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AppleSauceDinner

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My partner has admit to me in the past year that he wants me to have sex with a canine companion. While I am very open sexually, I am not interested in that. I tried it for him, was not my cup of tea. He is now very sexually frustrated. Im looking for advice on how to satisfy his needs from like minded people. Like do I offer to find him a female who is into this? I have not changed the way I view him so I am trying to find a solution to his problem. TIA.
 
At the end of the day it kind of depends on what you're comfortable doing. While people here may have some advice, you need to do what is going to be best for you. If you're open to bringing someone else in, maybe actually have a conversation with him about what he wants would be best instead of asking a bunch of strangers.
 
Beastyboy121 said:
At the end of the day it kind of depends on what you're comfortable doing. While people here may have some advice, you need to do what is going to be best for you. If you're open to bringing someone else in, maybe actually have a conversation with him about what he wants would be best instead of asking a bunch of strangers.
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I have asked him, he's okay with it. Im okay with it. But I wouldn't even know the first thing about finding someone for him (he told me that I would have to find the person?) Idk I cant really ask people im close to about this for fear of being heavily judged.
 
AppleSauceDinner said:
I have asked him, he's okay with it. Im okay with it. But I wouldn't even know the first thing about finding someone for him (he told me that I would have to find the person?) Idk I cant really ask people im close to about this for fear of being heavily judged.
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There are regional sections on here, but I agree with Pes. You shouldn't be doing the legwork to satisfy him here. If you're both comfortable with another person being involved then he can do the work to satisfy his own needs. You did your part in making an attempt to partake.
 
AppleSauceDinner said:
I tried it for him
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Well, I'm especially wondering about this sentence.

When it comes to "trying something you don't want for the other person," it can't work. Discuss, exchange, listen... he must respect you for who you are because that's who you are. I don't think we should "try to please." If we don't want it, we don't want it, the other person must understand that, otherwise there's something wrong.
 
Maybe a different tack would be to get him to choose a knotty toy for you to use together? He can fantasize about possibilities and for you it’s just a toy that you can enjoy together when you play. Just make sure he knows it’s for you to enjoy his fantasy together - not it’s the warm up to the real thing.
 
Please remember that although both of you might be comfortable with brining in another female that does like sex with dogs unlike you as you have stated - is it the right thing for you to be doing

Now, if he is turned on by it, has more fun with her and likes it, what stops him just spending more time with her and eventually leaving for her as she provides him with what he wants

I am not saying that he will, but who do you think he will want to spend more time with at the end of the day

I am also not saying you should do something you don’t like just for him and to satisfy him

You need to think it through very carefully and this is why relationship fall apart

Sadly you either run the risk of him leaving with the female you bring in because she gives him what you cannot / will not give him or him leaving anyway for another female that satisfies him sexually over and above what you do for him

The math does not lie

You give him 4 of the 5 things he likes but she gives him 5 of the 5 things
 
AppleSauceDinner said:
My partner has admit to me in the past year that he wants me to have sex with a canine companion. While I am very open sexually, I am not interested in that. I tried it for him, was not my cup of tea. He is now very sexually frustrated. Im looking for advice on how to satisfy his needs from like minded people. Like do I offer to find him a female who is into this? I have not changed the way I view him so I am trying to find a solution to his problem. TIA.
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AppleSauceDinner said:
I have asked him, he's okay with it. Im okay with it. But I wouldn't even know the first thing about finding someone for him (he told me that I would have to find the person?) Idk I cant really ask people im close to about this for fear of being heavily judged.
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Your partner is a selfish fucking asshole. Why on earth would you look for something that doesn't interest you, but only serves to satisfy his fetishistic needs?
Get it straight. Tell him clearly and strongly that this is not your thing and if he wants to, he should look for it himself. If he starts accusing you of not understanding him or not getting his needs, it's pretty clear—he's just a selfish jerk who sees you as a way to get some pleasure, not as a partner. In that case, run away from that relationship at the speed of light and don't look back.
 
@AppleSauceDinner it seems you are manipulated. That kind of relation is toxic. There is no person who can force you to do something you don't want or you don't like. If you trying to sacrifice to your partner - stop it. Sooner or later you realise is not worthy.
Best solution is split asap and kick his ass. Manipulative people are the worst. Especially if they play victims or play sad/unhappy because you refuse do what they want.
 
AppleSauceDinner said:
My partner has admit to me in the past year that he wants me to have sex with a canine companion. While I am very open sexually, I am not interested in that. I tried it for him, was not my cup of tea. He is now very sexually frustrated. Im looking for advice on how to satisfy his needs from like minded people. Like do I offer to find him a female who is into this? I have not changed the way I view him so I am trying to find a solution to his problem. TIA.
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Yes weird.. you're not there to satisfy his needs but yours.. Except if you like to be dominated
 
Nothing the least bit wrong with sex with animals not being your cup of tea. Him pressuring you to engage in it anyway is wrong.
 
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