How do I do this?

michelle logan said:
how do I introduce my lesbian only girlfriend(never tried a cock before) to my lifestyle.. should I even try??? looking for advice.
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You really can't without them suspecting anything strange. Their life would have to be naturally into that category
 
DatZooBoi1991 said:
I would just be honest with her and tell her it's a big part of your life.
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Whoa, that could be playing with fire. What if she is disgusted and outs her? What if she blackmails her? What if she calls the police? Too many variables to just "open up". I would want to know how long they've been together, how much they share about their lives currently, and most importantly is the girlfriend or the zoo lifestyle something they could live without if they had to choose.
 
michelle logan said:
how do I introduce my lesbian only girlfriend(never tried a cock before) to my lifestyle.. should I even try??? looking for advice.
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Lets try a different approach.
Lets say your partner really really wanted you to get into sucking the cheesy cocks of old men (or subsitute this with something you are not into). She would go to a forum and ask:
"how do I introduce my lesbian only girlfriend(never tried a cock before) to my lifestyle.. should I even try??? looking for advice."
How would you feel about it?
 
Mikedncn said:
Whoa, that could be playing with fire. What if she is disgusted and outs her? What if she blackmails her? What if she calls the police? Too many variables to just "open up". I would want to know how long they've been together, how much they share about their lives currently, and most importantly is the girlfriend or the zoo lifestyle something they could live without if they had to choose.
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We've been together for just over a year. we do have other kinks we share but she has never shown an interest in my pups in any way, I feel it would make everything perfect if she was part of that side of my life and I wouldn't have to hide it from her any more.
 
michelle logan said:
We've been together for just over a year. we do have other kinks we share but she has never shown an interest in my pups in any way, I feel it would make everything perfect if she was part of that side of my life and I wouldn't have to hide it from her any more.
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Ok, but the last part of my comment was key..If you HAD to choose being with her or continuing relationships with your dogs, which would you choose? That is really all you have to think about. If she's never shown interest in any way, it's 99.9% a reality that she would not want to be a part of that lifestyle. So, which is more important to you?
 
michelle logan said:
We've been together for just over a year. we do have other kinks we share but she has never shown an interest in my pups in any way, I feel it would make everything perfect if she was part of that side of my life and I wouldn't have to hide it from her any more.
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Have you tried answering my post?
I am asking because over the years almost nobody was ever able to answer this question when the roles are reversed. It is difficult when you are put into the role of the partner you want to persuade.
 
pes said:
Have you tried answering my post?
I am asking because over the years almost nobody was ever able to answer this question when the roles are reversed. It is difficult when you are put into the role of the partner you want to persuade.
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I have considered this, I have made sacrifices and concessions all through the relationship which have not been for my benefit but I did them for her, she has interests which weird me out but I indulge her, yet I'm the one who is scared to express myself and my interests. this hurts.
 
michelle logan said:
I have considered this, I have made sacrifices and concessions all through the relationship which have not been for my benefit but I did them for her, she has interests which weird me out but I indulge her, yet I'm the one who is scared to express myself and my interests. this hurts.
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I understand that it hurts. But relationships are about sacrifice and give and take. You didn't make concessions for her, you made them for your relationship. And can you honestly say any of her interests carry the same weight as something like a zoo relationship?
 
michelle logan said:
I just wish I could share it with her, some of her kinks are just as heavy as mine.
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I am really struggling to imagine what kink (besides something HIGHLY illegal) could be as heavy as this. You enjoy this lifestyle and know what it's really like, so your view of the weight of it to people on the outside may be a bit biased. Just think about it from the perspective of a person who has never even thought about/seen/considered a zoo relationship
 
Mikedncn said:
I am really struggling to imagine what kink (besides something HIGHLY illegal) could be as heavy as this. You enjoy this lifestyle and know what it's really like, so your view of the weight of it to people on the outside may be a bit biased. Just think about it from the perspective of a person who has never even thought about/seen/considered a zoo relationship
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I am that's why I haven't said anything so far. I do love her and I know that if I did tell her there is a strong possibility I could loose her.
 
Then it's a simple choice. If you, as the only one here that knows your relationship fully, thinks there is a strong possibility of losing her, then which would you not want to live without..her, or the zoo relationship?
 
Listen, you came here for advice. In the end, you're going to do what you're going to do. Fretting over it or waiting for a miracle reply that solves everything is just delaying things and causing you further stress and worry. I am not trying to be rude, I just literally do things like this for a living and I am telling you, either rip off the band-aid or forget about the wound. You are spinning your tires and keep bumping into the same wall, and it is obviously torturing you.
 
zoo.wtf

Mixed Relationships: Zoos and Non-Zoos

Doodle and Kitty host this episode about romantic relationships between zoos and their non-zoo human partners. Plus, a legendary hero has a thing for mares, Calon has a confession to make, and Steeeve joins Zooey to answer your most salacious questions!
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has a lot to say about the subject and also interviews between a couple who only one is a zoo. certain segments tend to get smeared across episodes but theres a lot of good stuff in there that might help you further analyze all possible outcomes.
 
As a unbiased observer and because I receive no benefit or consequences from the outcome of your situation. If you two watch porn, toss together a few clips of stuff you two both enjoy and watch them together. When the pet vid plays be honest and tell her you've found the lifestyle interesting from a early age and wait for her response. Good or bad you'll have a answer. Beyond that it's a topic you two will have to work out. Be willing to live with her answer and don't push the topic if her response is negative.
 
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Ilikealotm said:
As a unbiased observer and because I receive no benefit or consequences from the outcome of your situation. If you two watch porn, toss together a few clips of stuff you two both enjoy and watch them together. When the pet vid plays be honest and tell her you've found the lifestyle interesting from a early age and wait for her response. Good or bad you'll have a answer. Beyond that it's a topic you two will have to work out. Be willing to live with her answer and don't push the topic if her response is negative.
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Cinema afternoon?
Sleeping dog lies?
Generic tragic/comic film with lots of humor and situation, where zoo appears just as an absurd plot driver. Good to see other peoples reactions to the situations there.
Laugh freely? Make jokes? Not bad.
Tense up and frown? Suggest changing the film "You do not seem to enjoy this one. Brokeback Mountain?"
 
Brokebitch Mtn. Should be a classic. I'm surprised the pet industry hasn't made it yet.;):)
 
Ilikealotm said:
As a unbiased observer and because I receive no benefit or consequences from the outcome of your situation. If you two watch porn, toss together a few clips of stuff you two both enjoy and watch them together. When the pet vid plays be honest and tell her you've found the lifestyle interesting from a early age and wait for her response. Good or bad you'll have a answer. Beyond that it's a topic you two will have to work out. Be willing to live with her answer and don't push the topic if her response is negative.
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Sharing via porn watching together is exactly how I've successfully introduced this to my partner.
 
michelle logan said:
We've been together for just over a year. we do have other kinks we share but she has never shown an interest in my pups in any way, I feel it would make everything perfect if she was part of that side of my life and I wouldn't have to hide it from her any more.
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I'd talk about it with them if it's that important to you. If you don't give them a show, they have no evidence to use against you and ruining your reputation is the worst likely result.

Odds are they're probably not going to be into it. There's a possibility revealing so may end the relationship, especially if they consider it cheating and feel their trust in you has been violated. It's also possible that they'll seem like they're ok with it, but not be and it'll come to a head later. I would say that if you do share that info, give them plenty of time to process it before taking further risks. There's nothing we can really say that's going to make it just work out. It depends on the individual, how open they are to the idea, and a pile of other variables that we don't have any idea of. I would think that you, being in a relationship with them, would be a better judge than a group of people who know nothing of them.

Edit: poly relationships are complex and I think it's best to treat something like this as poly. People can be really good at appearing OK with things while under the surface it's eating them up. I have seen people years into such a situation suddenly crack and have a few years of rage and frustration destroy everything; so caution is the word of the day.
 
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She said she was sick and tired of dog hair being everywhere and that it was impossible to go anywhere on our own, she said she always felt like she wasn't the priority in the relationship. She's the one with the boyfriend and multiple FWB's and I'm not prioritizing her?
 
michelle logan said:
She said she was sick and tired of dog hair being everywhere and that it was impossible to go anywhere on our own, she said she always felt like she wasn't the priority in the relationship. She's the one with the boyfriend and multiple FWB's and I'm not prioritizing her?
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So unfortunate. I am sure you are tore up. Wishing u the best hun
 
michelle logan said:
She said she was sick and tired of dog hair being everywhere and that it was impossible to go anywhere on our own, she said she always felt like she wasn't the priority in the relationship. She's the one with the boyfriend and multiple FWB's and I'm not prioritizing her?
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sounds like excuses that cover up her real reason. she probably wouldnt have been into zoo if dog fur bothers her tho lol. just out of curiosity, why date a woman and be with male dogs? not judging, just want to know how that came about
 
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