Is anybody else just fuckin lonely?

Puhp said:
harboring such a secret can have real, lasting and incredibly detrimental impact on one's mental health, as well as their relationships
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100% agree with this. I encourage those here to find an outlet in which they can express themselves. Spent my life avoiding interacting with other zoos and just going through it alone. It ate me up and I'm still dealing with the effects almost a year later after finally reaching out.
 
420Fatty said:
I dunno if it's my age, my sexual interests, my complete loss of all interest in the things I used to love or my personality, but I feel like all I do is distance myself and push people away when all I want is to connect.

Anyone else feeling like this or am I just going insane on my tim
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420Fatty said:
I dunno if it's my age, my sexual interests, my complete loss of all interest in the things I used to love or my personality, but I feel like all I do is distance myself and push people away when all I want is to connect.

Anyone else feeling like this or am I just going insane on my own?
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Times have been wild and getting more wild. Be kind and patient with yourself. Find the joy. Stay in it.
 
Pretty lonely at times, I haven't been good at keeping in touch with friends the last few years. Besides I know nobody IRL I feel comfortable talking about how I feel in general, and especially not zoo stuff. And I have felt since forever I need to work on myself before getting into a relationship, zooey or otherwise. So here I am I suppose
 
KarenWGeorgiaGirl said:
long divorced, longer than some of yall have been alive. lost my daughter, 29, 2 years ago to sleep apnea. I live in Georgia. My son lives in Rhode Island. yes I get lonely. Got a great job at Wells Fargo and own my house but I throw myself out there on here and other sites cause I need to.

I like to meet. Does me alot of good
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I'm here. for real. Divorced as well.
 
KarenWGeorgiaGirl said:
long divorced, longer than some of yall have been alive. lost my daughter, 29, 2 years ago to sleep apnea. I live in Georgia. My son lives in Rhode Island. yes I get lonely. Got a great job at Wells Fargo and own my house but I throw myself out there on here and other sites cause I need to.

I like to meet. Does me alot of good
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Love meeting as well.
 
I am alone right now. Out of a relationship of a lot of years, and now I'm living alone for about 2 years now. Also hadn't had sex with anyone for several years, that's one of the reasons we split. I have friends and family, but I miss having someone to love and be loved by, and also miss having sex.
But I had been through way worse episodes in my life, so I'm just trying to enjoy what I do have and not fixate on what I don't. I have my family, my friends, my hobbies. Life right now is "meh", but it could be worse, so I can't complain.
 
Lille Hest said:
I am alone right now. Out of a relationship of a lot of years, and now I'm living alone for about 2 years now. Also hadn't had sex with anyone for several years, that's one of the reasons we split. I have friends and family, but I miss having someone to love and be loved by, and also miss having sex.
But I had been through way worse episodes in my life, so I'm just trying to enjoy what I do have and not fixate on what I don't. I have my family, my friends, my hobbies. Life right now is "meh", but it could be worse, so I can't complain.
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Your animal doesn't keep you company? (I am assuming that you have an animal companion.)
 
Loneliness is a horrible emotional state, and it seems to be one that a great many people find themselves locked in. Myself included. Social media had designs on helping, but it didn't. It just made things more complicated. Confused.

I had hoped, foolishly so, that this site could alleviate some of that... and I guess in a way it has worked. I've made a friend and it's been great.

For that, thank you zooville.
 
stuckknot78 said:
Loneliness is a horrible emotional state, and it seems to be one that a great many people find themselves locked in. Myself included. Social media had designs on helping, but it didn't. It just made things more complicated. Confused.

I had hoped, foolishly so, that this site could alleviate some of that... and I guess in a way it has worked. I've made a friend and it's been great.

For that, thank you zooville.
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It's good to hear that this place has had a positive impact on your life. :)

I can't speak for others but I can speak for myself. I've been alone for most of my life and while it was excruciating to accept as a very young teenager it's become radically easier to handle the occasional loneliness as an adult. And I am actually alone now, I had to give up my dog as my current life situation has me in a place where I could no longer take care of her.
 
Demigod said:
Your animal doesn't keep you company? (I am assuming that you have an animal companion.)
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I have cats, and one of them is extremely cuddly, something that is not common in cats. That helps when I feel lonely or sad, but when I said that I miss having someone to love and be loved, I meant a human.
 
I wouldn't say I'm lonely persay. In general I'm a very introverted person and enjoy my alone time ad love spending time with my dog so I don't feel alone then. It might be nice at times to have other human company and be able to express what I feel on a day to day basis but its not something that I need. If it does happen then thats great too!
 
I know its just screaming into the void, but the loneliness is sometimes crippling. I can't even look family and friends in the face anymore. I just run around with a facade that I have it all together. My zoo buddy that I feel like is the only thing I have left is more than twenty hours away. I hate when I drink but I do it anyway because I have nothing else. I don't have an animal companion to help me get through it. The strange part is that I have been doing this so long that it almost feels normal in some ways. I don't really expect getting any help from here, but I guess its feels cathartic in some ways.
 
rockymountaindog said:
I know its just screaming into the void, but the loneliness is sometimes crippling. I can't even look family and friends in the face anymore. I just run around with a facade that I have it all together. My zoo buddy that I feel like is the only thing I have left is more than twenty hours away. I hate when I drink but I do it anyway because I have nothing else. I don't have an animal companion to help me get through it. The strange part is that I have been doing this so long that it almost feels normal in some ways. I don't really expect getting any help from here, but I guess its feels cathartic in some ways.
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Our thing is a secret, closeted one. And life can many times mess with the chances to properly care for an animal, so we don't

Most of us are, or have been on that boat in a higher or lesser degree.

Personally I (and others I know too) got some type of animals I could take care of, even if only for some company while occupying my thoughts in preparing solid plans for, in a defined future, get what I wanted.

Good thing about the site, even if you do not meet, is you can talk, or at least feel there are some other people with similar thoughts.

Works for me, might or might not work for you. Just something to consider.

*hugs*
 
AllyKatt said:
I wouldn't say I'm lonely persay. In general I'm a very introverted person and enjoy my alone time ad love spending time with my dog so I don't feel alone then. It might be nice at times to have other human company and be able to express what I feel on a day to day basis but its not something that I need. If it does happen then thats great too!
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I hear you. I am also introvert, but i don't mind it.
Sometimes i just feel good like that, in my room...feels safe too.
 
Yeah I would say I'm lonely, but I'm also a introvert so it's kinda my fault. I'm definitely trying to be more social but also being not being able to talk about stuff like this does suck so I'm glad I found this site and hope to make friends!
 
420Fatty said:
I dunno if it's my age, my sexual interests, my complete loss of all interest in the things I used to love or my personality, but I feel like all I do is distance myself and push people away when all I want is to connect.

Anyone else feeling like this or am I just going insane on my own?
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Yes, I am lonely. Not just sexually lonely, but in general.
 
420Fatty said:
I dunno if it's my age, my sexual interests, my complete loss of all interest in the things I used to love or my personality, but I feel like all I do is distance myself and push people away when all I want is to connect.

Anyone else feeling like this or am I just going insane on my own?
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Glad to not be alone about feeling this way😔😔
 
In some cases that lonely feeling is basically "baked" (for lack of a better word) into your soul. Honestly I cannot remember a time in my life when I haven't felt lonely, even when surrounded by people. It's almost like my soul has been recycled one too many times and it's just worn out. I have a great family and a wonderful and understanding wife, but that deep feeling of loneliness remains. I know that some of how I feel is just plain ole depression (which I take meds for) but even beyond that there's that feeling of sadness and loneliness. Maybe the way I feel doesn't qualify for this thread, but I personally can't describe with any others word than "lonely".
 
Lille Hest said:
I have cats, and one of them is extremely cuddly, something that is not common in cats. That helps when I feel lonely or sad, but when I said that I miss having someone to love and be loved, I meant a human.
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Since I don't know anything about you I can't pretend to know how you ended up where you are.
 
foxqueen said:
This is me right now😔
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Sorry to hear that. It's been a while since I first made that post. It's still mostly true but I'm doing a bit better. I'm not fully happy yet but I'm headed in a more positive direction.

Don't give up. Be as social as you can, it does help. You don't have to go insane, find your comfort level. Even a small pack is a pack.
 
Not replying to you all individually because....living up to the name and lazy.

Lots of you have made some very valid and way too relatable points. So yeah, as you can see none of us are alone in this. This place is perfect to find real friends and connections, if you can find the will to stop thinking with your libidos.
Difficult but possible.
You just have to talk about things you actually give a fuck about that aren't sex.

I only say this because I've heard from so many women that this is their biggest issue on here.

Some of you need to stop being shy, some of you need to learn to people better.
 
420Fatty said:
I dunno if it's my age, my sexual interests, my complete loss of all interest in the things I used to love or my personality, but I feel like all I do is distance myself and push people away when all I want is to connect.

Anyone else feeling like this or am I just going insane on my own?
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I feel this. People get to close and i push them away. Just safer that way i guess.
 
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