For those who have gone from non-exclusive to exclusive how was it for you?
- Thread starter serasera
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some things are hard about going from non-exclusive to exclusive but it comes on easy without really noticing until you're there.
people don't make it any easier. we start out attracted to animals and people get offended and treat us like crap when humans can't be our everything. treating us like crap just because we are a person with sexual attractions, whatever other reason they make up to abuse us.
they treat us like worse crap when we start transitioning, because they think it will shame and threaten us away from animals. so the way they treat us pushes us to complete exclusivity. at first you think its just going to pass but you start to notice how much uglier people are and then they all become ugly. you start to notice everything ugly about them and no which way they twist anything is gonna make them any more attractive.
i think theyre ugly because i know they abuse us wanting us to be exclusive so they don't feel obligated to help us get in touch with animals. its just another ugly that stands out more now im aware of it at all.
and another, people trying to get us hooked up with people we don't want because they don't respect our attraction to animals.
and another, creating this whole "incel movement" to threaten people with preferences, especially us into taking just any human sex otherwise they'll consider us incels too.
its hard seeing ugly in people all the time but it is so easy to notice it. it's not even rude to say so when they created the environment as an excuse to call me rude for being honest.
they just don't stop trying to make things worse all the time i guess because most of them are afraid of losing their "brain child" of a fake incel culture they created.
the animals have always been so nice and even when they are not its easier to not see them ugly because they don't have sinister intentions. animals don't keep pushing it because they don't participate in conspiracy. they have a real life and a real culture even if it's just digging holes in the back yard and pooping.
being exclusive has not had a negative impact on my life, just like being non-exclusive wouldn't have a negative impact either. sexual attractions and the sex to go with it doesn't cause problems. people cause problems. especially the people who want to have problems with other people. i didn't choose or ask for peolle to cause problems for me. thats why im exclusive.
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serasera
Tourist
I see. Thank you for responding! I appreciate you sharing your thoughts so thank you again ?
Depending on the circumstances around the transition.
knotyourgirl69
Lurker
For me it was a little difficult at first because i had just gotten done with somebody and had no dog at the time that my mind was made up( I did have dogs before that point in life and had many amazing experiences with them). Once my boy henry found me and we connected, it was the easiest and most freeing feeling =)
ILoveFemaleGSD's
Citizen of Zooville
Those people don't exist because it doesn't work that way. You either are born exclusive or you aren't. You don't become it.
Schuppentier
Citizen of Zooville
I agree and disagree.
I agree, that you are born, or atleast develop at a young age, what your sexual tendencies are.
But there are factors, that decide, on what of that tendencys you act. These factors do not always yours to decide. Sometimes religion is a factor, or the law.
For example, I thougth I where gay. But that changed over time to being bi, and now I feel like loosing more ond more interest in humans all together. Maybe iam zoo exclusive in 10 years, maybe not.
btdc69
Tourist
While it's true that you are born with innate sexual tendencies and preferences, it's your experience through life that is going to dictate how you discover these things for yourself. You don't change from being gay to bi, for example. You discovered that you thought you were gay, you later discovered that you're actually bi. This isn't because your sexual preferences changed but it's because of how you perceived yourself based on your environment. With more experience and more evidence, your understanding broadens.
In 10 years perhaps you will become focused solely on zoo relationships as a result of your experiences with humans. That doesn't change the fact that you have an innate sexual attraction to humans in some form or another. Sexuality is fluid in that the way you process and learn more about yourself is through your life experiences, but deep down it is hard-coded into you. If it were possible to change, there's no reason that the vast majority of people wouldn't just change to fit the societal norm. Conversion therapy would actually work and it would be employed en masse.
Fetishes and kinks, however, are something that you learn or are conditioned into throughout your life. You are into those specific things for a reason even if you aren't entirely able to pinpoint it, there is always a root cause. This is the defining difference between someone who's into "bestiality as a fetish" and a zoophile. Also, you don't have to be exclusive to be a zoophile. That being said, many people will incorrectly consider themselves as zoo when they are really just a fetishist. There isn't really a glaring difference between the two of them from an outsider's perspective.
Hypothetically, let's say for instance that someone was born being either straight up repulsed or just not interested in humans and had a predisposition towards animals, but forced themselves to pursue human relationships because that's what society has taught them is correct. That person could later discover in life that they are zoo-exclusive, and that exclusivity isn't invalidated by the fact that they may have felt obligated to pursue relationships the way that society expects people to because they couldn't connect the dots until then. If a gay man marries a woman, has kids with her, all the while he has never experienced sexual attraction towards women, that doesn't mean he was ever straight for having been in a heterosexual relationship. At best, he may have repressed his sexuality due to religious or societal trauma. At worst, he's trying to convince himself that he's something he isn't because of an overwhelming feeling of guilt, shame, disgust for said religious or societal reasons.
Sexuality is a spectrum, and my hot take is that trying to fit yourself into a label is a waste of your time and energy. My own upbringing and experiences led me to discover the true extent of my sexuality later than most people. I realized at some point that I don't cleanly fit into any real label, and ultimately it doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that I'm true to myself and those who I'm intimate with, human or animal. I don't have to prove that to anyone, I don't need a series of labels and pride flags to fuel my ego. I am what I am, I like what I like. That's that. I would go into more detail on my journey to provide more context as to how I reached this point, but I think this post is already pretty heavy.
If you grew up having a sexual attraction towards both humans and animals, and the attraction towards humans becomes weaker over time, that doesn't necessarily make you zoo exclusive (I'm speaking as someone who's in this boat as well btw). You could choose to pursue zoo-exclusive relationships, yes, but that doesn't mean that at your core you are exclusive. In other words, you can be a non-exclusive zoo that "practices exclusivity", but that doesn't necessarily mean that your attraction to humans has completely vanished. You could say this is overly nuanced, but sexuality is full of nuance, whether we want there to be or not.
In saying all of this, the point that I want to make is that labelling it is utterly fucking pointless and people put way too much weight onto these kinds of identity politics. Just be who you want to be, love what you want to love. Fuck what you want to fuck. You don't need anyone's approval for that beyond who you're being intimate with.
ILoveFemaleGSD's
Citizen of Zooville
I know of someone who fits that hypothetical. Zoo exclusive who pursued a human relationship because that's what they knew, that's how they thought it was supposed to or had to be. Even had a kid.
Also, everything else you said was very good and very well said.
TheEquineMystique
Zooville Settler
I'll have to disagree. Read my thread, "My Journey to Zoo Exclusivity". I lay out the major points in my life that dealt with bestiality (and yes, it was bestiality, not zoophilia, as it was sex and not deep, committed relationship) and standard relationships. I don't believe I was born exclusive, although I have ALWAYS found horses sexually attractive. I craved human relationships, and have always found the human female form attractive.
I am now in a loving, committed relationship with my mare, who I adore and love very deeply. I am exclusive with her. Perhaps what btdc69 said applies to me, that I "practice exclusivity". Could be, it's possible... but I do think you can become exclusive through different life experiences. While I have no trouble engaging women in conversation, the thought of attempting to start a relationship with a woman now feels wrong.
I understand why people say you're born that way. I don't disagree, but I don't fully agree, either. There are simply too many variables to account for to say one or the other is correct.
ILoveFemaleGSD's
Citizen of Zooville
That right there makes you not exclusive. You can be exclusively in a relationship with an animal, which you could techincally call being exclusive, but what it really means is to be exclusively attracted to animals.
TheEquineMystique
Zooville Settler
Sorry, don't agree. That's your opinion. There are many different interpretations of exclusive, and that's yours. It's not mine. Just because I find the human female form attractive doesn't make me non-exclusive. What you're saying is an absolute, and sexuality and attractions are a scale. It's extremely rare for anyone to be 100% one way or another. If you're that way, great, I'm happy for you. Be happy for me instead of telling me I'm wrong.
Allow me to have my opinion and leave it at that. You're more than welcome to your opinion, as well.
Allow me to have my opinion and leave it at that. You're more than welcome to your opinion, as well.
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SaraZooville
Citizen of Zooville
For me, I started out non-exclusive in a way. Early on, I was exploring, not fully committed to this as a lifestyle just dipping my toes in with a couple of dogs I’d known through friends or my first rescue mutt. It was casual, thrilling, but kind of chaotic too. Then, about eight years ago, I went exclusive with my Mastiff when I got him. I built that deep, one-on-one bond, and it was a game-changer. The transition wasn’t hard it felt natural, like I’d found my groove. Focusing on just him made everything more intense and meaningful; the trust grew so fast, and I loved having that steady connection. No negative impact at all—my life got richer, calmer even. Coming home to him after work, knowing he was mine in that special way, was pure bliss.
A couple years later, I added my Pitbull, so I guess I shifted back to non-exclusive in the sense of splitting my time between two. That switch was trickier. I worried my Mastiff might feel pushed aside, and I had to figure out how to balance them. It wasn’t a smooth ride at first—my Mastiff got a bit sulky, and I felt stretched thin trying to keep them both happy. But I adjusted by giving them each their own moments, like separate sessions in my basement spot. It took a month or so to settle, and honestly, it’s been amazing since. No real negative hit to my life just more love, more fun, and a bigger sense of family. They’re my boys, and I wouldn’t trade it.
A couple years later, I added my Pitbull, so I guess I shifted back to non-exclusive in the sense of splitting my time between two. That switch was trickier. I worried my Mastiff might feel pushed aside, and I had to figure out how to balance them. It wasn’t a smooth ride at first—my Mastiff got a bit sulky, and I felt stretched thin trying to keep them both happy. But I adjusted by giving them each their own moments, like separate sessions in my basement spot. It took a month or so to settle, and honestly, it’s been amazing since. No real negative hit to my life just more love, more fun, and a bigger sense of family. They’re my boys, and I wouldn’t trade it.
Royalhaileyness
Zooville Settler
Honestly, it was the best decision I ever made