Rainbow bridge question

[Fire Metal]

I have a girl and shes developed a condition that is causing her nerves to degenerate. Shes getting worse lately and i know her time is coming soon. Shes my first dog, my first everything. I was hoping id have her until around 12, but shes not even 9 yet. I feel like im being robbed of my time with her. Im scared and i dont know how to process how im feeling, or what im going to feel when the time comes. I just wanna know how you deal with it, how you cope with the loss.

 

[kïttėñ87]

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[nekdoneco123]

i'd tell you some sweet lie, how she'll live on in your memories or how you should be happy it even happened. i won't.

it's not something you just "deal" with. it's not possible, not if she's your everything. you are being robbed of the already short time you get to have with her. it sucks, no words can change that.

the pain never really goes away, time by itself heals nothing. in two weeks, it'll be a year since i lost my princess. seeing her slowly, but surely lose the will to fight is the worst thing i ever experienced. far worse than when i dealt with the same thing five years ago. she was my everything. she made me who i am.

memories fade, almost a year and i can't even recall her voice.

one thing you really can do is stay strong for her. be there when the time comes. make sure your smile will be the last thing she sees. there will be time for crying later. loads of it.

we'll be here.

 

[Meg97]

I'm very sorry to hear that but (I think) I know what You feel right now...
I remember how strong bond and relationship I had with my Wolfie before he suddendly passed away (tick paralysis) and how I loved my dog. He was like my companion, friend, guardian and life partner. We've been together all the time. His death was like hard hitting by baseball bat, I cried over a month. Took me few months to fully recover after loss.

My parents and one best friend helped me a lot. She was very supporting and forced me to eat and prevent self neglect. I owe her so much. Thanks to her I decided to start study - to change my mindset and find new life goals. After five years of his travel behind rainbow bridge I feel much better and still have and keep great memories related with Wolfie (maybe that's the reason I'm pestering my BF about making arts and graphics).

But I have to admit, first few weeks are the worst. If You expecting that Your beloved doggie will pass away soon, You still have time to prepare. I had no chance to be prepared...

Also I'm thinking about getting new german shepherd - Wolfie the Second in future. Life without dog companion is worth nothing

 

[peebooparasite]

I lost my bestfriend, same as you, my first pet back in August. 16 years with him and I made the choice of sending him off while he still had the strength to at least move around. I didn't want him to suffer for my sake of being around. As much as it hurt me to do it, I felt at ease that he could finally be at rest and not have to endure that horrible pain anymore

That's how I dealt with the loss. The knowledge that he doesn't have to suffer anymore. The choice is ultimately up to you but don't let your furry friend suffer any longer than they should. It's going to hurt, a lot. But find your peace in k knowing that they'll always be with you no matter what and they won't be in pain anymore.

Hope this helped. Stay strong.

 

[MashaSobaka]

Every word they say is bullshit.
It hurts.
Mine wasn't even 3 years old. Besides, I could have saved she if I was faster and not stupid.
I deserve to suffer. I would deserve death too.

 

[peebooparasite]

Every word they say is bullshit.
It hurts.
Mine wasn't even 3 years old. Besides, I could have saved she if I was faster and not stupid.
I deserve to suffer. I would deserve death too.

You alright? Seems pretty self destructive to say something like that. Hope you're alright as well. Sorry for your loss.

 

[MashaSobaka]

I'm fucking not well.

 

[BentoBox69]

I have a girl and shes developed a condition that is causing her nerves to degenerate. Shes getting worse lately and i know her time is coming soon. Shes my first dog, my first everything. I was hoping id have her until around 12, but shes not even 9 yet. I feel like im being robbed of my time with her. Im scared and i dont know how to process how im feeling, or what im going to feel when the time comes. I just wanna know how you deal with it, how you cope with the loss.

Life will take just as it gives. Most of the advice given here is true and I wont repeat it. I have dealt with much loss in my own life and the only thing I can say is keep moving. The sooner you find new things the lesser the pain will hurt.

But she is not gone yet! So spend as much time as you can with her. Make her remaining months comfortable and she may last longer than you fear. Love is a powerful force that can do a lot. The best thing for the heart is to know that they won't suffer alone.

No living thing can live forever but your memory will. Her energy is within you, and always will be. I lost my fiancé in a terrible accident and some times I still feel his embrace when I close my eyes. Thats cause some of his energy was left behind and resides in me. Its a beautiful phenomenon and I hope that helps make it feel less painful for you.

I wish you and her well my friend.

 

[BentoBox69]

I'm fucking not well.

oh we can tell dude. Guilt is nasty no matter what form it takes. I'm sure people have told you all kinds of things to help and I won't repeat them.

If you believe it was your fault then it is, as we are what we believe we are. So learn from your mistake and never do it again.

And if you wish to punish yourself and hold your grief, fine. Do that. But don't encourage other people to punish themselves and make it harder for them to move on. That isnt fair to them nor does it help anyone. Especially since the circumstances may be different.

And don't tell me I don't understand cause I sure hell do. I wish you luck in finding peace.

 

[FidelityBoss]

I have a girl and shes developed a condition that is causing her nerves to degenerate. Shes getting worse lately and i know her time is coming soon. Shes my first dog, my first everything. I was hoping id have her until around 12, but shes not even 9 yet. I feel like im being robbed of my time with her. Im scared and i dont know how to process how im feeling, or what im going to feel when the time comes. I just wanna know how you deal with it, how you cope with the loss.

I'm so sorry you're facing this. It's incredibly hard to lose a beloved pet. Cherish the time you have left, create meaningful moments, and allow yourself to grieve when the time comes. Lean on loved ones or support groups for comfort, you’re not alone in this.

 

[MashaSobaka]

And if you wish to punish yourself and hold your grief, fine. Do that. But don't encourage other people to punish themselves and make it harder for them to move on. That isnt fair to them nor does it help anyone. Especially since the circumstances may be different.

They'll use the ignore button if they don't like the reality. No one fucking cares.