Struggling with Relationship Anxiety

[GuyCool99]

Hi,

I am not sure if this is the right spot for this but I felt the need to vent.

I am 25 year old (m) and have never been in a relationship. The idea of sleeping with a human repulses and scares me. I can't stand the idea of bedding a human partner of either gender.

Because of my lack of relationships, I feel like I am behind in life, having missed a crucial developmental milestone.

How do I reconcile this?

I want a family and to raise kids eventually. I want to be a parent and to be apart of a family unit, but, this doesn't seem possible for me.

I can't force myself to be attracted to humans no matter how hard I try. Even if I could, I would just be hiding an important part of who I am.

 

[pes]

If you are repulsed by humans, then I do not see how you would be able to love one.

 

[patientzero]

Hi,

I am not sure if this is the right spot for this but I felt the need to vent.

I am 25 year old (m) and have never been in a relationship. The idea of sleeping with a human repulses and scares me. I can't stand the idea of bedding a human partner of either gender.

Because of my lack of relationships, I feel like I am behind in life, having missed a crucial developmental milestone.

How do I reconcile this?

I want a family and to raise kids eventually. I want to be a parent and to be apart of a family unit, but, this doesn't seem possible for me.

I can't force myself to be attracted to humans no matter how hard I try. Even if I could, I would just be hiding an important part of who I am.

This is just plain sad,u need a therapist cause u r just coping the zoo stuff cause no better alternative

 

[GuyCool99]

This is just plain sad,u need a therapist cause u r just coping the zoo stuff cause no better alternative

I have been a zoophile all my life.... What do you mean? I am only attracted to non-human animals.

 

[jimmer999]

sounds like what you really need is to find a fellow zoo with the same familial aspirations as yourself, which is certainly easier said than done, but by no means impossible.

 

[MypupandI69]

Hi,

I am not sure if this is the right spot for this but I felt the need to vent.

I am 25 year old (m) and have never been in a relationship. The idea of sleeping with a human repulses and scares me. I can't stand the idea of bedding a human partner of either gender.

Because of my lack of relationships, I feel like I am behind in life, having missed a crucial developmental milestone.

How do I reconcile this?

I want a family and to raise kids eventually. I want to be a parent and to be apart of a family unit, but, this doesn't seem possible for me.

I can't force myself to be attracted to humans no matter how hard I try. Even if I could, I would just be hiding an important part of who I am.

What exactly about having a relationship with someone scares you? Is it commitment, or are you afraid of them passing judgment on you, or is it that you don't know how to pick up on their advances and therefore have trouble reading situations?

 

[dog_on_a_log]

I've known several people that consider themselves mostly or entirely asexual, but are still interested in romantic relationships. There's always a way, and there's always a person out there somewhere that you'd likely be able to make something work with.

In terms of children, there's also several ways if natural conception really isn't something that would ever work for you under any circumstances. But if I may, I'd suggest you try and not be too convinced that how you feel about certain things now is going to be forever.

Perhaps look into therapy as well, just mention how you're put off by the idea of intimate/sexual contact with others, but still desire a relationship, partner, or family. Not to doubt you, but I've also known (and been in the situation myself) several people that had, or have, in some way a conflict about or lack of interest in the idea of sexual/intimate relationships with others people, which doesn't have to mean you're fundamentally wired that way. Lots of things can lead you to end up in a state like that, which doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna stay that way, unless you purposely try to convince yourself of it.
I've gone from several years of feeling not at all attracted to real people and even being put off by the idea of relationships to what I'd consider a fairly healthy and even open sexuality, and I've enjoyed a great many encounters and in recent years even become interested in and confident about my desire for a relationship. The mind is a fickle thing, it thinks it knows itself and likes to think in absolutes.