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Mattknots1738

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Hey sorry to put this here but i just want to get this off of my chest. I’m not proud of the person i am. Ive done some really messed i
up things and hurt people i care so deeply about. i’ve had to admit to things i didn’t want to admit to, and i really just want to change. i’m too young to be hurting people i care about with my actions. I want to stop, stop looking at all this, im not saying it’s wrong but i just want to change. has anyone stopped these behaviors or even things as being gay. i don’t want to offend anyone i just want to change and make this decision for myself. i am looking for help, tips, advice, anything. please
 
Mattknots1738 said:
i see, i really want to be able to stop myself from going back to old habits, habits people have enabled. would it really be okay to say things of this matter (zoo stuff) to a therapist?
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honestly i wouldn't say zoo stuff. instead i would just categorize it with porn addiction.
 
Reconscope said:
honestly i wouldn't say zoo stuff. instead i would just categorize it with porn addiction.
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that’s fair, ive deleted accounts just to make another and come back, i’ll try to find a professional to speak to but id still like tips and help from other people. any clue where i could find people who’ve been through similar issues?
 
Mattknots1738 said:
that’s fair, ive deleted accounts just to make another and come back, i’ll try to find a professional to speak to but id still like tips and help from other people. any clue where i could find people who’ve been through similar issues?
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don't delete a profile if you need communication or help with said issue. as there are worse porn sites that don't have ethics or companion life advice that could prove valuable.
 
Reconscope said:
don't delete a profile if you need communication or help with said issue. as there are worse porn sites that don't have ethics or companion life advice that could prove valuable.
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i really appreciate the help, i won’t delete this account as i feel this is the only place i can discuss these kinds of issues and get any help or advice
 
Mattknots1738 said:
i really appreciate the help, i won’t delete this account as i feel this is the only place i can discuss these kinds of issues and get any help or advice
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awesome, but yeah the fact this website is literally the closest to caring about animal welfare as you can get vs the other sites of the internet.

everything else is either focusing on women being railed by large dogs or... unsavory stuff.
 
Mattknots1738 said:
would it really be okay to say things of this matter (zoo stuff) to a therapist?
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Have you actually acted on it?

Check the laws where you live, in most places, talking about, liking or talking about zoo is not ilegal. Many places even watching porn won't be ilegal.
Storing it, tansmitting it might, but just delete your porn stash.

If youvate clean in the law, you just need to look for a therapist that will not be disrupted by the concept of zoo toban extend he/she can not do his/her work as the professional he/she ought to be.
 
Goattobeloved said:
Have you actually acted on it?

Check the laws where you live, in most places, talking about, liking or talking about zoo is not ilegal. Many places even watching porn won't be ilegal.
Storing it, tansmitting it might, but just delete your porn stash.

If youvate clean in the law, you just need to look for a therapist that will not be disrupted by the concept of zoo toban extend he/she can not do his/her work as the professional he/she ought to be.
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i haven’t acted on it, i may have thought about it but i don’t wish to do anything like that.

porn is mainly the issue but therapist are the most recommended by people who’ve replied, so id like to look for some professional help.

Ive cut people off who were enabling such behavior so i can say im doing a bit better, taking steps to being better.
 
Mattknots1738 said:
i haven’t acted on it, i may have thought about it but i don’t wish to do anything like that.

porn is mainly the issue but therapist are the most recommended by people who’ve replied, so id like to look for some professional help.

Ive cut people off who were enabling such behavior so i can say im doing a bit better, taking steps to being better.
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great to hear i hope you keep contact on your journey. if you feel legit advice for your companions feel free to look at well being/health page.
 
forest said:
you can't change it. conversion therapy will just hurt you. if you want to stop acting on it, thats all you can do. attraction is beyond your control.
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Not necessarily conversion therapy.

The problem is not this sexuality, but the internal fight for self acceptance.

Stoping is a way, but what is needed FIRST is someone who gets the person to accept and be in good terms with himself.

Once the person is at peace, THEN there is an *option* to try stop it.
 
Mattknots1738 said:
i have a girlfriend and i just want to be better and do better for her, for us 😓
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start with the internal acceptance as well as the spirit then the transition to pornography abstinence will be less painful. Change can only happen to the willfully strong as well as those strong in their faiths/values.
 
alright ill answer this with... accept in some weird or odd degree (even if its perverse) you 'like' it because brain functionality and stuff. HOWEVER YOU yourself is seeking to be better for the sake of YOUR spirit through YOUR free will. your values/spirit/faith. it allows for a more painless transition into willful abstinence

that also includes finding the internal reason (unless stated from the beginning) it could be emptiness or something missing. could be some wild card flare (idk im just throwing poop on wall and hoping you understand this part). the most important reason you are doing this is to improve your faith of -insert immovable reason here-.
 
Mattknots1738 said:
sorry sorry lol
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thats at least my personal take on it. theres nothing wrong with this site in itself since it AT LEAST respects animal life and has a health discussions part. (personally i don't know how people actively harms animal life and not feel hollow inside).


in comparison to other sites this one is mainly more in tune to welfare/fairness to the animal partner involved regardless what hormone intents say internally. all that truly matters is again the welfare of each encounter. and if you are in such a encounter the main goal (again) is to evaluate self awareness in a situation so mutual respect is achieved.
 
theres nothing more i personally want than someone to alleviate their suffering (i do mean this metaphorically or rhetorically or poetically or theoretically or any other fancy way) kek can't resist that but i do mean it.
 
Reconscope said:
alright ill answer this with... accept in some weird or odd degree (even if its perverse) you 'like' it because brain functionality and stuff. HOWEVER YOU yourself is seeking to be better for the sake of YOUR spirit through YOUR free will. your values/spirit/faith. it allows for a more painless transition into willful abstinence

that also includes finding the internal reason (unless stated from the beginning) it could be emptiness or something missing. could be some wild card flare (idk im just throwing poop on wall and hoping you understand this part). the most important reason you are doing this is to improve your faith of -insert immovable reason here-.
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ahhh i see i see, i get it now, and i respect this place because there are people who really care and are genuinely helpful ( you for example, thank you, i appreciate you )

i’ll continue to work on myself and being a better boyfriend, working on my bad habits and making good decision. i want to be the best version of myself yk what i mean.
 
Mattknots1738 said:
ahhh i see i see, i get it now, and i respect this place because there are people who really care and are genuinely helpful ( you for example, thank you, i appreciate you )

i’ll continue to work on myself and being a better boyfriend, working on my bad habits and making good decision. i want to be the best version of myself yk what i mean.
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no worries i totally understand what you mean. even if im a hornball in the worst of times. everyone has a difficulty in their life they want to overcome. for me im working on overcoming my own dependance on other's 'advice' even though my internal 'voice' wants to follow a passion.

life is what you make it and if people or urges control you then was it really yours to choose or did someone 'play the game' for you? thats where self awareness and discipline is key. without losing heart or compassion in the process. its better to see everyone with a soft and open ended view and to those who seek harm its best to learn then pray for the best even if you cut them off to limit damage.

personally despite my own 'affliction' as normal people call it. i seek to better animal lives when possible, imagine what life is like from their view.
 
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Mattknots1738 said:
Hey sorry to put this here but i just want to get this off of my chest. I’m not proud of the person i am. Ive done some really messed i
up things and hurt people i care so deeply about. i’ve had to admit to things i didn’t want to admit to, and i really just want to change. i’m too young to be hurting people i care about with my actions. I want to stop, stop looking at all this, im not saying it’s wrong but i just want to change. has anyone stopped these behaviors or even things as being gay. i don’t want to offend anyone i just want to change and make this decision for myself. i am looking for help, tips, advice, anything. please
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Find a shrink. The people here are neither trained, nor inclined to advise you to stop....why would they? The balance to do that is not a hallmark of Kinksters.

Youre going to have to find the willpower inside yourself if you really want to stop. The wanting to stop, and the fear and shame, indicate that you're not a zoo, but a voyeur with a specialized kink. Its not hopeless, but it's likely an addiction. A shrink can help with that ....there is no 12 Step Program for doggie fuckers, let alone for watchers. Seek professional help, if you arent having us on.
 
Mattknots1738 said:
Hey sorry to put this here but i just want to get this off of my chest. I’m not proud of the person i am. Ive done some really messed i
up things and hurt people i care so deeply about. i’ve had to admit to things i didn’t want to admit to, and i really just want to change. i’m too young to be hurting people i care about with my actions. I want to stop, stop looking at all this, im not saying it’s wrong but i just want to change. has anyone stopped these behaviors or even things as being gay. i don’t want to offend anyone i just want to change and make this decision for myself. i am looking for help, tips, advice, anything. please
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Counseling Maybe
 
Mattknots1738 said:
Hey sorry to put this here but i just want to get this off of my chest. I’m not proud of the person i am. Ive done some really messed i
up things and hurt people i care so deeply about. i’ve had to admit to things i didn’t want to admit to, and i really just want to change. i’m too young to be hurting people i care about with my actions. I want to stop, stop looking at all this, im not saying it’s wrong but i just want to change. has anyone stopped these behaviors or even things as being gay. i don’t want to offend anyone i just want to change and make this decision for myself. i am looking for help, tips, advice, anything. please
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Imma be honest with you. You gotta stop putting so much energy into shit that doesn’t help you. I hide, me being gay and being into zoo from everyone. Some things are better left unknown, In my very humble opinion. I don’t buy into that “live your truth” you’re so brave” bs. Yeah of course be real, but some shit is meant to stay personal. I know what I do is fucked up, and I know Inma weirdo for being into this shit. Fuck it tho, I still fuck with me, the real me. Dont let one thing define you, and dont be married to any idea.
 
At this point just unplug your internet if your being serious, your last log in was 6 days ago at 5:33 in the morning.

The ole classic case of the self loathing zoo. Why don't you just try to focus the interest away from sexual gratification.

At the sane time you aren't hurting anyone by getting off to videos online. Many of us don't feel the need to watch porn anymore, you can't probably guess why.
 
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