I’ve been single for the majority of my life, so I guess I can relate.
I tried to date people a couple of times, but I didn’t really like it. At the time I figured I just wasn’t ready for a relationship. At face value, it sounds like an ideal thing. Society is constantly telling us how great love is and how sad it is to be alone. We hear it in music, our television, the media. We have an entire holiday dedicated to love and relationships. Why wouldn’t anyone want one? Everyone makes them sound so great.
But sometimes you have to sit back and realize that it’s not that big of a deal. And sometimes, you’re just not ready. Either that, or you just haven’t found that person yet. That’s how I like to think about it: I’m just not there yet. Someday I might find someone. And I might not. I could either be stressed about it and worry that I might die alone, or I could find ways to make the time fly by and make the most of the rest of life. I prefer to let the universe run its course.
I have an animal partner, so I’m not too lonely, but I understand desiring that human element. You have two options: Go hunting, or wait until fate works its magic. I prefer to wait, but I know it’s not for everyone. Some people just need to take fate into their own hands. And if that’s you, I say go for it until you’re over it. You only live once as far as I know. If you feel you need to get out there and find someone, I wish you luck. There’s nothing stopping you but you.
If not, then here’s my advice.
What I do is just find something to invest myself in. Luckily for me, I’m a writer, so I at least have the gift of being able to stay up until the crack of dawn typing out chapter upon chapter of my newest novel. Other than that, I take my animal partner out and make the most of the time we have together. I start projects, build, do anything to get my creativity flowing and my mind working. I need something that I can release this pent up energy in, whether it be creating music or climbing trees. Even gardening is such a joy for me. Find something that inspires you, something that you’re so passionate about that you lose yourself in it. Try new things. Get out and see what the world has to offer. I get that there’s not much you can do now, but sometimes, there are great things you can do all on your own. It may not seem like it right now. But I like to think of it like filling the space. I’m finding stuff to do, letting the time pass by until I inevitably find myself in a human relationship. Even if I never find a human relationship, I’d rather find ways to live the life I’ve been given all by myself then worry about not getting to do any of it with someone else.
I’m sure you’ll find someone before you know it. But for now, don’t stress too much about it. There’s so much more to life than relationships. Believe it or not, you can make some pretty good company for yourself. I bet there’s still so much about yourself you haven’t even explored yet. That’s what’s so wonderful about humans, as much as I hate to admit it. There’s so much unexplored potential we have. We can accomplish so much in such a short amount of time. Even if it seems useless. So go out there and discover pieces of yourself you never even knew existed. So by the time you find yourself close to someone, you’ve already got yourself all figured out.
That’s my advice.
