Pony Mare or Mare? Which one is the better partner?

[TheZetaMeta]

Hello!

I’m finally getting around to hopefully soon get my first mare, and well- my first priority is to get a mare that I love, but more importantly, loves me.

However, the I’m at a bit of a crossroads as to what I should be looking at.

A pony mare or a mare, a pony mare obviously is easier to have sex with, and if I ever did want to bring them inside is obviously easier.

However, mares I personally find are a bit more attractive.

I’m really not sure which I should be looking at primarily, any insight would be great! Thanks.

 

[TheEquineMystique]

There are so many questions one should ask when considering horse ownership. Your question, the size of the horse, while it is a consideration, is one that is less important than other questions.

Do you have horse experience? And I mean more than just hanging around barns and other people's horses. Do you have any experience in their care and upkeep? Grooming, cleaning and maintainance of their feet, general daily care- cleaning stalls, water bucket upkeep, manure management, dietary considerations, etc.

Do you have proper facilities to care for a horse? Do you plan to have them on your own property, or board? If you plan have them on your property, do you have property management skills needed for horse ownership? Having them on your own property is nice, but a lot of work. Also, if you plan to have a horse on your own property, you should avoid having just one. Horses are herd animals and need the company of other herd animals (horses preferred, but can be donkeys, mules, goats, etc) to feel safe and happy. If you were to board them, how often will you see them and spend time with them?

What do you want to do with your horse? Do you want to ride? Will your horse be a pasture pet? Regardless if you want to ride or not, horses need A LOT of time and attention to bond to their owners. Do you have that time you can give your horse so that they'll bond to you in the way you desire? If you want an amazingly close bond (which I strongly recommend before you become sexually active with your mare), you need to spend DAILY time with them, and you will need to learn proper horsemanship techniques to make sure your mare is well-behaved and easy to handle, not just for you, but for the safety of others.

I don't ask all these questions to discourage you, I ask them to know if you are truly prepared for the task that is equine management. I have had horses over 20 years, and they take daily effort and lots of time. The more you put into your horses, the more you'll get out of them. They are truly a joy to be with when you have happy, healthy, contented horses that WANT to be with you... and that doesn't even include any of the sexuality. That's just the cherry on top to an amazing relationship with one of the most amazing animals on earth!

So, while I understand the desire to enjoy sex with a mare (and I truly do, as I consider my primary riding horse my equine wife and we are intimate often), please think of what the horse that you are looking at NEEDS to be happy and healthy. Remember that their needs should always come first, as they depend on us for those things.

If you would like to talk about horses more in-depth, please feel free to DM me.

 

[TheZetaMeta]

There are so many questions one should ask when considering horse ownership. Your question, the size of the horse, while it is a consideration, is one that is less important than other questions.

Do you have horse experience? And I mean more than just hanging around barns and other people's horses. Do you have any experience in their care and upkeep? Grooming, cleaning and maintainance of their feet, general daily care- cleaning stalls, water bucket upkeep, manure management, dietary considerations, etc.

Do you have proper facilities to care for a horse? Do you plan to have them on your own property, or board? If you plan have them on your property, do you have property management skills needed for horse ownership? Having them on your own property is nice, but a lot of work. Also, if you plan to have a horse on your own property, you should avoid having just one. Horses are herd animals and need the company of other herd animals (horses preferred, but can be donkeys, mules, goats, etc) to feel safe and happy. If you were to board them, how often will you see them and spend time with them?

What do you want to do with your horse? Do you want to ride? Will your horse be a pasture pet? Regardless if you want to ride or not, horses need A LOT of time and attention to bond to their owners. Do you have that time you can give your horse so that they'll bond to you in the way you desire? If you want an amazingly close bond (which I strongly recommend before you become sexually active with your mare), you need to spend DAILY time with them, and you will need to learn proper horsemanship techniques to make sure your mare is well-behaved and easy to handle, not just for you, but for the safety of others.

I don't ask all these questions to discourage you, I ask them to know if you are truly prepared for the task that is equine management. I have had horses over 20 years, and they take daily effort and lots of time. The more you put into your horses, the more you'll get out of them. They are truly a joy to be with when you have happy, healthy, contented horses that WANT to be with you... and that doesn't even include any of the sexuality. That's just the cherry on top to an amazing relationship with one of the most amazing animals on earth!

So, while I understand the desire to enjoy sex with a mare (and I truly do, as I consider my primary riding horse my equine wife and we are intimate often), please think of what the horse that you are looking at NEEDS to be happy and healthy. Remember that their needs should always come first, as they depend on us for those things.

If you would like to talk about horses more in-depth, please feel free to DM me.

Hey there,

I definitely should have gone into more detail in my post, does in hindsight make it look like my only concern is sex lol; just a bit short of time.

I did used to have a horse as a kid, just a gelding though, my parents divorced and my dad took the horse.

So, on that note I can’t say I have the most experience but I do know the basics.

Anywho, I really don’t want to elaborate too much here for privacy reasons, but I’m getting a new house, on a farm, that I can raise animals on.

My own “job” if you can call it that, means I will be at home all the time, so I’m hoping attention won’t be an issue at all.

Privacy for me is a huge issue though, again, I cannot go into much details but my income is all from YouTube; and as such that warrants a lot of unneeded scrutiny, which, concerns me to no end.

It’s actually why previously I was so cagey about getting a mare, but I’m hoping I should be ok now.

Honestly thinking about it, just privacy is my main concern really, again, I get an unnatural amount of attention from my career so I need something or some sort of routine that won’t raise any suspicion.

 

[koozi]

There are so many questions one should ask when considering horse ownership. Your question, the size of the horse, while it is a consideration, is one that is less important than other questions.

Do you have horse experience? And I mean more than just hanging around barns and other people's horses. Do you have any experience in their care and upkeep? Grooming, cleaning and maintainance of their feet, general daily care- cleaning stalls, water bucket upkeep, manure management, dietary considerations, etc.

Do you have proper facilities to care for a horse? Do you plan to have them on your own property, or board? If you plan have them on your property, do you have property management skills needed for horse ownership? Having them on your own property is nice, but a lot of work. Also, if you plan to have a horse on your own property, you should avoid having just one. Horses are herd animals and need the company of other herd animals (horses preferred, but can be donkeys, mules, goats, etc) to feel safe and happy. If you were to board them, how often will you see them and spend time with them?

What do you want to do with your horse? Do you want to ride? Will your horse be a pasture pet? Regardless if you want to ride or not, horses need A LOT of time and attention to bond to their owners. Do you have that time you can give your horse so that they'll bond to you in the way you desire? If you want an amazingly close bond (which I strongly recommend before you become sexually active with your mare), you need to spend DAILY time with them, and you will need to learn proper horsemanship techniques to make sure your mare is well-behaved and easy to handle, not just for you, but for the safety of others.

I don't ask all these questions to discourage you, I ask them to know if you are truly prepared for the task that is equine management. I have had horses over 20 years, and they take daily effort and lots of time. The more you put into your horses, the more you'll get out of them. They are truly a joy to be with when you have happy, healthy, contented horses that WANT to be with you... and that doesn't even include any of the sexuality. That's just the cherry on top to an amazing relationship with one of the most amazing animals on earth!

So, while I understand the desire to enjoy sex with a mare (and I truly do, as I consider my primary riding horse my equine wife and we are intimate often), please think of what the horse that you are looking at NEEDS to be happy and healthy. Remember that their needs should always come first, as they depend on us for those things.

If you would like to talk about horses more in-depth, please feel free to DM me.

These are great questions and things to take into consideration.

I've seen far too many cases where people will buy it for the fact that they can, without considering IF they should.

For example, the girls who always wanted a pony when they were kids, so they get one when they're ~16 and don't understand how much work needs to go into raising and looking after these animals. They end up neglected and often end up sold to another person who doesn't have the right facilities to look after them either, or to a neglectful breeder.

 

[Mare Lover 1975]

Disregarding all the normal ownership and care issues and assuming you already know all that deciding between a pony or horse is nothing more than personal preference, a large pony and a small horse for example are literally no different in any meaningful way other than name.

If you are planning on riding often picking a mare large enough to be able to carry you without issues is important for her sake and health, if you only plan on riding rarely or for short periods then a large pony would be perfectly fine.

Not planning to ride at all, then pick whatever one has the personality that matches you best and hope you develop a deeper relationship with her, from personal experience with mares ranging from very small miniatures to rather large drafts any equine can be the perfect loving partner if given the opportunity.

Just my 2 cents as a long term horse lover.

 

[kyhorse]

They’ve all answered the question with a lot more detail. Personally, I prefer horses over minis. I love my miniatures but unless you’re a driver, it’s tough to go do stuff with them. And to me, mare feels a lot better than pony. But everyone has their preferences.