nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
guess it took a very emotional trauma for me to try to open up to like-minded people to see what they might think... my english isn't the best and i'm not even sure i'm in the right section so i apologize for both in advance
3 days ago my boy (my profile pic) died. he twisted his stomach and got deemed too old to try to save with surgery when rushed to the vet. the only option was to not prolong his suffering.
my world shattered that evening... it lost color. all i do these past days is either trying not to cry or crying thinking about him. i almost don't eat, he's not there to share with. i have trouble falling asleep, he's not there to cuddle with. no matter the temperature, he'd lay with me every single night.
the only one at least partially keeping me from drowning in sorrow is my girl. i try to interact with her like nothing happened, but she took the sudden shift from pack dog to solo dog pretty badly, lost the same spark as me. i'm also pretty sure she can sense how distressed i am through my act.
i thought it'll get at least a little better when i return to work on monday. it got even worse... i work in a factory, so my job is a thing a monkey could do and thus there's lots of empty time just thinking about him not being there anymore. and of course a coworker immediately noticed i looked depressed, asked why, i answered and worse turned to worst... the assortment of "it's just a dog" and "get over it" type of answers did hurt, but the most hurtful was the one from this self-proclaimed-dog-person-lady who went "did you choose a new dog yet?" i think they actually ment well, it's just i believe noone besides zoos will ever see dogs as anything more than at best pets at worst an alarm that runs on kibble.
the only really helpful people were my best friend and his girlfriend. the friend was the one who looked up available vets (it was almost 8 in the evening) when i was just sitting there beside my boy having a panic attack, not knowing what to do. the girlfriend was the one who drove me there and provided consoling in the first seconds of my realization it's all over and i collapsed in her car. later, they helped me bury him while my girl just stood there not really knowing what are we doing and a few times tried to unwrap him from the blanket i put him in.
right now i'm still not sure what to do with myself. all i can do is try to keep my girl on her regular schedule even though she isn't that much into walks. the boy, in his 14 years of age, was the one springing up like a puppy whenever i asked "someone wants to go for a walk?" and she just followed... she's also very independent, sleeps just outside of cuddling range of the bed most of the time and doesn't really care about my food, usually just tries a bite as if she's tasting it for me and the boy and then goes about her business. i think she sees herself as more of a guardian than a companion/lover... outside of heat at least. and that's now the incredibly sad part, the boy only had eyes for me even when she was in heat. i never had to split them up when i was going to work.
maybe, if i ever get my shit together. i'll rescue another dog. that's what the boy originaly was, a 10 years old starved-out mess of a dog noone wanted. he gave me a chance to show him what love is, that all humans aren't dicks and the next 4 years were fucking worth it...
so, my fellow people afflicted by the same short lifespan unfairness, how did you cope with your lover's departure? i sure could use a pointer. and to all you who didn't have to go through this yet: go hug your boys and girls for me, please. there's never enough time....
3 days ago my boy (my profile pic) died. he twisted his stomach and got deemed too old to try to save with surgery when rushed to the vet. the only option was to not prolong his suffering.
my world shattered that evening... it lost color. all i do these past days is either trying not to cry or crying thinking about him. i almost don't eat, he's not there to share with. i have trouble falling asleep, he's not there to cuddle with. no matter the temperature, he'd lay with me every single night.
the only one at least partially keeping me from drowning in sorrow is my girl. i try to interact with her like nothing happened, but she took the sudden shift from pack dog to solo dog pretty badly, lost the same spark as me. i'm also pretty sure she can sense how distressed i am through my act.
i thought it'll get at least a little better when i return to work on monday. it got even worse... i work in a factory, so my job is a thing a monkey could do and thus there's lots of empty time just thinking about him not being there anymore. and of course a coworker immediately noticed i looked depressed, asked why, i answered and worse turned to worst... the assortment of "it's just a dog" and "get over it" type of answers did hurt, but the most hurtful was the one from this self-proclaimed-dog-person-lady who went "did you choose a new dog yet?" i think they actually ment well, it's just i believe noone besides zoos will ever see dogs as anything more than at best pets at worst an alarm that runs on kibble.
the only really helpful people were my best friend and his girlfriend. the friend was the one who looked up available vets (it was almost 8 in the evening) when i was just sitting there beside my boy having a panic attack, not knowing what to do. the girlfriend was the one who drove me there and provided consoling in the first seconds of my realization it's all over and i collapsed in her car. later, they helped me bury him while my girl just stood there not really knowing what are we doing and a few times tried to unwrap him from the blanket i put him in.
right now i'm still not sure what to do with myself. all i can do is try to keep my girl on her regular schedule even though she isn't that much into walks. the boy, in his 14 years of age, was the one springing up like a puppy whenever i asked "someone wants to go for a walk?" and she just followed... she's also very independent, sleeps just outside of cuddling range of the bed most of the time and doesn't really care about my food, usually just tries a bite as if she's tasting it for me and the boy and then goes about her business. i think she sees herself as more of a guardian than a companion/lover... outside of heat at least. and that's now the incredibly sad part, the boy only had eyes for me even when she was in heat. i never had to split them up when i was going to work.
maybe, if i ever get my shit together. i'll rescue another dog. that's what the boy originaly was, a 10 years old starved-out mess of a dog noone wanted. he gave me a chance to show him what love is, that all humans aren't dicks and the next 4 years were fucking worth it...
so, my fellow people afflicted by the same short lifespan unfairness, how did you cope with your lover's departure? i sure could use a pointer. and to all you who didn't have to go through this yet: go hug your boys and girls for me, please. there's never enough time....