Feeling alone

efnh

efnh

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Ugh. Twitter is the worst. It’s the easiest place I can find likeminded zoo-people as I can just pick up my phone and open the app, but then there’s just... so many antis. It’s depressing to go through that much hatred. I‘ve only posted like a few messages here, and I’m pretty much just keeping to myself, but lately I’ve felt stronger and stronger about my attraction to dogs. It used to be random, I’d jerk off maybe once a month to some zoo porn, but now it’s becoming almost a daily thing.

I’ve recently got engaged to the most wonderful man I’ve ever met. He’s American. I’m half-american, so moving to the US from Finland is something I’ve always wanted to do and now I’m about to, in about a month. Recently he said that he wants to get a dog. A big one, like a labrador or a golden retriever. When he said this, I remembered one time when we were still getting to know each other, he was pushing me to tell him about my kinks. I’m very shy about my sexuality, so it took a lot of convincing from him to get me to tell. I remember he even said “it can be anything baby, even animals!”. I brushed it off cause I’m so so so deep in the closet about this. In the end I told him about the fisting and pissing stuff I like. But even though he mentioned animals, I couldn’t tell him. And now I can’t stop thinking about it.

Did he mean it, or was it a means to get me to feel more comfortable? I’m so confused and I wish we could share zoo together. That’s like.. the last secret I have from him. We got engaged last month, and he is the first person I’ve ever felt this strongly about. And I’m so scared cause I want him to know but I also don’t want to ruin this.

To be frank, I’d be much easier not living with my sexuality towards animals.......
 
I just re-read my post and realized it sounded dumb. I don’t know. I feel defeated cause the packing up and moving stuff is hard. And I tried joining a zoo discord server today, and in the verification chat the guy called me “a fucking anti-zoo”. I felt cast-off and like I didn’t belong. As if I wasn’t zoo enough or something.
 
I'll throw in my two cents. If he gave you that opening, you should use it. Much to the dismay of all involved, sexual attraction isn't voluntary. Trying to hide it leads to a lot of ruined relationships. You should be honest and hope for the best knowing you're saving a lot of wasted time otherwise. Plus, if it works out, you could be having your cake and eating it too.
There's a surprisingly large population who wouldn't mind zoo stuff but have never given it true thought due to societal norms. And those who do go into it try to hide it. What if he said that really hoping you'd grab on to it? Could be a great thing.
 
If he mentioned animals specifically it’s a pretty good indication he’s into it or at least open to it, people who strongly oppose it don’t joke about it. Toe the waters enter slow and read his reaction. Watch videos with k9 dildos or something soft like tail plugs Have him put you on a leash and lick him like a dog. If you start soft worst case he thinks it’s a bit weird and you back off. The best moment in my relationship was when I was finally able to be totally honest about what I was into.
 
Having been raised up in Finland, with how the social culture is over here it’s really hard to open up about these kinds of super personal and emotional things. But it helps, so thanks for the both of you for the advice ❤

I think I’ll try and ease into it with him. Every day that I don’t it gets harder as I feel like the window of opportunity for coming out gets further away. We’re both kinky so it could very well be he’d accept or even be zoo himself. Part of me is also hoping he sees this post over here 😄
 
Be very careful when and if you share this. He may very well have meant he wants this. But always be aware. This is a major life step in YOUR life that once taken, cannot be undone....you may not like it, or he may not...what then? He can walk....you won't be as able. Be sure, before you step into the ring on this one. He has naught to lose. You do.
 
saddlebum66 said:
Be very careful when and if you share this. He may very well have meant he wants this. But always be aware. This is a major life step in YOUR life that once taken, cannot be undone....you may not like it, or he may not...what then? He can walk....you won't be as able. Be sure, before you step into the ring on this one. He has naught to lose. You do.
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I think you're wrong, either can walk. And as for can't be undone, in this relationship yes, in future no. You can choose to go foward suppressing it and try to have a normal sexual relationship. I think you're putting to much weight on it. I've gone on let's say 50 tinder dates. Had sex with 20. Of those 20, 5 were pretty open about things. And you know immediately if they're open minded or not. I knew who I could bring it up with. If I thought I might be able to, it was typically a yes. Otherwise I just simply knew it was off the table.
 
kevkin88 said:
I think you're wrong, either can walk. And as for can't be undone, in this relationship yes, in future no. You can choose to go foward suppressing it and try to have a normal sexual relationship. I think you're putting to much weight on it. I've gone on let's say 50 tinder dates. Had sex with 20. Of those 20, 5 were pretty open about things. And you know immediately if they're open minded or not. I knew who I could bring it up with. If I thought I might be able to, it was typically a yes. Otherwise I just simply knew it was off the table.
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Easy for a man to say....think about it. If a lady takes that step, and does the dog, a number of things can happen. They can both find they enjoy it. Happy ever after....hoorah. Or: She likes, he doesnt deal well with a wet second to doggiekins. She hates herself, he wants more. He hates that he talked her into it so easily, and now he's stuck with a dogslut. He loathes watching the dog enjoying her charms. The dog hates him messing with his" momma".
Note that of these hypothetical situations only one of the mentioned ones is positive. There are others, of course....maybe even another good one. Dont hold your breath.
NOW add in what happens if "they" get caught. She takes a hit, no matter what. HE CAN say anything he likes. He can be a stand-up fella, or he can walk... or a number of in betweens.
Dont let your lust cloud your judgement, friend. SHE has it all to lose....he's not risking a thing.
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saddlebum66 said:
Easy for a man to say....think about it. If a lady takes that step, and does the dog, a number of things can happen. They can both find they enjoy it. Happy ever after....hoorah. Or: She likes, he doesnt deal well with a wet second to doggiekins. She hates herself, he wants more. He hates that he talked her into it so easily, and now he's stuck with a dogslut. He loathes watching the dog enjoying her charms. The dog hates him messing with his" momma".
Note that of these hypothetical situations only one of the mentioned ones is positive. There are others, of course....maybe even another good one. Dont hold your breath.
NOW add in what happens if "they" get caught. She takes a hit, no matter what. HE CAN say anything he likes. He can be a stand-up fella, or he can walk... or a number of in betweens.
Dont let your lust cloud your judgement, friend. SHE has it all to lose....he's not risking a thing.
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I don't know. Seems like a lot of assumptions. And at the end of the day if two people aren't sexually compatible it just won't be a long lasting relationship. I think if there's an opening, take it. Life is too short to spend it not pursing what you'd like.
 
So pursue it. Nobody's stopping you. Just remember that the consequences of some things are different for men than for women, and will be for quite some time. Our brave new World isnt as brave as all that.
 
saddlebum66 said:
Be sure, before you step into the ring on this one.
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How the hell can he be sure before he does that?

saddlebum66 said:
They can both find they enjoy it. Happy ever after....hoorah. Or:
She likes, he doesnt deal well with a wet second to doggiekins.
She hates herself, he wants more.
He hates that he talked her into it so easily, and now he's stuck with a dogslut.
He loathes watching the dog enjoying her charms.
The dog hates him messing with his" momma".
Note that of these hypothetical situations only one of the mentioned ones is positive.
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Do not ever make a decision based on such comparisons. Each situation has it's own likelihood, it HAS TO be taken into account.
@efnh, it sounds like he's ok with that but you know best what's likely to happen. Don't get influenced by twitter too much, almost everyone talking about zoophilia there is either very supportive or unconvertible anti. Neutral people almost don't talk about it and they are in fact majority. But that's the global situation, focus on your case.
 
I appreciate everyone’s effort in answering this question. I guess there’s no right answers as it really depends on so many variables. Wether or not he accepts or is a zoo himself. I’m surprised to hear that a majority is neutral to zoo?

In any case, if I don’t do anything, these feelings will fester and eventually eat at me, potentially destroying a beautiful relationship. This is a person I’d even consider having kids with too. That’s years away, but before that, the secret has to definitely be told.

I think I will test the waters, move in with him and try easing the zoophilia into our lives, somehow at some point. Through kinks maybe. I’m sure there will be a time when it feels comfortable enough.

I’m strongly attracted to him though so I don’t think that will go away. Introducing a new animal partner to our relationship would be amazing. ❤

Thanks again. I didn’t expect to get so much support here. It means a lot to know I’m not alone in all of this.
 
efnh said:
I’m surprised to hear that a majority is neutral to zoo?
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Yeah, you have to start asking random people to really see that, as I said, they just don't say anything. They have either neutral, "I don't care", "I don't know" or "never thought about that" opinion. It will still be gross to them though, good to keep that in mind.

efnh said:
It means a lot to know I’m not alone in all of this.
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You are definitely not alone :)
 
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