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HELP!! Living with some that has a fear big dogs, how do i work with this

theperson22838

theperson22838

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So ive been wanting to get a dog of the bigger variety, but i live with a partner that has a very VERY huge fear of big dogs, my question is how do i help my partner with these fears so we can both enjoy having a big dog?
 
pes said:
It is your partner, did you talk to her or him what would work?
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Not yet, but im going to have the discussion tn when they get home

MashaSobaka said:
Throw your partner out. The dog is more important.
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LOL i love my partner too much for that, i wanna help them with their fear :)

pes said:
It is your partner, did you talk to her or him what would work?
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And yes they are my partner

pes said:
Gradual exposure, maybe start with something smaller.
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Pes i have another question, my partner is also very Religious, in their religion its a big nono to have sex with animals, is there anyway to convert them to seeing the perspective i see, or would it be better to end the relationship knowing i wont be able to truly be me
 
theperson22838 said:
Pes i have another question, my partner is also very Religious, in their religion its a big nono to have sex with animals, is there anyway to convert them to seeing the perspective i see, or would it be better to end the relationship knowing i wont be able to truly be me
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Who knows. Nobody here knows your partner and can not give you accurate advice.
I can give you some examples.

Help, blackmailed

So awhile ago I blackmailed my gf into having sex with our dog ,now she is really into it having sex multiple times a day and more then once I've been told only he can fuck her.now I still get to be fucked by him as well and she will even suck the cum from my arse but she won't fuck me ....I...
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I can't persuade my partner. She just thinks it's disgusting

Very open but she just thinks it's disgusting to fuck a dog.
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What have I done?!

Me and partner... 14 years and a family. Always hid myself I told her in early hours. My lifes gone! Oh fuck why did I say anything!!! What do i do now :( Someone turn the lights out
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My ex and I split up the day after last Christmas. It got messy. During our relationship I confided in her (she's also a therapist) about how a severely depressive lonely drunken Christmas eve after my divorce, I sucked my dog's dick to find some kind of companionship. She was repulsed by this...
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Also if you love them, you should consider whether having a partner you love is more or less important, than having sex with an animal.

How to train your wife to fuck dogs for you? (HTTYW)

Hi there, My wife has no idea I like this sort of thing. I want to try and covertly see if she would be interested at all by this and how to work up from there. Anyone could give me advice that would be amazing! https://www.zoovilleforum.net/threads/help-blackmailed.133521/...
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pes said:
Who knows. Nobody here knows your partner and can not give you accurate advice.
I can give you some examples.

Help, blackmailed

So awhile ago I blackmailed my gf into having sex with our dog ,now she is really into it having sex multiple times a day and more then once I've been told only he can fuck her.now I still get to be fucked by him as well and she will even suck the cum from my arse but she won't fuck me ....I...
www.zoovilleforum.net www.zoovilleforum.net

I can't persuade my partner. She just thinks it's disgusting

Very open but she just thinks it's disgusting to fuck a dog.
www.zoovilleforum.net www.zoovilleforum.net

What have I done?!

Me and partner... 14 years and a family. Always hid myself I told her in early hours. My lifes gone! Oh fuck why did I say anything!!! What do i do now :( Someone turn the lights out
www.zoovilleforum.net www.zoovilleforum.net

Family Knows Now...

My ex and I split up the day after last Christmas. It got messy. During our relationship I confided in her (she's also a therapist) about how a severely depressive lonely drunken Christmas eve after my divorce, I sucked my dog's dick to find some kind of companionship. She was repulsed by this...
www.zoovilleforum.net www.zoovilleforum.net

Also if you love them, you should consider whether having a partner you love is more or less important, than having sex with an animal.

How to train your wife to fuck dogs for you? (HTTYW)

Hi there, My wife has no idea I like this sort of thing. I want to try and covertly see if she would be interested at all by this and how to work up from there. Anyone could give me advice that would be amazing! https://www.zoovilleforum.net/threads/help-blackmailed.133521/...
www.zoovilleforum.net www.zoovilleforum.net
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Oh wow.. i do love my partner but at the same time i also love animals, i want to have a partner and a animal partner, but if it goes in anyway like the way it happened for those people that would be devastating, my partner is important to me, but i feel that if i dont have my needs met it will lead to me gaining resentmenr for not fallowing the path i want
 
i'm no therapist, but wouldn't simply having the dog since pup with your partner seeing him/her grow be the perfect exposure therapy? they'd get to know each other long before he/she gets big and it's not "suddenly a large dog happened. deal with it lol."
 
nekdoneco123 said:
i'm no therapist, but wouldn't simply having the dog since pup with your partner seeing him/her grow be the perfect exposure therapy? they'd get to know each other long before he/she gets big and it's not "suddenly a large dog happened. deal with it lol."
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Thats what ive been thinking, maybe i shountly tell them the exact breed and as they grow it can help them with their negative feelings!! The next thing would be figuring out how to convice them its okay to make love with animals
 
theperson22838 said:
Thats what ive been thinking, maybe i shountly tell them the exact breed and as they grow it can help them with their negative feelings!! The next thing would be figuring out how to convice them its okay to make love with animals
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First part easy with cute ass puppy and time...

Second part....

You're playing with fire...
 
Puppy of big breed seems like a safe bet in one way and very risky considering the abandonment/rehoming possibility otherwise, other than big pups being big responsibilities.

Alternatively, perhaps you know can find someone with a large breed dog willing to help you with some form of exposure therapy. If you can show your partner watching from a distance that through your interaction with big dogs that they're generally gentle giants, I'm sure they could build up courage to interact themselves.

But likely no one here knows your partner better than you do.
 
theperson22838 said:
Thats what ive been thinking, maybe i shountly tell them the exact breed and as they grow it can help them with their negative feelings!! The next thing would be figuring out how to convice them its okay to make love with animals
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To add to what I said earlier...

If you definitely want to go down the animal road, be prepared to lose your partner...

If you definitely want to go down the animal road and avoid any kind of legal problems, ditch the partner now, because if it goes bad, no telling how bad it can go.

Nothing like a scorned partner telling anyone that will listen that you have sex with dogs...

And add to that the technology available these days, all it would take to really fuck things up for you is pictures or video...
 
Oily said:
Puppy of big breed seems like a safe bet in one way and very risky considering the abandonment/rehoming possibility otherwise, other than big pups being big responsibilities.

Alternatively, perhaps you know can find someone with a large breed dog willing to help you with some form of exposure therapy. If you can show your partner watching from a distance that through your interaction with big dogs that they're generally gentle giants, I'm sure they could build up courage to interact themselves.

But likely no one here knows your partner better than you do.
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Thats true, i could do some genuine exposure therapy, explain i want a bigger dog then work with them, what do i do about my partner not being a zoo?
 
K_9River_rat said:
To add to what I said earlier...

If you definitely want to go down the animal road, be prepared to lose your partner...

If you definitely want to go down the animal road and avoid any kind of legal problems, ditch the partner now, because if it goes bad, no telling how bad it can go.

Nothing like a scorned partner telling anyone that will listen that you have sex with dogs...

And add to that the technology available these days, all it would take to really fuck things up for you is pictures or video...
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Is it definite i have to ditch my partner to go down this path?
 
theperson22838 said:
Is it definite i have to ditch my partner to go down this path?
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No, but also no way of knowing how they will take it...

Just like you can't un-fuck a dog, you can un-tell them either. .

No telling how they will take it, but if they're extremely religious, I just wouldn't tell them, which is lying in a way also...

It's a rough road, but take it from someone that has first hand experience that it can go badly.
 
theperson22838 said:
Man, i guess im really in a fork in the road... i either choose animal partner or human 😔
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Well..

The choices are animal and partner and risk exposure, partner and no animal, or animal and no partner, or animal and partner and lie to partner and risk getting caught, which definitely won't be good....

If you're going to risk it with the partner, better to do it before getting the dog...

Can't arrest you for a thought you shared if it goes badly...

In which case, ditch the partner and get the dog, or try to salvage the relationship and put your zoo side in the closet and never bring it up again...
 
Yeah one of the risks of being zoo while having a partner who isn't zoo is having to navigate the social minefield that it is. Either they harbor zoo feelings or they likely will have a mental breakdown trying to reconcile the cognitive dissonance of how society views it vs how you see it. It really depends on how intelligent they are on how well they can resolve that.

You either sacrifice your current partner for a prospect of higher happiness or you're content with the current state of affairs, which you do not seem to be.
 
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K_9River_rat said:
Well..

The choices are animal and partner and risk exposure, partner and no animal, or animal and no partner, or animal and partner and lie to partner and risk getting caught, which definitely won't be good....

If you're going to risk it with the partner, better to do it before getting the dog...

Can't arrest you for a thought you shared if it goes badly...

In which case, ditch the partner and get the dog, or try to salvage the relationship and put your zoo side in the closet and never bring it up again...
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I See the risks now
 
Oily said:
Yeah one of the risks of being zoo while having a partner who isn't zoo is having to navigate the social minefield that it is. Either they harbor zoo feelings or they likely will have a mental breakdown trying to reconcile the cognitive dissonance of how society views it vs how you see it. It really depends on how intelligent they are on how well they can resolve that.

You either sacrifice your current partner for a prospect of higher happiness or you're content with the current state of affairs, which you do not seem to be.
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I am not really happy, theres a few things im not happy with they dont like my plushophile side and a few other things, i love them but if im not able to live the life i want how will i ever be happy?
 
theperson22838 said:
I am not really happy, theres a few things im not happy with they dont like my plushophile side and a few other things, i love them but if im not able to live the life i want how will i ever be happy?
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The question is really can you be happier with or without the partner, and with or without your zoo side being embraced by yourself...

I mean, you can risk telling the partner...

At least if it went bad, nothing would have happened yet to expose you to legal and social issues...

But once you tell them, the secret is out, and if it goes badly, there's no way of controlling who they would tell...
 
theperson22838 said:
I am not really happy, theres a few things im not happy with they dont like my plushophile side and a few other things, i love them but if im not able to live the life i want how will i ever be happy?
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I feel you. Personally I couldn't ever be best friends with someone who didn't also accept my plushophile side. It sounds like you're repressing quite a bit of yourself at least sexually to be the person someone else imagines you being. Do you think you can keep doing the rest of your life? Is that tradeoff worth it.

There's plenty of fish in the sea that'll accept you, but maybe you will have to be less picky about your partner, and figure your genuine self out first.
 
K_9River_rat said:
The question is really can you be happier with or without the partner, and with or without your zoo side being embraced by yourself...

I mean, you can risk telling the partner...

At least if it went bad, nothing would have happened yet to expose you to legal and social issues...

But once you tell them, the secret is out, and if it goes badly, there's no way of controlling who they would tell...
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I really wanna embrace my zoo side, and in my current situation if telling them went bad the repercusions would be way to much, im not gonna like i might have to sacrifice my relationship for a happier life, i want to embrace my kinky side and this relationship is preventing that
 
theperson22838 said:
I really wanna embrace my zoo side, and in my current situation if telling them went bad the repercusions would be way to much, im not gonna like i might have to sacrifice my relationship for a happier life, i want to embrace my kinky side and this relationship is preventing that
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Then I think you've answered your own question...

I hope there's no strings attached like kids and such, which would/should take priority over your kinky side...
 
theperson22838 said:
Thank fully theres not
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Just remember this...

If you do take the chance of telling them, and then break up if it goes bad, they won't be happy, and will see it as you choosing the dog over them, which it kinda is, but only because they forced that decision upon you, but the anger from that could be bad...
 
K_9River_rat said:
Just remember this...

If you do take the chance of telling them, and then break up if it goes bad, they won't be happy, and will see it as you choosing the dog over them, which it kinda is, but only because they forced that decision upon you, but the anger from that could be bad...
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Yeah, ive already decided i cant tell them
 
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