So we have been married a long time and I have finally come to accept I’m a zoo. I don’t want to screw up my marriage by outing myself but I also want to be open. Did anyone have delicate ways of bringing this up that might have a way to bail? My spouse is very kinky but doesn’t watch porn so it might be hard to try the watch this video tactic.
How do I talk to spouse?
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labsareawesome
Citizen of Zooville
There are a few ways. You could tell a few dirty jokes and throw in a suitable one - like the dog getting his nails trimmed. Or you could ask about her fantasies and if she has any limits. Or you can get one of the old Nancy Friday books and read some bedtime stories, first at random and then work up to the relevant subject. Anyway, tread carefully.
Thanks. Good ideas.. I’m leaning toward just keeping it quiet at this point. I have a good thing going and don’t want to ruin it.
Cyon
Tourist
if keeping quiet is something you can live with then obviously that's the simplest path. But you said she was kinky, some pet play would probably be good for both of you and also at least lead a little in the right direction. I'm actually struggling with kind of the same thing myself. Everyone is different, if you're ok ignoring that part of yourself and that's what you decide to do than that's that. I couldn't, I really thought I could, and it's taken me five years of marriage to realize that it wasn't something I could ignore. And I only admitted that to myself after I started literally having heart palpitations from the stress.