Why sharing is wrong and you should be ashamed

[Mares²]

I know I do not post here and, I know I am going to be shot for this post, and that's fine. Please keep in mind this is specifically for Equines as I can't say to experience in Canines.

I have met plenty of lovely Mares over the years and I have come to love many of them. I know in my herd that these Mares need not only to be accepted by me, but specifically by my Mares. Since of course, they run the Mare show. Never have I ever given myself to a Mare that was not accepted and apart of my herd. This is something that, even if I really really like them decides what my next steps are.

Mares, the female horses, are known to be strong and loyal in their relationships, both with other horses and with humans. In the wild, mares tend to form close-knit groups where they find stability and protection. One interesting thing about mares is their strong sense of choice. They aren't just looking for any leader, but one they respect and love. When they don’t connect with a stallion in their herd, they may even leave the herd to find another stallion they feel truly drawn to.

In one story I know, a group of mares didn’t feel any bond with the stallion in their herd. Every breeding season, they would leave their herd to go find another stallion they truly loved. They weren’t just following orders or rules—they were following their hearts.

A Relationship Built on Respect

In my own experience, my mares always show me respect because I treat them as equals. I don’t force anything on them; instead, I make sure our relationship is built on mutual trust and understanding. This creates a strong bond between us, and they choose to be with me because they feel comfortable, safe, and respected.

The Pleasing Nature of Mares

One beautiful aspect of the relationship between a mare and her human companion is how much mares naturally want to please the ones they love. Once a mare feels secure in her bond with you, she will go out of her way to show you affection and loyalty. Mares are incredibly sensitive animals; they are in tune with your emotions, energy, and needs. If they love you, they will try to make you happy in their own way, whether it’s through affection, cooperation, or simply being by your side. They want to see you happy because their love is deep and genuine.

This love goes beyond simple obedience—it’s about connection. When a mare truly loves her human companion, she will show a level of emotional intimacy and trust that is rare. She may nuzzle you, follow you without being led, or offer calmness when you’re feeling stressed. These are the signs of a bond built on love, respect, and deep care. And when a mare loves you, that bond is something sacred.

Why this Matters in Zoophile Relationships

When you have a loving and caring relationship with a mare, especially as a zoophile, it’s important to recognize that the bond is personal and special, just like how mares choose their stallion. Letting others get too close or involved in the same intimate way can confuse the mare and damage the unique bond you’ve worked so hard to build.

Remember, mares are pleasers—they want to make the ones they love happy. If you allow others into that close relationship, it might not only upset the mare emotionally but also strain her natural desire to please you. She could feel torn between you and others, which could weaken the love and connection you share. Mares don’t have the human capacity to understand the same complex emotional situations, so protecting the bond you have with your mare is essential for her well-being and happiness.

When your mare loves you, she is trusting you with her heart. That trust and love should be respected by keeping the relationship between you two strong and exclusive. Just as a mare picks a stallion she loves and stays loyal to him, she will do the same with you. It’s your responsibility to protect that love and not allow others to interfere.

 

[marmelad1455]

Сounds like a jok5

 

[1Ostwind1]

I agree that mares are very sensual creatures, and with due care and the desire of a human partner to love her, and not use her, they can simply melt in your arms.
My beloved mare follows me everywhere and no matter what I do on our property, she always tries to stay close (most often I work from home, so I always go out to her with a laptop, so she just stands next to me and puts her head on my shoulder or tries to touch mine with hers).
I think it goes without saying that intimate relationships with due connection between partners are not at all comparable to raw sex when the mare and the person do not really know each other or the person is simply using her.
P.S. I am very much against sharing, I think it is wrong in relation to the mare, because she trusted and gave herself to you, and you dared to voluntarily give her to another.

 

[Shemon]

I'm way too territorial to share anyway.
The animals bond to me only enhance my will to not share them with other humans.
I'm not a pimp, so they will not be serving random humans in sexual ways.

 

[EponasDevotee]

I take issue that sharing is 'wrong' and those that do should be ashamed. I have no issue when someone lives according to their 'moral' code. It's when someone tries to impress their code on others that I take issue. There are few monogamous species by nature even if there are individual exceptions. To share or not is a decision that should be left to the individuals in a relationship. IMO too many humans have an unbalanced and unhealthy attitude towards sex and sexuality.

I am VERY selective with who I've shared with in the past, currently allow or might in the future. My beloveds safety and welfare depends on me being protective of them...

 

[Mares²]

Сounds like a jok5

You're a joke?

I agree that mares are very sensual creatures, and with due care and the desire of a human partner to love her, and not use her, they can simply melt in your arms.
My beloved mare follows me everywhere and no matter what I do on our property, she always tries to stay close (most often I work from home, so I always go out to her with a laptop, so she just stands next to me and puts her head on my shoulder or tries to touch mine with hers).
I think it goes without saying that intimate relationships with due connection between partners are not at all comparable to raw sex when the mare and the person do not really know each other or the person is simply using her.
P.S. I am very much against sharing, I think it is wrong in relation to the mare, because she trusted and gave herself to you, and you dared to voluntarily give her to another.

I think sometimes there a lack of understanding on how they work sometimes, and with that, people will just accept the truth they believe rather than the science behind the real truth. I read, research, and search for understanding and knowledge regarding our lovely companions. And with experience and books, I have come to this conclusion. I'm sure I could, and maybe should expand. But, I am not sure anyone really cares anyways..

I'm way too territorial to share anyway.
The animals bond to me only enhance my will to not share them with other humans.
I'm not a pimp, so they will not be serving random humans in sexual ways.

I don't think you'd have to be a pimp. I mean I know there are mares who just don't care who they have sexy time with. But, many, many do.

I take issue that sharing is 'wrong' and those that do should be ashamed. I have no issue when someone lives according to their 'moral' code. It's when someone tries to impress their code on others that I take issue. There are few monogamous species by nature even if there are individual exceptions. To share or not is a decision that should be left to the individuals in a relationship. IMO too many humans have an unbalanced and unhealthy attitude towards sex and sexuality.

I am VERY selective with who I've shared with in the past, currently allow or might in the future. My beloveds safety and welfare depends on me being protective of them...

You know me all to well to read THAT from this post.

 

[1Ostwind1]

I think sometimes there a lack of understanding on how they work sometimes, and with that, people will just accept the truth they believe rather than the science behind the real truth. I read, research, and search for understanding and knowledge regarding our lovely companions. And with experience and books, I have come to this conclusion. I'm sure I could, and maybe should expand. But, I am not sure anyone really cares anyways..

If you have the time and desire to describe your research in detail, then it is worth doing, because real zoos who care for and love their mares - were, are and will be.
Although, unfortunately, there are few of them(.

 

[CrossedDestiny]

Nope, It is a bond like no other, not a partner sharing kink, I don't share period.

 

[EponasDevotee]

You know me all to well to read THAT from this post.

Agreed but I doubt many, if any, on ZooVille know you to the degree that I have come to know you over these past many years. My post is/was intended in the context of this large public forum. The title of the thread can be interpreted as a bit presumptive, no? I attempted to acknowledge those that practice/prefer monogamy as well as those that choose otherwise...

 

[foalmaker]

I think OP is overthinking this a little bit.

I agree mares are very perceptive of your emotions and build tight bonds. Still, mares are not monogamous at all and I doubt they consider love and sex to be connected concepts the same way humans do. What I mean is I don't think they need to build a strong bond for a quickie. They only need to find him likeable.

That said, when you put yourself as the head of the heard, horses start counting on you and trusting you to protect their interests. Have you noticed horses who are placed in an unfamiliar environment don't tend to fall asleep all at once, but they take turns standing guard? If a trusted human walks in, the horse standing guard will go to sleep herself because the human is the new sentinel. Stuff like this is kind of touching and reminds me they look up to me for guidance and protection, and that they expect me to guard their interests. This is one of the reasons why I don't feel like sharing: because it is not in their best interest.

 

[TorrentialDownPour]

I think OP is overthinking this a little bit.

I agree mares are very perceptive of your emotions and build tight bonds. Still, mares are not monogamous at all and I doubt they consider love and sex to be connected concepts the same way humans do. What I mean is I don't think they need to build a strong bond for a quickie. They only need to find him likeable.

That said, when you put yourself as the head of the heard, horses start counting on you and trusting you to protect their interests. Have you noticed horses who are placed in an unfamiliar environment don't tend to fall asleep all at once, but they take turns standing guard? If a trusted human walks in, the horse standing guard will go to sleep herself because the human is the new sentinel. Stuff like this is kind of touching and reminds me they look up to me for guidance and protection, and that they expect me to guard their interests. This is one of the reasons why I don't feel like sharing: because it is not in their best interest.

This makes a bit more sense, and I believe it's because of this that any potential partner should spend time with the mare first. Get to know her, touch her, brush her, talk to her and stuff like that. The backside of the horse could be visited later if she takes well to said person and there is trust and understanding.

The instant wham-bang approach some take is a bit too abrupt, perhaps. I believe contact with a horse, or any animal should be done properly before anything sexual happens. If I recall correctly, the mini mare that was my first was an animal I spent time around and talked to, even helped feed. It was a few visits before I was permitted by her owner to go further. That's good and perfectly fine with me! I wanted her to know me a little better first and trust me.

 

[EponasDevotee]

This is one of the reasons why I don't feel like sharing: because it is not in their best interest.

It's important to acknowledge and appreciate that each equine, or most any other living being, is as individualistic as any human animal can be/is. Some are much more sexually focused than others. Observation of domestic and feral equines has shown that some (many?) can/will have a preference for one or more companions/partners over others. Not a big surprise. This is why the ultimate decision of consent or denial rests with the equine, or other animal, IMO as long as I am also comfortable with their choice/decision.

Some mares are total seductresses/temptresses that will solicit attention from most anyone while others can/will take a long time, if ever, to show acceptance/interest. I too feel that getting to know an individual is an absolute necessity before any intimate contact is/will be allowed. This takes time and investment. Those individuals that are willing to do this differentiates, in part, between a bestialist/fetishist and a zoophile. The distinction between lust and love...

 

[CrossedDestiny]

I think OP is overthinking this a little bit.

I agree mares are very perceptive of your emotions and build tight bonds. Still, mares are not monogamous at all and I doubt they consider love and sex to be connected concepts the same way humans do. What I mean is I don't think they need to build a strong bond for a quickie. They only need to find him likeable.

That said, when you put yourself as the head of the heard, horses start counting on you and trusting you to protect their interests. Have you noticed horses who are placed in an unfamiliar environment don't tend to fall asleep all at once, but they take turns standing guard? If a trusted human walks in, the horse standing guard will go to sleep herself because the human is the new sentinel. Stuff like this is kind of touching and reminds me they look up to me for guidance and protection, and that they expect me to guard their interests. This is one of the reasons why I don't feel like sharing: because it is not in their best interest.

I can speak to this one profoundly, I have been around horses, training them, riding them, yes in both ways, and even competing in rodeo's in my younger days, You name it i have pretty much done it, Barrel Racing, Poles, Roping, Cattle Drives, Trail Riding, and even some volunteer search and rescue work on horseback in rugged terrain, I have been around you could say, I was even planning to get into Mounted Shooting at one point. I have been tending, feeding, grooming, and doctoring them since probably the age of 4-5 years old.

To the statement that horses don't consider love and sex to be connected concepts like humans, this is not quite right, You get out what you put in to the relationship, if you only tend them as needed and go out and wank into them and walk off, well, this statement is probably right. However that is not the horses fault, its your own! Try spending hours a day taking care of that horse, being affectionate, showing them a level of human contact that most people reserve only for human companions, and they will surprise you. They will become drawn to you, they will sense when you are down, or hurting, they will mess with you, nibble your clothing, nudge you trying to figure out whats wrong with you, and they will even eventually protect you from other horses who might show aggression toward you. Horses have a remarkable dept of character, and emotion, but it seems to actually be harder to reach that level with them, than it usually is with humans, which explains why not many are aware or understand this. I have had a mare turn a stallion down, even kick and bite at him when he thought he was going to claim her, then turn herself around and present herself, when I walked past, but getting to this level, did not happen quickly, it took several years to get there and a lot of effort.

Horses also feel a depth of sorrow, similar to us, one of our horses, not one I was ever active with, but one i was taking extra special care of, and had a very close bond with because she had one of those extra special, unique personalities, lost her baby in an accident when another horse collided with it and broke 3 of its legs. Obviously we had to put it down.... At first she searched the pasture frantically for hours, screaming, calling out, while it was in the barn out of her sight, after we buried it in the pasture, she crossed that spot in her frantic search and stopped there, I'm not sure if she smelled its presence, or felt it, or what, but she just knew it was there. It was absolutely heart breaking to watch, she paced in circles there, laid down there, pawed the ground, and guarded that spot essentially for 2-3 days, we tried to feed her there since she would not let us pull her away from the spot, but she just ignored it. She didn't eat until about 4 days later, but she was never quite the same since, it was her first baby. She recovered some down the line when she had her second one and it brought back some of that joy, maybe a few pieces of her, but they remember really well, even a year plus later, she would occasionally go to that spot, and smell the ground for a few minutes quietly.

Like i said, you put in what you get out. If you spend enough time around them, you truly start to understand them like nobody else can, and you see that they have a lot more similarity to us emotionally, than 99% of people would ever believe, but you will only ever see what you take the time to look for.

That is my wisdom for the day.

 

[Bloit]

I've known mares that are absolute pleasers to any and everyone they meet.
I don't think there's one specific "correct" way. For some mares, one person and nothing more than that is perfect.
Other mares only love the extra attention.

A owner knows his animal best.

If it turns out that the mare likes extra attention, and the owner is good friends with the visitor... Who the hell are we to judge any of'm for that?

 

[TorrentialDownPour]

This is why the ultimate decision of consent or denial rests with the equine, or other animal, IMO as long as I am also comfortable with their choice/decision.

Some mares are total seductresses/temptresses that will solicit attention from most anyone while others can/will take a long time, if ever, to show acceptance/interest. I too feel that getting to know an individual is an absolute necessity before any intimate contact is/will be allowed. This takes time and investment. Those individuals that are willing to do this differentiates, in part, between a bestialist/fetishist and a zoophile. The distinction between lust and love...

That's a much more coherent way to say what I was attempting to get across, thank you.

 

[Bloit]

Also, if the visitor isn't a horse person... Then just don't.
They don't have the experience or connection to listen to the horse's body language. That's absolutely essential.

 

[TorrentialDownPour]

Also, if the visitor isn't a horse person... Then just don't.
They don't have the experience or connection to listen to the horse's body language. That's absolutely essential.

Absolutely, yes!

 

[unknowndoom101]

Also, if the visitor isn't a horse person... Then just don't.
They don't have the experience or connection to listen to the horse's body language. That's absolutely essential.

What about educating people who are not used to or have never worked with the type of animal that is potentially being shared but have a desire to learn and not just doing it for the desire of having intercourse with your animal. And not just for horses but for other animals too? Like you shouldn’t need to be an animal whisperer but having the knowledge to properly take care of the animal(s) in question should be a requirement as well as your own trust in said person.

 

[TorrentialDownPour]

What about educating people who are not used to or have never worked with the type of animal that is potentially being shared but have a desire to learn and not just doing it for the desire of having intercourse with your animal. And not just for horses but for other animals too? Like you shouldn’t need to be an animal whisperer but having the knowledge to properly take care of the animal(s) in question should be a requirement as well as your own trust in said person.

Education is good too, it's how knowledge is spread. Then again, the person should probably do their own research on horses/body language, etc before any of that too.

 

[unknowndoom101]

Education is good too, it's how knowledge is spread. Then again, the person should probably do their own research on horses/body language, etc before any of that too.

Research doesn’t make you automatically know what to do you need experience to be able to properly understand and apply your research. This is the same with all the available jobs in the USA as well but for entry level jobs experience should not be a requirement to get the job otherwise it is not truly entry level. But some level of education with the right environment to apply what you learn as experience would be beneficial to getting to know any new to you animal. It’s just expensive to do in all fields of jobs

 

[1Ostwind1]

Research doesn’t make you automatically know what to do you need experience to be able to properly understand and apply your research. This is the same with all the available jobs in the USA as well but for entry level jobs experience should not be a requirement to get the job otherwise it is not truly entry level. But some level of education with the right environment to apply what you learn as experience would be beneficial to getting to know any new to you animal. It’s just expensive to do in all fields of jobs

You can gain basic knowledge of horse care and body language at a regular stable, by volunteering, or by taking riding lessons.

 

[originalnamehere]

I don't even let strangers pet my dogs, no way in Hell am I sharing one of my girls or by boy with some rando.

 

[Sumpup]

You should be ashamed

 

[TorrentialDownPour]

Research doesn’t make you automatically know what to do you need experience to be able to properly understand and apply your research. This is the same with all the available jobs in the USA as well but for entry level jobs experience should not be a requirement to get the job otherwise it is not truly entry level. But some level of education with the right environment to apply what you learn as experience would be beneficial to getting to know any new to you animal. It’s just expensive to do in all fields of jobs

I mean, it's a starting point for further education; yeah?

 

[TorrentialDownPour]

You can gain basic knowledge of horse care and body language at a regular stable, by volunteering, or by taking riding lessons.

I've done all three, and it does help a great deal

 

[Bloit]

What about educating people who are not used to or have never worked with the type of animal that is potentially being shared but have a desire to learn and not just doing it for the desire of having intercourse with your animal. And not just for horses but for other animals too? Like you shouldn’t need to be an animal whisperer but having the knowledge to properly take care of the animal(s) in question should be a requirement as well as your own trust in said person.

Getting to know horses is better done by just being active at stables. This isn't something you can just teach people in a few hours...

You should be ashamed

Who? Of what? There's several different opinions in here.

 

[Mares²]

If you have the time and desire to describe your research in detail, then it is worth doing, because real zoos who care for and love their mares - were, are and will be.
Although, unfortunately, there are few of them(.

I am really not sure if it is worth my time on here honestly. I knew I would get quite a few people either not totally reading what I said, focusing on the title, not having any real knowledge of how horses work in a herd or all of them.
I do like a discussion about what a Mare or horse likes and doesn't like, or how they work, but I think too many in the world just don't take the time to learn about them with a completely open heart and mind. Rather, they have decided what is their reality, and that is that. Nothing else works.

The other bit I will add, is plenty throughout my life I have been told many times how I humanize horses. However, over the years I have come to realize that it's quite the opposite, and I rather play into what they show me, and what they have developed as herd animals over the many thousands of years they have existed.

Maybe I didn't quite write what I was thinking down, but I know, from experience, and the many of research papers, journals, etc how to read a horse, and understand that language they hold. I am not perfect, and I make mistakes, but if anyone knows me they know I work very very hard to understand them, and make sure they are getting the best home they could have, however they want it.
Whatever, that's a ramble.

Agreed but I doubt many, if any, on ZooVille know you to the degree that I have come to know you over these past many years. My post is/was intended in the context of this large public forum. The title of the thread can be interpreted as a bit presumptive, no? I attempted to acknowledge those that practice/prefer monogamy as well as those that choose otherwise...

The thread title is intentionally like that to get users to join the conversation. You know I never did like sharing. As far as the monogamy is, I know they are NOT monogamous. I just don't know what word would be better... Herdist? My point is that, this is your herd, try and play within it.

I think OP is overthinking this a little bit.

I agree mares are very perceptive of your emotions and build tight bonds. Still, mares are not monogamous at all and I doubt they consider love and sex to be connected concepts the same way humans do. What I mean is I don't think they need to build a strong bond for a quickie. They only need to find him likeable.

That said, when you put yourself as the head of the heard, horses start counting on you and trusting you to protect their interests. Have you noticed horses who are placed in an unfamiliar environment don't tend to fall asleep all at once, but they take turns standing guard? If a trusted human walks in, the horse standing guard will go to sleep herself because the human is the new sentinel. Stuff like this is kind of touching and reminds me they look up to me for guidance and protection, and that they expect me to guard their interests. This is one of the reasons why I don't feel like sharing: because it is not in their best interest.

I don't think I said they were monogamous anywhere in that original post, however as far as a herd goes they are about as close as you could get to it and it doesn't really matter what Stallion is about for breeding, she will indeed breed with him, so long as she likes him and he is the leader. This is your interpretation of that, and that's fine. As far as a quickie goes, I'm not sure I would believe a Mare is seeking a quick fuck. As a general rule, while sex is pleasurable, the initiator would have to teach her that. They don't come standard with the knowledge that it feels good. If that was the case, I think that mares would be trying to fuck everyone, and everything. They are way too horny otherwise

I know where I position myself, and I do this intentionally. My herd gets to be a herd. I do not expect them to do anything differently aside from our three rules. Don't hurt yourself, Don't hurt each other, and don't hurt me. Basically do whatever, but be safe about it.
At the end of the day, he who has his herd, should know his herd. I can in reality only attest to my own herd, and my own experiences. I'm not a newbie to this, and have enough experience to know something about something.

This makes a bit more sense, and I believe it's because of this that any potential partner should spend time with the mare first. Get to know her, touch her, brush her, talk to her and stuff like that. The backside of the horse could be visited later if she takes well to said person and there is trust and understanding.

The instant wham-bang approach some take is a bit too abrupt, perhaps. I believe contact with a horse, or any animal should be done properly before anything sexual happens. If I recall correctly, the mini mare that was my first was an animal I spent time around and talked to, even helped feed. It was a few visits before I was permitted by her owner to go further. That's good and perfectly fine with me! I wanted her to know me a little better first and trust me.

"I was permitted by her owner to go further"
At what point did you want to know her a little better first?

It's important to acknowledge and appreciate that each equine, or most any other living being, is as individualistic as any human animal can be/is. Some are much more sexually focused than others. Observation of domestic and feral equines has shown that some (many?) can/will have a preference for one or more companions/partners over others. Not a big surprise. This is why the ultimate decision of consent or denial rests with the equine, or other animal, IMO as long as I am also comfortable with their choice/decision.

Some mares are total seductresses/temptresses that will solicit attention from most anyone while others can/will take a long time, if ever, to show acceptance/interest. I too feel that getting to know an individual is an absolute necessity before any intimate contact is/will be allowed. This takes time and investment. Those individuals that are willing to do this differentiates, in part, between a bestialist/fetishist and a zoophile. The distinction between lust and love...

So it's okay only if you say so. What if you are misinterpreting her willingness to have sex? We as humans can be really stupid sometimes. My point is that, in situations that are (specifically)arousing as a general rule our logic gets thrown out the door. With mares being creatures of great interest in pleasing their human, sometimes they know this will please you at the expense of their own pleasure. Eh I could be wrong, idk.

I can speak to this one profoundly, I have been around horses, training them, riding them, yes in both ways, and even competing in rodeo's in my younger days, You name it i have pretty much done it, Barrel Racing, Poles, Roping, Cattle Drives, Trail Riding, and even some volunteer search and rescue work on horseback in rugged terrain, I have been around you could say, I was even planning to get into Mounted Shooting at one point. I have been tending, feeding, grooming, and doctoring them since probably the age of 4-5 years old.

To the statement that horses don't consider love and sex to be connected concepts like humans, this is not quite right, You get out what you put in to the relationship, if you only tend them as needed and go out and wank into them and walk off, well, this statement is probably right. However that is not the horses fault, its your own! Try spending hours a day taking care of that horse, being affectionate, showing them a level of human contact that most people reserve only for human companions, and they will surprise you. They will become drawn to you, they will sense when you are down, or hurting, they will mess with you, nibble your clothing, nudge you trying to figure out whats wrong with you, and they will even eventually protect you from other horses who might show aggression toward you. Horses have a remarkable dept of character, and emotion, but it seems to actually be harder to reach that level with them, than it usually is with humans, which explains why not many are aware or understand this. I have had a mare turn a stallion down, even kick and bite at him when he thought he was going to claim her, then turn herself around and present herself, when I walked past, but getting to this level, did not happen quickly, it took several years to get there and a lot of effort.

Horses also feel a depth of sorrow, similar to us, one of our horses, not one I was ever active with, but one i was taking extra special care of, and had a very close bond with because she had one of those extra special, unique personalities, lost her baby in an accident when another horse collided with it and broke 3 of its legs. Obviously we had to put it down.... At first she searched the pasture frantically for hours, screaming, calling out, while it was in the barn out of her sight, after we buried it in the pasture, she crossed that spot in her frantic search and stopped there, I'm not sure if she smelled its presence, or felt it, or what, but she just knew it was there. It was absolutely heart breaking to watch, she paced in circles there, laid down there, pawed the ground, and guarded that spot essentially for 2-3 days, we tried to feed her there since she would not let us pull her away from the spot, but she just ignored it. She didn't eat until about 4 days later, but she was never quite the same since, it was her first baby. She recovered some down the line when she had her second one and it brought back some of that joy, maybe a few pieces of her, but they remember really well, even a year plus later, she would occasionally go to that spot, and smell the ground for a few minutes quietly.

Like i said, you put in what you get out. If you spend enough time around them, you truly start to understand them like nobody else can, and you see that they have a lot more similarity to us emotionally, than 99% of people would ever believe, but you will only ever see what you take the time to look for.

That is my wisdom for the day.

That sounds nice. I have a few stories of my teen years with my Mare, and after than, many of other mares who have graced me with a little of themselves. As a example, Gracey would also prefer me over any other male. As another example, "My girlfriend" as I, and her owner called her would break out every time I came home from working out of town to my place next door. They had a stallion over there, she just liked me. My two Mares at the time also liked her, so for us she was apart of our herd. Let's just say I loved her well, and she went home without tension.

The other thing is, people read a post and know nothing about the poster. There are quite a few assumptions and snagging points that become the focus of the post. This makes it so that the understanding of what was said, might not be what the poster intended.

You should be ashamed

Yes, I agree I should be ashamed. But how could you know? You've never heard my story. Then again, not you nor the others really want to.

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I think that somewhere we got a little off topic. For me, I have experience with horses. I also have a great interest in educating myself with either scientific material, or trial and error. One thing I notice people often do is ignore the bits they don't fully understand, and abuse the bits they are not willing to.

I know Mares are not specifically Monogamous. This is indeed a human construct. But, if we learn enough about Herds by reading, asking questions and trying theories, then we can maybe come to some type of conclusion of a at least Herd Monogamy. It;s not the right word for it, but whatever, I am not sure anyone really is that willing to understand and learn something that might be out of their current depth of understanding.
I have a hard on for Animal Behaviour, and this is something I specifically like to learn about in Horses. Through my own learning, experience and, trial and error this is the conclusion I have come to. Maybe I am wrong, in reality, how the fuck should I know? I'm not a horse. But, please can everyone give me more than just "if she's willing, she can have sex with whomever" or whatever. Let's come up with some experiences, and objectively look at them. We can't learn with feelings, but we can learn feelings.

 

[Mr.Nobody91]

That was beautiful. I had no idea that mares could feel that way. I learned somthing new. And I agree with you. 100%.

 

[1Ostwind1]

I am really not sure if it is worth my time on here honestly. I knew I would get quite a few people either not totally reading what I said, focusing on the title, not having any real knowledge of how horses work in a herd or all of them.
I do like a discussion about what a Mare or horse likes and doesn't like, or how they work, but I think too many in the world just don't take the time to learn about them with a completely open heart and mind. Rather, they have decided what is their reality, and that is that. Nothing else works.

The other bit I will add, is plenty throughout my life I have been told many times how I humanize horses. However, over the years I have come to realize that it's quite the opposite, and I rather play into what they show me, and what they have developed as herd animals over the many thousands of years they have existed.

Maybe I didn't quite write what I was thinking down, but I know, from experience, and the many of research papers, journals, etc how to read a horse, and understand that language they hold. I am not perfect, and I make mistakes, but if anyone knows me they know I work very very hard to understand them, and make sure they are getting the best home they could have, however they want it.
Whatever, that's a ramble.

Unfortunately, I will not be able to support the topic of herd relations of horses (except for the information that I have gleaned from books and the Internet), but regarding the topic of what mares like and do not like, I can talk endlessly.

My beloved and I always stood at rented stables where there was no possibility of herd maintenance, and if there was, it did not suit us for obvious reasons. And now we live on my private territory where I spend a huge amount of time with my girl). I try to ensure that we are together at least 5 hours a day (direct communication), and if we take in general when she follows me around the territory, when I work on my laptop or in the garden etc., then we spend whole days together, separating only at night and not always. I can proudly say that my beloved is one of the rare monogamous horses, since she does not notice anyone except me in an intimate way. Of course, I can admit that perhaps the circumstances and living conditions that I created for her made her like this.

 

[KnotSock]

My only experience up close with equine was with female horses, for about 4-5 months. They were all really mean, but I don't blame them, as they were on a farm using them to breed race horses. I wouldn't say they were mistreated, but they probably could have had more fulfilling human relationships. I did befriend one horse I was told was mean who had retired, although she was still a bit sassy some days.

I actually like reading everyone's experiences, and seeing people discuss the exact details of willingness for certain things, and where the line should be drawn for others. More specifically tolerances within species. It shows a level of care that I find endearing to people who really love their animals.

I cannot speak on mare hooha, nor will I seek out the experience, but with sharing animals the sex of the animal also makes a difference. I'm almost positive the boys would have sex with almost anything they knew would get them off. I think the more important part is making sure you can trust the individual you're, ''sharing'' with.