So here I go writing this as if someone like me carries any weight in the conversation
1. Removing the personals section will cause a moderation nightmare. it will move to other parts of the forum and not all in the same place, or start happening under existing threads making it even more difficult.
Just kill the egregious threads in the current personals (I.e. anything that looks like actual trafficking) and swing the ban hammer when necessary (judging by the amount of red tags I seen the mods are very proficient)
2. Making the forum English only and using moderation as a reason is BS, browsers have built in translators for a reason, it’s not like people are speaking in a secret code just to exclude you.
3. GATEKEEPING- this feels like more of an argument of “I Dont want these curious people around my lifestyle” (que up angry keyboard warriors that don’t read the rest). That’s a great way to kill the community, make sure it never grows and make the outcasts vindictive.
Also to a previous comment it’s black and white, you are or you aren’t, Some people have the opportunity and means to live the lifestyle all the time, others don’t and only get to experience it in small amounts, the same with nearly every other “fetish”
I’m not saying to absolutely welcome everyone with open arms. With any fetish/lifestyle there are some mentally unstable people that should not be part of the respective community.
Now as for me cause I’m sure some of you will click on my profile and see how new it is and how little interaction I have had. I’m 42, I’ve had some experiences in my younger years, I’ve always wanted more but never had any one to talk about it or experience it with due to its nature.
Engage with me like I’m a human having a civil conversation, I’m not your political opponent, just someone who wants the best for everyone