The way you talk about women does not denote respect. Hell even your line "... not going to let them take advantage of me like most modern American women" just screams misogyny. It would be like telling me, a black person, "Oh, black people these days only want to (insert whatever racist talking point here) and not work." Sure you could help people, but helping people is literally the most basic thing a human being should do. It should be expected that would would hold doors open regardless of the gender of the person, because that's just a considerate thing to do... Does that mean the world owes you a woman of your dreams because you do the baseline? Would you go for a female version of you, flaws and all?
Studies show that women tend to choose partners on the recommendation of friends and family. If women can be comfortable around you, then you are more likely to get a partner. It's not an autism thing either, met several autistic men in relationships with women. Hell, There is a popular couple on online that is a gorgeous female scientist who loves to tease and fluster her socially awkward (and very autistic coded) Historian husband. He's not tall or fit, at least not compared to her, and he's not suave either.
Find some female friends, especially ones that can understand autism. Make some in the communities you like, like first-person shooters or anime fandoms and learn how they move through those spaces. You don't think you can handle befriending an Allistic girl? Find an autistic one. I assure you, as one of them, the anime community is full of them.
