Being autistic and being zoo and single sucks

[doglover200032]

For a autistic man who struggles with social cues and dating I'm feeling more depressed lately because I can't even find a girlfriend even more so who is into being a zoo I honestly feel at home in this community but lately it's becoming more of an issue where I be am being more depressed I don't understand how to social interact with people or with women in general I've even just gone right after women asked if they want to go out on a date my father has told me you can't do this so I'm at a loss what to do anymore

 

[adam.nagy.ce]

Heads up its not easy for anyone, try to partake in social events and such things where people speak with each other, maybe drop your expectations on looks, try to be friendly and make friends, and if a women makes sings dont chicken out. Finding a zoo girl is almost impossible so dont even look for that. Maybe if she has a big male dog thats a signs but not always.

 

[doglover200032]

Social events put me on edge my expectations are a woman that is black or Japanese and where I live black women are very common I'd prefer her with a average body type or athletic and large breasts a whole is into the same things I'm into video games anime strategy games shooters guns maybe bike riding who's intelligent and who's not autistic so she can be my social body guard help me in social situations and prevent me from getting my self arrested or at least into trouble

It's autism you'd be surprised how often I nearly get arrested from not understanding something social or at least just getting myself into huge amount of trouble just because I don't understand what's going on

 

[lilrs]

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I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. You're clearly going through a lot, and it makes sense that you're feeling stuck and overwhelmed.


It’s okay to struggle with social cues — many people do, especially when it comes to dating. It doesn’t mean you’re broken or unworthy of connection. But it is important to ground yourself in safe and respectful spaces, for yourself and others.


If you’re feeling isolated, talking to a therapist — especially one familiar with autism — can help a lot. They can guide you with social skills, self-esteem, and sorting through tough emotions like this.


You're not alone. You're allowed to want love and connection — but it’s okay to take a pause, work on yourself, and build the confidence and tools to get there. Step by step.

 

[Gray Muzzle Wolf]

Just my own opinion, but as someone who is a zoophile and who has tried TWICE to be with and find emotional connection with a "real girl", I can say that if YOU really are a zoo too, then give that up and just be with the non-human in your life. I mean that's why I am a zoo in the first place. I'm not even autistic (or even on the spectrum as far as I can see), but I find any deep connection with a human just isn't worth the aggravation, or the betrayal, or the disingenuous "game playing" and "secret language" necessary to sustain it. Sure there are times when I wish my bitch could help with the laundry or could whip up a meal for me after a long day...LOL. And that she could engage me in an intellectual discussion about the latest discovery in cosmology. But all in all, FOR ME, I find I'm happier just saving especially that last for those in my small circle of friends. And that I don't need a human significant other.

 

[AppleDash]

Another neurodiverse person here. Yes, it would be nice to have somebody to share my (zoo) life with, but at the same time... At times I find it impossible to live with myself so why would I expect anybody else (whatever species) to do that?

This inability to understand human social cues hits very close to home. Advice as "mingle, go out there to tackle depression" is well-meant, but doesn't always consider the fact that it is exactly the social situation that can cause depression and anxiety. My circle of friends is small. I also cannot discuss being zoo with them, and on my own emotions, that's still a work in progress. Several rounds of cognitive behaviour therapy didn't solve the issue, perhaps of this combination of not being able to include the zoo stuff in the talks, and because too many therapists are geared towards neurotypical people.

Recently I read a book on how to survive therapy as a neurodiverse person. It wasn't the solution to everything, but it added some understanding. As for the relationships... Too soon to tell I guess.

 

[DuskLuck]

Heads up its not easy for anyone

Saying that to someone with autism is like telling someone with no legs or arms that it's difficult for everyone to do a cartwheel; while not wrong, it's completely missing the point of what it's like to have autism.

try to partake in social events and such things where people speak with each other

You must really not know what autism is, huh?

and if a women makes sings dont chicken out.

Once again, it's not about chickening out or anything like that. It's the fact that people with autism simply completely miss "the signs" neurotypical people wouldn't.

I understand you're trying to help, but maybe learn a bit about autism before saying such things

 

[doglover200032]

A therapist familiar with autism yeah unfortunately where I live there aren't many for adults and on top of that even if they do find one or two because I did in the past they want the large amounts of money if you have no insurance which I don't nor do I have large amounts of money so I'm kinda stuck

 

[doglover200032]

Just my own opinion, but as someone who is a zoophile and who has tried TWICE to be with and find emotional connection with a "real girl", I can say that if YOU really are a zoo too, then give that up and just be with the non-human in your life. I mean that's why I am a zoo in the first place. I'm not even autistic (or even on the spectrum as far as I can see), but I find any deep connection with a human just isn't worth the aggravation, or the betrayal, or the disingenuous "game playing" and "secret language" necessary to sustain it. Sure there are times when I wish my bitch could help with the laundry or could whip up a meal for me after a long day...LOL. And that she could engage me in an intellectual discussion about the latest discovery in cosmology. But all in all, FOR ME, I find I'm happier just saving especially that last for those in my small circle of friends. And that I don't need a human significant other.

I've been considering it but for I think I'll continue to try but it is very interesting concept I am very interested in it

 

[doglover200032]

Another neurodiverse person here. Yes, it would be nice to have somebody to share my (zoo) life with, but at the same time... At times I find it impossible to live with myself so why would I expect anybody else (whatever species) to do that?

This inability to understand human social cues hits very close to home. Advice as "mingle, go out there to tackle depression" is well-meant, but doesn't always consider the fact that it is exactly the social situation that can cause depression and anxiety. My circle of friends is small. I also cannot discuss being zoo with them, and on my own emotions, that's still a work in progress. Several rounds of cognitive behaviour therapy didn't solve the issue, perhaps of this combination of not being able to include the zoo stuff in the talks, and because too many therapists are geared towards neurotypical people.

Recently I read a book on how to survive therapy as a neurodiverse person. It wasn't the solution to everything, but it added some understanding. As for the relationships... Too soon to tell I guess.

That post is an idea for me but I'm honestly scared to talk to my therapist who is not 100% familiar or fully understands what autism can do to you and force you to do and make it how you function so if I were to tell them the whole zoo thing do you think they would try to have me banned from having any animals or even locked up where I live pot is illegal but they haven't had me arrested for that because I've told them it helps me calm down the anxiety so they're leaving that alone however they did tell me they do not approve of me using it even though it is like medicine to me at this point