Maintaining Secrecy

Hi I'm new to this forum. I'd like to explore sex with my black lab but I'm afraid of doing it alone. My husband does not know about my desire and I can not ever share it with him or have him find out. When he is at work I play with my lab, mostly having him lick me and me lick and suck him. I'm afraid to try anything more without someone there to help me, but I'm not looking to meet anyone. How do I get over the fear of taking the next step? What if something goes wrong? Will my husband be able to tell if we have sex?
 
My husband does not know about my desire and I can not ever share it with him or have him find out.
In this situation I would probably put some thought into whether it is even worth trying. Is the risk of loosing your current relationship small enough that you are willing to risk it, or not?
How do I get over the fear of taking the next step?
Are you willing to risk your dog's life probably and whatever other massive damage to reputation?
Will my husband be able to tell if we have sex?
Who knows, nobody knows how things are arranged and work in your life so nobody but you can reasonably predict this.

If you were a zoophile in a human relationship you do not want and in fact you wanted an animal nonhuman partner, I would probably give you a different advice.
But you seem to be a regular heterosexual human in a human relationship you want, so risking all of that for having sex with a dog might to be a good idea.
 
Welcome to the forum
Tbh, if your husband doesn't know, and if you feel like you can't tell him, and keep things secretive, then it's kind of a hard deal to try and go any further anyway... look at it this way, if you can't talk to him about it, you might lose a lot more than you get if you experiment and he finds out...

But, if you'd want to risk it for curiosity, but not want to leave MUCH evidence, then i'd advise caution, socks for his feet, or a thicker piece of clothing so you don't get scratches, doing it in the bathroom where it's easy to clean off excess hair... thoroughly wash after, aside from weird dog smell, you should be fine, but do remember that dogs can carry bacteria too, so make sure your dog is clean too

but i'd still suggest maybe trying to see what your husbands opinion on it is anyway
 
I am a guy can I offer my 2 cents?

I think if you need a partner then chat to other female Zoo's here that are from your area.

Why do I say this.

Well for starters, there are a hundred or more men that will jump up and down like Gru s minions for this chance, but if you have this individual come to your home then someone is going to notice, and it will either be your husband will find out and he will think you are cheating or worse the truth will slip and its over.

As for a female you can gave her around as much as you like and just say you met a new friend at the mall and she visits with her puppa also. Then you can be given the help you need and keep it with an explainable reason to your hubby.

Just take your time getting to know the helper you choose before you arrange anything.

Good luck.
 
Thank you all for your responses. The question of is it worth the risk is what I struggle with. I value my marriage and do not want my life to be turned upside down. But there is this insatiable desire I can't shake, and he hasn't found out what I've done so far, so that's what makes me feel like I can do this. It's really hard.

The practical tips for cleanliness and hiding scratches are great, thank you. And the idea of a female to help me with this is something I haven't thought of at all. I still don't think I want to involve another person, simply because of my desire for anonymity. But I would be much more comfortable with a woman in this sort of situation where we would both value discretion and for the reasons stated.
 
Same here. What brought about your desire in the first place? You love your husband but how is your marriage?
 
I can't say for sure what started it, but I suspect it was seeing dogs mate when I was growing up. We always had several dogs. But I never did anything other than search for porn and masturbate. Fast forward many years now with a dog of my own, I want to experience what has been a long standing fantasy.

I imagine many people have fetishes they don't share with their significant other, so I don't see this as entirely different. For me it's purely sexual, I don't view it as a relationship with my dog. The thought of his engorged penis makes me squirm in a good way as I sit here and type this. But I do know it's a entirely different lifestyle for some people.

I do love my husband and our marriage is good. There is zero chance he would be ok with this, so I keep it from him for that reason, not because I can't share things with him or I want to go behind his back.
 
Sorry I did not mean to offend.

You are like many of the community, long desire but unable to act or scared, which is understandable.

I for one am in your shoes but a mirror copy. Male, married a a non-zoo. My internal feelings are so strong it is effecting how I love my wife, but we have a son I dearly love and would never leave.

So I keep it a secret other than here.
 
there is no perfect answer, I have hid this part of my life for 45+ years unless it was someone I wanted to know. Allow yourself time alone with him and train him to mind his manners unless invited and you will do fine.
 
I'm zoo my wife if on the fence but I talked to her about it and she is willing to try and also help. I think trying to approach the subject is extremely important. Maybe he'll understand maybe he won't but if he loves you he should at least be willing to talk to you. I know it's hard and scary and everyone has unique situations and maybe it isn't safe to open up but then like other have said is it worth the risk to your current relationship or not
 
I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't "think" my husband would do that, but his reaction would be in that general category.
I would think that more men would be into having a lady into it ladies wanting a man in it.

Personally I would love a partner into it.
 
First off, welcome to the forum. I have read some of the advice you have been given and it just goes to show how good and genuine many people are in this community. Coming here allows us to share in our common struggles and makes things generally feel better. Like others, I don't think there is an easy answer and it is best to proceed with caution. You know your husband better than anyone and your instincts are probably correct in not sharing this with him if it does not feel right. When I was married, I knew there was no way my wife would understand this side of me and that her reaction would be one of repulsion rather than acceptance. Plus, I had no desire to hurt her and I feared hurting her even more than I feared the additional consequences. Having these feelings and desires does not mean you don't love your husband or that you wish to run off and live exclusively with pack of dogs. It means that you are a human being with a sexual desire and curiosity that extends beyond the "norm".

I wish you much luck and I hope that being here and part of this community helps.
 
First off, welcome to the forum. I have read some of the advice you have been given and it just goes to show how good and genuine many people are in this community. Coming here allows us to share in our common struggles and makes things generally feel better. Like others, I don't think there is an easy answer and it is best to proceed with caution. You know your husband better than anyone and your instincts are probably correct in not sharing this with him if it does not feel right. When I was married, I knew there was no way my wife would understand this side of me and that her reaction would be one of repulsion rather than acceptance. Plus, I had no desire to hurt her and I feared hurting her even more than I feared the additional consequences. Having these feelings and desires does not mean you don't love your husband or that you wish to run off and live exclusively with pack of dogs. It means that you are a human being with a sexual desire and curiosity that extends beyond the "norm".

I wish you much luck and I hope that being here and part of this community helps.
Very kind advice. Keep it up.
 
I can't say for sure what started it, but I suspect it was seeing dogs mate when I was growing up. We always had several dogs. But I never did anything other than search for porn and masturbate. Fast forward many years now with a dog of my own, I want to experience what has been a long standing fantasy.

I imagine many people have fetishes they don't share with their significant other, so I don't see this as entirely different. For me it's purely sexual, I don't view it as a relationship with my dog. The thought of his engorged penis makes me squirm in a good way as I sit here and type this. But I do know it's a entirely different lifestyle for some people.

I do love my husband and our marriage is good. There is zero chance he would be ok with this, so I keep it from him for that reason, not because I can't share things with him or I want to go behind his back.
Same here. It is hard talking and meeting others with the same interest. Especially in Maryland.
 
I dont know if my advice will be of any help, but I think the most important thing to do is not lose the fear of being discovered. The problem with doing things covered is that, eventually, we get comfortable and slip, so my most precious advice is even if you find a way to leave zero marks and traces of being taken by your dog, dont let this make you feel confident. I am not trying to sound disincoraging or anything negative, but keep in mind that we can never be too careful.
A few tips, as described above, are the socks (remember, thick socks, and if possible more than one per paw) and doing things on the bathroom, conditioning your dog to only go for you in determinate situations.
as a few tips for the first time that your dog take you, be mindful of his size, and slowly work your way into it. dildogging might be a good way to start getting used to his size before actually attempting a mounting situation, and positions like missionary when the dog cant have that much control, and you can better dictate the rythm and the penetration
 
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