea how long I've struggled with it I'm 52 years old and my obsession with animals started when i was a child in grade school. My first real zoo experience was around seven or eight years old when I was laying under my uncles large gelding that he kept in a field below our house playing with his genitals. Ever since I have had a fascination with all animals be they male or female. It has caused a lot of headaches for me being that my family is seventh day adventist with very strict ideas on certain things. Because of this I too struggled with my issues and finely decided not too long ago to just be happy in my own skin and be who I was meant to be.

I have found great support in the zoo community and we have your back if no one in your general vicinity does. If you need advice, support, or simply a sympathetic soul feel free to pm a friendly yote.

Good luck with everything and I hope you have most awesome day and weekend ahead. My your life be filled with companionship, love, compassion, happiness, blues skies, warmth, and loads of sunshine! :gsd_love:🌹🌷🌼🌺🌸
 
cooople01 said:
Everyone (almost) has some form of a fetish. Various greatly on what level they are on. But rest assured majority have something. The only criteria I feel you should go by is are you hurting anyone else regarding your fetish. If not, love yourself and embrace it. Its only that fetishes are such hush hush that you feel it's wrong or feel bad, when it's more common than not. I am lucky enough to have a partner with same interest but I can definitely see how lonely it could feel and make anyone feel bad not having that support. If it hurts no one else. What's the harm. don't overthink this!
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You're so lucky aren't you! You're right, it's not easy when you do this all alone. But I guess not everyone should know about what we want or doing too. I've put some thoughts to this, like I'm not hurting nobody. I'm trying to keep the boys happy. So I think it's just matter of time til this feeling fades away.
 
just_do_it said:
Religions are filled with do’s and don’ts . Who can follow them all? No one can that’s why there is forgiveness, you are judged by your heart. Not one of us is perfect. You are causing no harm to anyone…. I’d say there’s a lot worse hateful, harmful acts in this world…. I was active in church three times a week for many years, and this still never went away. Someone very close to me is very active in church and is gay. He says he was born and made that way it wasn’t a choice. Most would say that is a religious strike against him, but again it’s judge by his heart. That’s why I have accepted I am made the way I am made..
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This is like so solid and something I was thinking about earlier today. I knew someone long time ago, she was a nun. But secretly she was into bestiality. She was the reason why I got hooked to this.
 
animalcummies said:
Definitely don't be hard on yourself, acceptance doesn't always happen over night.


I think you should go at your own pace and explore things how you feel most comfortable. There's absolutely nothing wrong if you ultimately decide this isn't for you, since you should never feel you have to force yourself into a lifestyle that isn't making you completely happy.
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Thank you very much for that. I'll be taking this slow. My boy is with my brother's house for time being as I'm away for work purposes. I'll be flying very often after this, so if I'm lucky then I might be able to meet someone with the same interest.
 
K9heike said:
It just depends on you how much you open up and surrender to it all.
It's your life and if it makes you happy then enjoy it while you can.
The day will come when you see it as completely natural or even enjoy being his bitch 😉
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Oh the last line, I have to admit I get so turned on thinking about being his bitch and he senses that too. That's why he frequently humps my leg whenever he could. Jeez
 
AnonymousGirl7 said:
Exactly! I just want them to feel good
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We're on the same page. My friend once told me I should get him neutered, tho I've not had it much with him but still I never wanted to get his balls cut off. I told her a Big NO. And she was like so why not give yourself to him then, jokingly. But little did she knows.
 
cooople01 said:
Never feel bad for being you. You aren't a serial killer or nasty to others ( assumed) then you are just you. Don't be so hard on yourself! It all gets better just knowing it's in everyone. Also take solace that introspecting yourself is a good trait
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I so needed to hear this. I read on an article on Quora, people were so mean towards zoo lovers.
 
valleyyote said:
Just be yourself ain't nothing wrong in it!

I was zoo before i knew what zoo was. To give you an idea how long I've struggled with it I'm 52 years old and my obsession with animals started when i was a child in grade school. My first real zoo experience was around seven or eight years old when I was laying under my uncles large gelding that he kept in a field below our house playing with his genitals. Ever since I have had a fascination with all animals be they male or female. It has caused a lot of headaches for me being that my family is seventh day adventist with very strict ideas on certain things. Because of this I too struggled with my issues and finely decided not too long ago to just be happy in my own skin and be who I was meant to be.

I have found great support in the zoo community and we have your back if no one in your general vicinity does. If you need advice, support, or simply a sympathetic soul feel free to pm a friendly yote.

Good luck with everything and I hope you have most awesome day and weekend ahead. My your life be filled with companionship, love, compassion, happiness, blues skies, warmth, and loads of sunshine! :gsd_love:🌹🌷🌼🌺🌸
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That's a very long time! It sure wasn't easy but I'm so happy for you that you got through and I look forward to be on that path soon.

Thank you so much for sharing this to me.
 
Wylewulf said:
It's controversial but I do think we can psychologically rewire ourselves to an extent, if we really want to. It's good not to completely give in to every whim. What we want is the question though.
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Exactly this yeah, I was super excited about dogs from the first time I saw them doing it, but it took a little while for it to completely become my thing.
 
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