so, keeping safety and sanity in mind - i'll just introduce myself as being into this kink for years now, although this is the first time i've ever posted anything or admitted it anywhere. in my 40s, and in upstate new york. bi and curious about playing. although i have explored a bit when i was younger. a friend ended up telling me about this site so of course i joined to see what the hype was about. looking forward to hopefully meeting some safe people eventually.