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how do i tell a friend im a zoo?

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i have had these feelings for ages but relatively new to the community. i want to tell my friend but im worried they are going to cut me out or out me to the rest of the friend group. should i tell them anyway or just keep it a secret?
 
i have had these feelings for ages but relatively new to the community. i want to tell my friend but im worried they are going to cut me out or out me to the rest of the friend group. should i tell them anyway or just keep it a secret?
That’s the hard part you don’t.

The percentage of people that share your feelings is exceptionally low in the general public. Even those who do are formed by the cultural norms to reject those feelings as attraction. Any direct admittance to zoo is as taboo as it gets. However if you are comfortable with these people and think the risk is worth it you will need to subtly dance around the topic for potentially years looking for someone you trust to be receptive.

Thinks like saying “that animal is beautiful” or getting their opinions about unusual “toys”
That way it’s never a direct statement.
 
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i have had these feelings for ages but relatively new to the community. i want to tell my friend but im worried they are going to cut me out or out me to the rest of the friend group. should i tell them anyway or just keep it a secret?
Yes, keep it secret, even if you have a trusted friend (s), nothing prevents him or her to repeat it, even if it is to mess around, whether between friends/ family/ other!
 
Agree with the people that have replied already. Not really safe to tel anyone, especially if you own a dog. Wouldn’t want to risk them outting/reporting you and them you lose your pup.

That’s unfortunately the downside of this is that you do have to keep it hidden from people. Unless you have very good reason to believe they might be into it, I wouldn’t
 
I have to go so far as to turn the other cheek when people, even my close friends say things in opposition, and to make fun of zoos. It's just a piece of me that isn't acceptable to most others, and I have to be okay with it
 
You judge as you know the situation better...

Look at my post history and you will find when I told my S.O. Thought it went belly up to start..
 
i have had these feelings for ages but relatively new to the community. i want to tell my friend but im worried they are going to cut me out or out me to the rest of the friend group. should i tell them anyway or just keep it a secret?
Why do you want to tell your friend?
 
Well you're lucky but the O.P. is talking about a friend,.not someone he is romantically and emotionally intimate with. Revealing a secret like this will have consequences in life for years to come. It is a box that should not be opened. Trust me.
Even if she was just my friend...

My point is only the OP really knows the situation.

If there are signs that can be read into.... if done right. Etc

However if none.. nope
 
The situation put bluntly is like this.......it's the dumbest idea in the history of dumb ideas to reveal it to anyone you know. Stop giving bad advice, ok?
How is it bad advice?

Would you have said the same to me? Yes...

Guess what.. you would of been wrong.

The situation put bluntly is like this.......it's the dumbest idea in the history of dumb ideas to reveal it to anyone you know. Stop giving bad advice, ok?
Point here is no one but the OP knows what will be good advice.

In my case yours would of been bad advice.

Totally depends on situation.

Anyway...

Also do not try to silence me.

Have a good un
 
i think most people should do their best to keep it a secret, but i wouldn't tell that to anyone unless
1. they were definitely a zoo themselves or
2. i'd do it with the expectation they'd never speak to me again
 
I concur with what everyone else in this thread is saying. Why bother telling someone something they don't need to know? The fact that you're making this thread, though, seems to show that, for whatever reason, you do have a motivation to tell this person. I would heavily, heavily, heavily interrogate that motivation. You should be able to tell us (and more importantly, yourself) exactly why you want to tell someone you're a zoophile. If you can't do that with confidence, you should not tell them yet.

If you decide to ignore what everyone in this thread is telling you, this is how I would approach it. Note, I have never told anyone in real life, so this is purely hypothetical. One way or another, try to broach a conversation ABOUT zoophilia without saying "I am a zoophile". Say you saw people talking about it on twitter or the news or something. Zoophilia is a taboo topic, so you can expect this person to kneejerk react negatively. I mean, I'm a zoophile and if a friend brought up zoophilia to me in person, I would also instinctively react negatively. It's an instinctive tendency to seek social approval. In response to this, you can say something like "that's what I thought at first, too, but the arguments I saw said X, Y, and Z and it made me reconsider, what do you think?" This would be the turning point, where you're asking your friend to actually engage with the morality of zoophilia. They will react either negatively or positively. If they react positively, you can keep discussing it and work your way up to saying something like "I'm glad we agree on the ethics of zoophilia, the truth is I am actually a zoophile myself." Most importantly, if they react negatively, you haven't committed yourself to anything yet. You have kept an off-ramp for yourself. You can just say "oh, yeah, that makes sense. I thought what I saw was convincing at first, but I think you're right. Zoophilia is wrong after all." And then never bring it up again.

If you're really committed to doing it, I hope the above strategy is helpful. Like I said, it's purely hypothetical, but I can't think of any better approaches. Despite writing all this, I don't think you should do it. Unless this is a romantic partner, the risks are high and the benefits are small. If you're looking for understanding and validation, it's better to seek it from places like this to risk ending friendships (or worse) by discussing it with IRL friends.
 
Don't. No different from telling your friend you like to gag yourself on dragon dildos, just way too much info about something that will benefit nobody if they know it. Only one I would consider telling would be a romantic partner, and even that is with some heavy testing of waters beforehand.
 
How is it bad advice?

Would you have said the same to me? Yes...

Guess what.. you would of been wrong.


Point here is no one but the OP knows what will be good advice.

In my case yours would of been bad advice.

Totally depends on situation.

Anyway...

Also do not try to silence me.

Have a good un
Silence you?

No one's trying. Dumb ideas remain dumb ideas for eternity....IF you got lucky, which sounds like what youre hinting at, Chumley, just remember one big fat fact.....the jury is still out. Beware of it filing back in.

In other words, Ace, friendships end, fade, and die off. People talk, especially when new friendships form. You won't be off the hook even if you die.

Advising people based on experience (IF you actually have it) is fine, until you tell someone its okay to play in the street at rush hour, because YOU did it and walked away. And if you DON'T have experience, advice from you is valueless.

No one but the OP knows what is good advice? Ummmm.....If they asked for advice, I beg to differ; patently, they do not.
 
I haven't advised anything, however the OP knows the situation and his relationships better than any of us.

You all would of said the same had I asked... yet I assure you me and my finacee would still be in the same boat now.

Lucky... not so.. I did read her right.. however she probably wasn't ready to admit to me in case I was having her on...

I agree it's a tricky one that must be approached with huge caution... from someone has been caught and publicly shamed via tabloids I know that more than anyone.

I probably have more experience in the dangers and also the positives that come with being open than most people here.

Again...

We can all give our own opinions but it down to the op to figure that out.

We all give our opinions and views... and mostly here it will be people giving the err of caution by a long long way... however others may have different views and that is fine to also give as that is what the OP is asking.

Just because it goes against yours doesn't mean it shouldn't be said.

Jay
 
I haven't advised anything, however the OP knows the situation and his relationships better than any of us.

You all would of said the same had I asked... yet I assure you me and my finacee would still be in the same boat now.

Lucky... not so.. I did read her right.. however she probably wasn't ready to admit to me in case I was having her on...

I agree it's a tricky one that must be approached with huge caution... from someone has been caught and publicly shamed via tabloids I know that more than anyone.

I probably have more experience in the dangers and also the positives that come with being open than most people here.

Again...

We can all give our own opinions but it down to the op to figure that out.

We all give our opinions and views... and mostly here it will be people giving the err of caution by a long long way... however others may have different views and that is fine to also give as that is what the OP is asking.

Just because it goes against yours doesn't mean it shouldn't be said.

Jay
Whatever. It is your right to be a dumb ass.
Worst case scenario for coming out or being exposed........you could fucking get killed. How's that for a bad day? Best case scenario.......you get marked and it will follow you everywhere.
It's better to keep you mouth shut.
 
Looks like She's taking all the risk, bud....But whatever you say....just remember, when it falls apart, it may not bounce quite the way you think.
 
I personally think it is dependent on the person. I would never tell some of the people I have had as friends. But some friends are zoo. I personally think that unless you are in a relationship with someone, and even then it can be sketchy, you should keep it to yourself. It can ruin your life. I told my partner because I wanted him to understand why and I would rather be the person to tell him than him find out. But it went well for me, however this is not the norm
 
I'd say unless that individual has opening admitted to being a zoo don't even tell him not worth it! But on the other hand if your friend is totally receptive into it you know for a fact that they are one as well go ahead!
 
You could hire a singing candy gram
Or a mariachi band and you can sing it in a different language so they don't know what you're saying.

Or you can just be really obvious when y'all are out in public together like if you see like a sexy animal you can feel like damn look at that bitch mmmm nice.

You could go club hopping and afterwards confess to them. And if it goes poorly you can just wake up the next day and just claim somebody slip something in your drink and it made you all f****** weird.
 
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