Partner is worried about me

[wetfag]

My partner is the only person who knows about my interest in zoo. To be specific, I don't have actual experience - I only fantasized, watched some porn, made little art. And he knows about it, maybe just thinks that I didn't do it in long time or something. Anyway, he accepts me, don't wanna break up or anything, just jokes that we won't adopt a dog. But recently he noticed a chat with zoo gifs and he said he's worried about me, that I'm visiting chats, and forums, and watching porn and that it may cause me psychological harm/worsen my mental state or smth and that I could care a bit more about morality. And he didn't say it in angry way or lecturing me, he seemed actually sad and worried, and just wanting me to be happy. And idk i just needed to share this, because I don't want to worry him, but I also don't think it's bad what i do...

 

[NY5695]

It can be totally consuming at times for me

 

[NY5695]

I guess it depends on how many hours a day you’re committing to

 

[wetfag]

I guess it depends on how many hours a day you’re committing to

Honestly, I don't check it daily... maybe a few minutes sometimes, but it's not affecting our life. He's more worried that i engage in it at all, i guess.

 

[polish.young.but.ready]

Honestly, I don't check it daily... maybe a few minutes sometimes, but it's not affecting our life. He's more worried that i engage in it at all, i guess.

my previous partner didnt know and it felt horrible keeping it from someone so close so im shocked that people actually tell their s/o's. i think a long sit down convo about bounderies and compatibility may help you two

 

[drozheba]

My partner is the only person who knows about my interest in zoo. To be specific, I don't have actual experience - I only fantasized, watched some porn, made little art. And he knows about it, maybe just thinks that I didn't do it in long time or something. Anyway, he accepts me, don't wanna break up or anything, just jokes that we won't adopt a dog. But recently he noticed a chat with zoo gifs and he said he's worried about me, that I'm visiting chats, and forums, and watching porn and that it may cause me psychological harm/worsen my mental state or smth and that I could care a bit more about morality. And he didn't say it in angry way or lecturing me, he seemed actually sad and worried, and just wanting me to be happy. And idk i just needed to share this, because I don't want to worry him, but I also don't think it's bad what i do...

I think it's very important for you to have a proper discussion with your partner regarding your own moral stance surrounding sexual interactions with animals.

To a significant degree, I do fetishize bestiality, but above my fetishistic interest I heavily prioritize an emotional and consensual connection with any given animal. My own partner has seen how I treat animals and when I finally disclosed to them my own zoophilic interests, they told me that they are absolutely not worried at all for the welfare of any animal with whom I might have any sexual interactions; they trust that I will not force myself on any living being and as such, they wholly endorse my zoophilic tendencies.

If you have a similar mindset, then the authenticity of your compassion for animals will speak for itself - if your partner is of strong moral character, then they should be willing to regard your own zoophilic tendencies respectfully and recognize that you are not a sadist.

 

[wetfag]

I think it's very important for you to have a proper discussion with your partner regarding your own moral stance surrounding sexual interactions with animals.

To a significant degree, I do fetishize bestiality, but above my fetishistic interest I heavily prioritize an emotional and consensual connection with any given animal. My own partner has seen how I treat animals and when I finally disclosed to them my own zoophilic interests, they told me that they are absolutely not worried at all for the welfare of any animal with whom I might have any sexual interactions; they trust that I will not force myself on any living being and as such, they wholly endorse my zoophilic tendencies.

If you have a similar mindset, then the authenticity of your compassion for animals will speak for itself - if your partner is of strong moral character, then they should be willing to regard your own zoophilic tendencies respectfully and recognize that you are not a sadist.

Yeah, I told him that both me and people i talk with, care about treating animals with respect. And i told him my opinion that animals can consent and if dogs mounts you from his own will and instinct, it's moral. But while he doesn't wanna leave me and still loves me, it seems that he's still unconvinced toward zoophilia, no matter how ethically practiced. So i guess i gonna live with it, because i don't wanna lose him. Maybe I just needed to vent and see other people experiences to comfort myself a bit.

 

[Der.Zoomer]

Why would someone have a certain mental disorder if they are interested in animals?
According to such a discussion gay people would be "different" or "queer" or whatever.
I am an IT Professional, I install customers servers with all their special software, I buy grocieries in supermarket, I meed with real life friends, I drive a motorcycle and visit festivals.
People should accept others as they are or fuck off.
If I have sex with my Ostriches or other animals or consume animal pr0n that is my thing, noone is allowed to judge me for that. If they do, they are fucking ignorant intolerant beachbobs for me.

Thats the discussion, but humans will always be humans and rarely accept "something else" as a lifestyle.
You should seek out a serious talk with your partner about that, tell them that they should accept you as is.

 

[nekdoneco123]

what are their arguments about morality regarding zoo stuff?

According to such a discussion gay people would be "different" or "queer" or whatever.

but gay ppl are "different", everyone not straight is. "we" are "different".