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Does anyone know how to deal with the guilt of zoophilia?

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I found out I have been attracted to animals (mainly dogs and horses) for a 4/5 months when i accidentally fell down a feral rabbit hole leading me to find out i liked dogs and other animals,anytime I finish to zoo related porn I feel guilty and try to stop it but i always come back to it and just want to accept.
 
Same. Once I realized it. It was just the natural conclusion, and I didn't even consider there being a reason to feel guilty. First time I saw someone ask I was confused a bit, but you can't control how you feel, much more than you can who you feel for. Some accept it without another thought, some scream it from the mountaintops, some take a long time to come to terms, and some never do.
 
DogSimper said:
I found out I have been attracted to animals (mainly dogs and horses) for a 4/5 months when i accidentally fell down a feral rabbit hole leading me to find out i liked dogs and other animals,anytime I finish to zoo related porn I feel guilty and try to stop it but i always come back to it and just want to accept.
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im new but been struggling with this myself for 3 years and I been seeking the answer to this problem truth is you either accept it and be at peace or continue feeling like shit. I choose the for
 
Personally, I have always enjoyed this sort of content every since I was waaay too young, but I guess what made me like it more was the fact an animal can be a true companion to you in wats a fellow human cannot be.

Your animal friend will always love you so long as you give him/her the attention, respect, and care they deserve. Your animal friend won't care about your interests, or quirks. Or judge you for any decisions you make.

It's just a form of unconditional love that is much harder to obtain from a human.

P.S. So don't worry too much about this interest of yours. We all are looking to find ourselves in life and be happy.
 
I just wrote this response again yesterday
I’m gonna paste it here with my story and opinions

For me,

I have always battled this side of myself in all aspects, especially religious. I have felt like I would be punished for being into this, along with the furry aspects as well that applied to me. I felt as if I was hated, cursed, born tainted, etc.

TW: I once viewed it in a way that was how I viewed p3dos. I was repulsed by that thought and I could never understand why a god would create them. I felt like I was touched upon with a similar evil even though both are so different… But then I reflected, and even though this is a drastically different sexuality/lifestyle, I couldn’t figure out why I was the way I was or if I was touched by evil etc.

But I knew this would not bring anyone harm. I know some people in this community just like any, dont care if they do harm, they are there to satisfy themselves by any means necessary... that is the scary side that i will always stay far away from.

What I have come to realize is,

We are born this way. This is a sexuality just like being gay, straight bi, etc. This is part of WHO you are. There is NO REASON TO FEEL GUILT!
Remember this is “PART” of who you are. It isn’t your entire being. There are plenty of other amazing parts to you!

There is no stopping an attraction unless you do some crazy therapies. If you’re attracted to underage, pain, assault, harm style things .. then that’s when you get help.
But if you’re just sexually attracted and even romantically attracted to animals and have NO plans to ever bring them harm… why hate yourself? There is no reason to “stop” feeling these ways because the way you are feeling is totally normal as long as it’s not coming from a place of MALICE.

All you need is to have self control, understanding, love, and respect. Make sure your heart is always in the right place and treat every being with the utmost respect.

Accepting yourself is incredibly hard and you will struggle for a long time. Once you accept yourself it will feel like a huge weight is lifted off your shoulders. That is when you’ll start to feel alive again!

Do not shame yourself for your sexual attractions or romantic interests. It’s part of you. Think about how many other Amazon aspects of yourself there are!!

We will never know the truth as to why we are born this way until we die. I know who I am, I am a bright beautiful soul that wants to spread love and do good in this world. I never have any intentions of hurting any being, and I am always working to be the best version of myself. I know I have done so much good in my years alive and plan to continue that until the day I die.

So, I was created with flaws, but my flaws are not causing ANY harm to anyone or anything. I must accept them and continue to be kind, loving, caring, sharing gratitude every single day and understand that life is random and good and bad things are always happening.

I have accepted this as part of who I am and I must live with it and know I was born into this world for a reason. I am here for a reason and i have had experiences that have literally proven to me there is an after life. I have been blessed with soooo many unique experiences and all i can do is just have gratitude and keep going.

Learn how to set boundaries with yourself without applying GUILT/SHAME. Also, work on having a strong mental + self discipline.

It’s okay to watch porn, just set some boundaries and limits so you don’t over indulge.

Look into doing a 3-7 day dopamine detox. It helps a lot with all sorts of dopamine addictions, not just porn. Maybe you need to do a nice reset. Start doing some meditation and guided meditation as well. Work towards acceptance AND build self discipline.
 
I am trying to get therapy of some kind after obliterating myself with essentially daily, and nearly constant guilt trips for many, many years. Posting and reading here has at least helped me vent a bit, which has been cathartic, but the guilt is really eating me alive to be quite frank.

I'm not necessarily looking to get myself "converted" as I don't think this is possible, but I am really looking to find some relief from guilt, self-hatred, etc. I'm not really in a position to give anyone advice, but if you're looking for some of questionable value, mine would be to try and find SOME kind of help or outlet. I know it's easy for people to say, "Yo homie, accept yourself!" and I think for some people that is really easy, but I know that I can't do it by myself and am going to need help.

Take me as a cautionary tale to take your feelings seriously, even if yourself, people here, or otherwise are trying to convince you that you simply don't need to feel guilty. It's honestly irrelevant if you "should" feel guilty or not, but if you DO feel guilty in a way that is making you feel bad about yourself, you need to take it on and address it. I really, really advise you listen to your emotions and find a way to confront them. I have waited too long to do so and suspect I have really done severe psychological damage to myself as result and I don't wish this on anyone.
 
DogSimper said:
I found out I have been attracted to animals (mainly dogs and horses) for a 4/5 months when i accidentally fell down a feral rabbit hole leading me to find out i liked dogs and other animals,anytime I finish to zoo related porn I feel guilty and try to stop it but i always come back to it and just want to accept.
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Hey there, I've also been struggling with a lot of guilt/shame but I went to see a sex therapist and to my surprise they actually helped me feel much better about my attraction, and even told me about this forum and some other community resources. It helped to hear about how other cultures approach zoophilia and to figure out what I view as "right" and "wrong" instead of what society tells me is right and wrong. I'm new to this forum but feel free to DM me if you want/if that's a thing you can do here
 
secretpup98 said:
Hey there, I've also been struggling with a lot of guilt/shame but I went to see a sex therapist and to my surprise they actually helped me feel much better about my attraction, and even told me about this forum and some other community resources. It helped to hear about how other cultures approach zoophilia and to figure out what I view as "right" and "wrong" instead of what society tells me is right and wrong. I'm new to this forum but feel free to DM me if you want/if that's a thing you can do here
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Sorry to pry, but can I ask for... I'm not sure, some details or outlines about how the conversations have gone with this sex therapist? I'm starting to perhaps look down going down this route myself.

I don't think you can DM/PM until you're up to 10 posts, otherwise I'd reach out to you more privately, but I think any insight you can give here would be generally helpful to not only myself but others.

Also, thank you for being here and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open. I am struggling with this myself and I know it has been hard for me, but even this little nugget you posted makes me feel hopeful.
 
well unless you want to change to one of them i suggest you hang out with your own kind more and be one of us.
no shame amongst your own kind.
 
uton duke said:
well unless you want to change to one of them i suggest you hang out with your own kind more and be one of us.
no shame amongst your own kind.
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I understand this sentiment, having (Honestly) initially essentially come here to wrap myself in the warm embrace of like minded people, but a word of warning. I suspect much of the turmoil in the world at large and where people run into unintended anguish is due to deeper and deeper embracing of echo chambers, "safe spaces", etc. There is a major peril in remaining in an "unchallenging" environment, I think. I am struggling largely, I suspect, because I've been in the ultimate safe space: my mind. I've only been actively posting here a couple of days, which has been more helpful than I think I could have imagined, and the reason it's been most helpful to me is the fact that I DID move towards a slow gradient of change. This space is less safe than my own psyche because I'm getting outside interaction, even though it may be slanted heavily like-minded. I'm not sure how far I can go, but you know what is making me feel MORE hopeful than the comforting words of like minded people? The thought of going to the next step and talking to someone else. To seek, at least some level of acceptance, from someone else outside of the community. To know that this thing I struggle with is not my defining attribute, to know that I am not lesser than. I don't think I can get that FEELING that I'm craving from someone who is "the same" as me in this way, even though I can get the words.

I think for me, therapy is the next step on this gradient. Someone who is NOT a zoophile, but who has some obligation to not judge me, at least perceptibly. Ultimately I think I will need to be vulnerable and open in a context where acceptance is not guaranteed.

I hope some of that makes sense, and I don't post it to criticize as I don't feel honestly that it much matters or that I can really question anyone else's motivations given that I'll never understand the entirety of where someone else is coming from, I just post it as food for thought and a differing perspective for those that are in a space perhaps near my own. Ultimately what is going to be "right" for anyone in particular is too personal to prescribe externally. The best we can do is gently guide one another.
 
bc161 said:
Sorry to pry, but can I ask for... I'm not sure, some details or outlines about how the conversations have gone with this sex therapist? I'm starting to perhaps look down going down this route myself.

I don't think you can DM/PM until you're up to 10 posts, otherwise I'd reach out to you more privately, but I think any insight you can give here would be generally helpful to not only myself but others.

Also, thank you for being here and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open. I am struggling with this myself and I know it has been hard for me, but even this little nugget you posted makes me feel hopeful.
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I'm glad it could give you some hope 🩷 I honestly wasn't initially planning on talking about this subject in my sex therapy but the therapist felt like someone I could trust and I tested the waters by asking them if they had any experience helping clients with paraphilias. They said yes and that they don't even like the word paraphilia (they didn't elaborate on this but I think it's because of the negative/pathologizing connotation). I opened up about me struggling with my attraction to animals and they reassured me that I'm not alone and it can be a normal part of human sexuality. That's when we started talking about how other cultures approach/accept beastiality and how it's been documented in history. We also talked about how they personally don't think it's wrong, and that just because a society labels something as wrong doesn't mean it necessarily is. They encouraged me to think about my own boundaries and the things that would violate my morals (which for me included forcing an animal to do something it clearly didn't want to do, etc), and work off of that to determine what is "wrong". And like I mentioned, they told me about this forum and a few other resources. ( I also found out about the podcast "Zooier Than Thou") Tbh opening up about this in therapy changed my life and made me feel like I'm not just a monster for feeling this way, BUT I would select your therapist carefully and test the waters if you go down this route, because all therapists are so different and I'm sure some of them have completely different views on the subject.
 
It’s difficult, but it takes time. I’ve had some kinks that take a minute to figure out if it’s phase or genuine attraction. But you learn, you grow, and soon you’ll be rocking it.
 
secretpup98 said:
Tbh opening up about this in therapy changed my life and made me feel like I'm not just a monster for feeling this way...
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I'm hoping I can get a similar outcome. Even just posting here has been such an incredible relief I'm honestly astounded. I want therapy to deal with other stuff and improve myself, but in the past I suspect I've been hindering progress by leaving out what feels like a huge part of my being.

I started reaching out to therapists today to try to get the ball rolling. Thanks again for speaking up, it really meant a lot to me.
 
DogSimper said:
I found out I have been attracted to animals (mainly dogs and horses) for a 4/5 months when i accidentally fell down a feral rabbit hole leading me to find out i liked dogs and other animals,anytime I finish to zoo related porn I feel guilty and try to stop it but i always come back to it and just want to accept.
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just accept it , i’ve tried fighting it for a while
 
bc161 said:
I'm hoping I can get a similar outcome. Even just posting here has been such an incredible relief I'm honestly astounded. I want therapy to deal with other stuff and improve myself, but in the past I suspect I've been hindering progress by leaving out what feels like a huge part of my being.

I started reaching out to therapists today to try to get the ball rolling. Thanks again for speaking up, it really meant a lot to me.
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Wishing you the best, most healing therapy experience 🩷 And I'm glad we both found this forum. Whenever I hit 10 posts, feel free to DM me lol
 
secretpup98 said:
Whenever I hit 10 posts, feel free to DM me lol
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Go, go, go! I'd love to chat.
 
DogSimper said:
I found out I have been attracted to animals (mainly dogs and horses) for a 4/5 months when i accidentally fell down a feral rabbit hole leading me to find out i liked dogs and other animals,anytime I finish to zoo related porn I feel guilty and try to stop it but i always come back to it and just want to accept.
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It took me along time to get ok with it honestly. Went from really enjoying it and making friends to leaving it all and breaking off some good friendships. Even now I have moments where honestly I dunno if I want to talk or indulge with it, but also learning to really accept is as part of myself. Making new friends and talking has really helped, not sure if i'll ever indulge again or not but it can be a slow process for some people for sure.
 
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