While some people say sexuality is fluid, you can't be anyone other than who you are.I have no guilt at all about any aspect of my sexuality. I am what I am. Even at the start of my zoo life, I never once felt guilty, ashamed or that I had taken a wrong turn.
I was always a lesbian, too. Even before I knew what that was! I just preferred girls. I have only had one male "lover" and he made me pregnant. We tried to make it work, but it just didn't. I wouldn't really change anything, but even heterosexuality was wrong for me.
I feel guilty that I thought I could "change" my sexuality and become straight, if anything.
What is the long answerSimple answer, no.
How do you read Kinsey and see it only supporting your own sexuality. Kinsey never said acting out any is bad he described how they can be positive and negative.I used to feel guilty over wanting to have sex with some of my family members. Then I read Kinsey studies in the 50s and I realized I wasn't alone. Same thing for Beast. I would only feel guilty if I had pedo thought but fortunately I'm not wired that way. I do feel some compassion for those that do since I dated a woman who had those urges.
I have accepted who I am. But truth be told, if there was a switch then I would shut it off. No offense, but my life is kind of a mess. This has been a bit of a complication; my life would be so much easier without it. I know who I am and I know what criteria that I need from a woman in order to be happy. It is like you have a list of features and qualities and you put a checkmark by all of the ones that you need. Every time you check a box you eliminate others from your dating pool. For a regular person, the list may be Democrat, brunette, dimples, B-cup or higher, vanilla sex life, cooking skills.
For me, the list for a woman is like, Conservative, high IQ, blond, F-cup or higher, athletic or curvy, blow jobs, and Zoo sexual. Cooking skills N/A Smoking/ no. Drinking/ yes or no. Drugs/ Hell No! That leaves not very many options for a man like me. Yeah, I wish I could turn this off. I wish I was not obsessed with boobs. I wish I could look beyond physical appearance, and have sex with a woman that was morbidly obese, had zero humor, a face like a pitbull, a bitchy attitude, low IQ, and only wanted to fuck once a month. My dating pool would yield so many more options. I have met guys with wives like that, and most seem pretty miserable. I am not going to change who I am, now, at my age. So, yeah, if I could turn it off I would.
Lovely.As I posted in another thread, I have tons of guilt but none of it over whom I suck or who sticks something in me. I don't consider myself "zoo" though. To me we're all animals. Sex is natural and we don't choose attraction. I want what I want when I want it and I feel no shame. I feel dirty sometimes but I like it.
I'll be honest. I often do. I think because of the world we live in, and the niggling fear that I am doing something wrong. I can often rationalize things, how we as humans do far, far worse to our animal companions and the fact that I enjoy pleasuring them is pretty low on the offense spectrum, but still it is ingrained in me to feel shame over something I've tried to change over and over.
If you had a choice would you not be a zoo? Sometimes I think I might. If it was a simple switch I would choose to be "normal"-- whatever that is. But I guess I really have no choice in this matter so I try to accept myself more. Some days are easier than others.
yes, i felt guilty, i had depression and did not think i deserved the good things that happened to meI'll be honest. I often do. I think because of the world we live in, and the niggling fear that I am doing something wrong. I can often rationalize things, how we as humans do far, far worse to our animal companions and the fact that I enjoy pleasuring them is pretty low on the offense spectrum, but still it is ingrained in me to feel shame over something I've tried to change over and over.
If you had a choice would you not be a zoo? Sometimes I think I might. If it was a simple switch I would choose to be "normal"-- whatever that is. But I guess I really have no choice in this matter so I try to accept myself more. Some days are easier than others.
I'm happy for you nowWhen I was young I felt a lot of guilt and shame and all that partly because it was such a secret and I knew if I were ever caught it would be terrible. That being said I did develop a special bond with the dog so I did not feel guilty for what was actually happening, just a fear of being caught or someone finding out. I knew the feeling of ‘just one more time’ or ‘just one more sniff’ and I will stop but I couldn’t.
now that I am an adult with my own place and I am much more comfortable with myself, I feel much less guilt or shame over what is happening. I feel like I have a strong bond and connection with my German Shepard and I think he lives a beautiful life with me.
I certainly wish I could be more open, but for now I am not but I also don’t feel bad either
100%, especially right after I do it. It's a horrible feeling, I even wish that I would never feel the same way again when I think of animals like that. I saw a shooting star while going at it and used it to wish that I would be repulsed by it and never want to do it again. It sucks to be a suck up.I'll be honest. I often do. I think because of the world we live in, and the niggling fear that I am doing something wrong. I can often rationalize things, how we as humans do far, far worse to our animal companions and the fact that I enjoy pleasuring them is pretty low on the offense spectrum, but still it is ingrained in me to feel shame over something I've tried to change over and over.
If you had a choice would you not be a zoo? Sometimes I think I might. If it was a simple switch I would choose to be "normal"-- whatever that is. But I guess I really have no choice in this matter so I try to accept myself more. Some days are easier than others.