Thank You All

[CaptainK9]

I know I've been rather melancholy as of late (for obvious reasons) but I'm gonna try to be more optimistic and positive, starting with this Thread.

First, as the title states, Thank You. Although I've never met any of you personally (and probably never will) it's nice to belong to a community that isn't judgmental. I've pretty much been disowned by my friends and family because I tend to have a big mouth when I get depressed and drunk. Life's been really rough lately, especially facing the reality of losing my job and potentially being homeless again (which I'd rather be dead before that happens again). It's even tougher since my Husky is 13 and has been having her health decline a lot. The fact that there's nothing I can do tears my heart out.

Second, there is some good news! My mommy doesn't know (or maybe she does but it's never been brought up) but I was talking to a friend the other night, crying and exclaiming about how I don't give a fuck if my Father hates me (since I hate him), I don't care if my Sister hates me (since I really don't like how selfish and disrespectful she has been to me and the fact that she abuses animals) but I don't think I could take it if my mommy disowned me. "Wait, your 31 and you still call her mommy??" Yes. I love my mommy ?

Third and finally, the fact that you guys never criticized or complained when I post depressing nonsense, I appreciate it. One of my friends even told me to kill myself, and although I'll make cynical jokes about suicide, it's no joking matter. I'm no psychiatrist but I've spent my whole life dealing with crap. If any one needs to talk about whatever, please don't hesitate to PM me. I'll even give you my personal phone number and you can call anytime of day. Please, stay safe. Life is too precious

You guys are great! ?

 

[SigmaTheZeta]

@CaptainK9

Something I will say about "disowning" is that it's a load of horse shit, usually.

In cases where the relationship you had with that person was already toxic, even if it was not obviously toxic, coming out and telling them the truth about yourself means that you are not playing their sick power game anymore.

Usually, if there were even the raw beginnings of a healthy relationship in the first place, they get over their tantrums after a few weeks or a couple of months, and you can start getting back in touch with them again.

The friend that punched you in the face might end up being your best bet if you try to see it from his point-of-view. He sees the dog as being like his son, and you dealt him a pretty big shock. If you said it while you were drunk, then the way you said it was probably insensitive. If you can meet him halfway on his point-of-view v. your point-of-view, then I would not want to call it hopeless unless there is something about this friend that you have not shared with us or don't want to share with us. If he has consistently been a good friend and a healthy friend, then maybe he deserves another chance.

Gay people have been finding this out for years. They are completely alone for a few weeks, but when their friends and families have had time to process the new information, some of them are often a lot more reasonable. This is not always true. Sometimes, they have to start over, starting with choosing their friends better and coming out early.

But one thing that is consistent is that the people that desert you entirely are usually the people in your life that you really needed the least.