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Help on accepting?

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So, I'm like 90% sure I'm a zoo. Thing is, though, I'm currently fine with it, but after like, some time passes I get the icky feeling of 'ew I'm thinking of having sex with a dog' and I hate it. Like, I watch and enjoy the porn stuff but... I just need help accepting this, whatever it is, and I don't think seeing a therapist would help because going to one and saying 'hey I'm a zoophile' doesn't sound like a great thing.
 
Is it disgust or guilt? Disgust goes away naturally with exposure (I'm speaking from experience), guilt may need some thinking.
 
Stats said:
So, I'm like 90% sure I'm a zoo. Thing is, though, I'm currently fine with it, but after like, some time passes I get the icky feeling of 'ew I'm thinking of having sex with a dog' and I hate it. Like, I watch and enjoy the porn stuff but... I just need help accepting this, whatever it is, and I don't think seeing a therapist would help because going to one and saying 'hey I'm a zoophile' doesn't sound like a great thing.
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Have you ever had a experience with an animal when you were younger, it could just be something simple that didn't register for a long time but is there in the background. If so, you may have disregarded it and buried in your mind as I'm sure your family would have told you this is "wrong" behavior. Did you have a dog in your family as a pet? Did you have positive experiences with him/her, like their loyalty or that they would protect you without regard for themselves or that they loved you without any conditions?
Are you conflicted about this now because you find it "wrong" from what you've been taught all you life? Do you have any feelings for animals or dogs in particular? Are they just sexual fantasies or do you really feel like there is an attachment to them, say because how they look or maybe one of the things from above?
Do you always follow what society considers "correct" behavior? Or do you follow your own heart and mind and are willing to be considered an "outcast" for doing so? Would that "icky feeling of 'ew I'm thinking of have sex with a dog" get worse for you if you did? Can you live with it without regrets if you did?
Not all fantasies are things we live out in life, some are better kept fantasies if we're not able to deal with the reality of the situation.
And no therapist that is any good is going to condemn you for your thoughts, although if you find that going to one would help, I suggest you just don't blurt it out like you mention. Bring it up in discussing your feelings and why are you having these desires. They're pretty much going to ask you the questions I have already posed to you.
I hope you find a resolution to the conflict you have over this decision that you can live without regrets.
 
Stats said:
It's honestly more disgust
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Then you are fine. As long as you don't think it's wrong, it should fade away with time. For me it took... A year? Half a year? It was a long time ago, I'm not sure. Just ignore it for a while.
 
Honestly acceptance time is different for everyone. Personally I have been around horses since I was young and nothing about them disgusts me, so my first realization for being zoo, I just hopped on my girl and was just fine, other folks I've talked to however, took longer to get over it. Sometimes even a year or more, it all depends on you, my friend. It's mind over matter, as long as you tell yourself "this is what i want" then you should be fine. Best if luck to you in your zoo journey:)
 
Make sure you listen to your feelings and understand them. Do you feel that way because of something you're seeing in the videos? What's done differently in your fantasies that feels better? Or are you just feeling guilty about what other people have said in their anger?

This is a reasonable topic to discuss with a therapist. You might need to be careful finding a good one, and there are threads about that here.

Best of luck!
 
Stats said:
So, I'm like 90% sure I'm a zoo. Thing is, though, I'm currently fine with it, but after like, some time passes I get the icky feeling of 'ew I'm thinking of having sex with a dog' and I hate it. Like, I watch and enjoy the porn stuff but... I just need help accepting this, whatever it is, and I don't think seeing a therapist would help because going to one and saying 'hey I'm a zoophile doesn't sound like a great thing.
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One, I can't stand therapists. I had to go to this one, who when I challenged him about success rate, said, "In this field, they joke, of all those who go to a therapist, 1/3 get better, 1/3 stay the same, and 1/3 get worse." So, I was going to settle for that, when he continued, "And back *before* there were therapists? About 1/3 got better, 1/3 stayed the same, and 1/3 got worse."

So I said, "Oh, so no difference then?" He replied, "Oh yeah. Different thirds."

And that's about as much credibility as I give them. My wife's dad is a "hippie family psychologist." Me, I'm a science major, right. I need proof. Data. Results. Him? All he needs is what he pulls out of his ass. I love the guy, but I can't stand his "scientific approach" -- since there ain't a lot of science to it.

They're like "professional storytellers." They tell you one story, you don't like it. So... they take your details, stir them up, tell you a different story. You don't like it. They mix them all up again, spin another story. This time it makes *sense* to you. You buy it. They send you a bill. You're cured.

Look. Do this. Adopt an existentialist policy of "I'll try all things three times. I must like it two out of three times to "be" that thing. If not, I'll cross it out, not go there again."

Then... if there is any anguish over it, figure out what causes the anguish. Is it... guilt because of conflicting values? Find out which value is pointless, cross it out. Anguish over. For me, it was Christian sexual torment. Anything sexual that was pleasureful was bad. Period. There is *no* positive Christian sexual model. Just doesn't exist. Any sex outside of procreation is evil. But... is your pussy or cock more "evil" than your ear? Your nose? Your kneecap? It's just a part of your body. With sensory organs designed... DESIGNED... to give pleasure. Great. So... how can obtaining pleasure FROM them be evil? It cannot.

The animals you are with, the same. If they permit, even encourage, and show pleasure from, sexual contact... WTF? That's pretty much a sign of Nature herself that things are copascetic.

If society does not agree, then ... don't tell society. Society has a LOT of questionable mores. Sex is just one of them.

Fuck society. You are NEVER obligated to align your sexual proclivities and interests with those of the "social" norm... whatever THAT is.

Anguish is over. Enjoy your life. You do not NEED to reconcile your existentialist experimenattions and experiencs. You just don't need to. Not a requirement of being human. Stand up for yourself! The world waited 4 billion years for your arrival. Take your turn, dude! It's yours!
 
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One, I can't stand therapists. I had to go to this one, who when I challenged him about success rate, said, "In this field, they joke, of all those who go to a therapist, 1/3 get better, 1/3 stay the same, and 1/3 get worse." So, I was going to settle for that, when he continued, "And back *before* there were therapists? About 1/3 got better, 1/3 stayed the same, and 1/3 got worse."

So I said, "Oh, so no difference then?" He replied, "Oh yeah. Different thirds."

And that's about as much credibility as I give them. My wife's dad is a "hippie family psychologist." Me, I'm a science major, right. I need proof. Data. Results. Him? All he needs is what he pulls out of his ass. I love the guy, but I can't stand his "scientific approach" -- since there ain't a lot of science to it.

They're like "professional storytellers." They tell you one story, you don't like it. So... they take your details, stir them up, tell you a different story. You don't like it. They mix them all up again, spin another story. This time it makes *sense* to you. You buy it. They send you a bill. You're cured.

Look. Do this. Adopt an existentialist policy of "I'll try all things three times. I must like it two out of three times to "be" that thing. If not, I'll cross it out, not go there again."

Then... if there is any anguish over it, figure out what causes the anguish. Is it... guilt because of conflicting values? Find out which value is pointless, cross it out. Anguish over. For me, it was Christian sexual torment. Anything sexual that was pleasureful was bad. Period. There is *no* positive Christian sexual model. Just doesn't exist. Any sex outside of procreation is evil. But... is your pussy or cock more "evil" than your ear? Your nose? Your kneecap? It's just a part of your body. With sensory organs designed... DESIGNED... to give pleasure. Great. So... how can obtaining pleasure FROM them be evil? It cannot.

The animals you are with, the same. If they permit, even encourage, and show pleasure from, sexual contact... WTF? That's pretty much a sign of Nature herself that things are copascetic.

If society does not agree, then ... don't tell society. Society has a LOT of questionable mores. Sex is just one of them.

Fuck society. You are NEVER obligated to align your sexual proclivities and interests with those of the "social" norm... whatever THAT is.

Anguish is over. Enjoy your life. You do not NEED to reconcile your existentialist experimenattions and experiencs. You just don't need to. Not a requirement of being human. Stand up for yourself! The world waited 4 billion years for your arrival. Take your turn, dude! It's yours!
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Thanks! I honestly think this answer out of everything has helped the most ^^
 
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