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squishcookiepup

squishcookiepup

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I’m a puppy girl with a master who I love and devote myself to. We are both heavily into pet play with it involving aspects of our day to day lives. It’s lovely and provides me a sense of safety and security….but I wish more than anything that I could tell my partner about this side of me.

We have both made jokes alluding to fucking dogs (the joke then turns into him saying, yeah- YOU). When I brought up getting a knotted dildo he wanted to see and thought it was hot. We’ve shared feral-adjacent porn w eachother. He didn’t question me or have a negative reaction when I chose a pretty beast-centric option in a video game, if anything i felt a sense of excitement….. There are just too many overlapping instances of zoo/beast things for me to think it’s all in my own head lol.

We may both be on ZV. I don’t know. I think him and I are just both too afraid to come to eachother.

Any advice is welcome <3
 
Be open with each other. Have a real conversation in a non joking manor not tied to a sex situation. Just like discussing kinks and limits with someone. You can keep it high level with a "I have the fantasy of being with a real dog and I would to know your thoughts on that." Direct, literal, straight forward. It's not openly admting your active, it's expressing a fantasy with a partner that you should have a health open dialog with in the first place.
 
I can’t really add anything to what beta7 said, sounds like sensible advice.. or kind of discuss a couple of categories of “fantasies you want to try, fantasies that should probably remain fantasies..” something like that?!
 
beta7 said:
Be open with each other. Have a real conversation in a non joking manor not tied to a sex situation. Just like discussing kinks and limits with someone. You can keep it high level with a "I have the fantasy of being with a real dog and I would to know your thoughts on that." Direct, literal, straight forward. It's not openly admting your active, it's expressing a fantasy with a partner that you should have a health open dialog with in the first place.
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You’re right. I didn’t think of it in this way, but this seems like the healthiest and most effective thing to do.
 
Theres a series on HBO called "Good Sex" I recommend people watch. And I specifically point out to pay attention the manor in which couples talk to each other and about sex diffently when they are in a session vs when they are in the real world.

"Real world" communication has alot of showmanship, miss understandings, and miss communication.

"Session" communication is very open, direct, and emotionally considerate.

It's extremely unfortunate few people can session communicate because my God its painful to go through life witnessing how many problems stem from miss communication.
 
squishcookiepup said:
I’m a puppy girl with a master who I love and devote myself to. We are both heavily into pet play with it involving aspects of our day to day lives. It’s lovely and provides me a sense of safety and security….but I wish more than anything that I could tell my partner about this side of me.

We have both made jokes alluding to fucking dogs (the joke then turns into him saying, yeah- YOU). When I brought up getting a knotted dildo he wanted to see and thought it was hot. We’ve shared feral-adjacent porn w eachother. He didn’t question me or have a negative reaction when I chose a pretty beast-centric option in a video game, if anything i felt a sense of excitement….. There are just too many overlapping instances of zoo/beast things for me to think it’s all in my own head lol.

We may both be on ZV. I don’t know. I think him and I are just both too afraid to come to eachother.

Any advice is welcome <3
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update: through complete happenstance I found something vaguely relevant to zoo/beast and ended up telling partner/master that I would fuck a dog. Straight up first person I have ever told besides what, 2 people here? His reaction was very confusing. At first it almost seemed to be rehearsed, y’all know the drill. Typical anti-zoo rhetoric. He didn’t seem taken aback at all after that tho? In the span of 1 day he’s made 3 separate comments jokingly calling me a dog fucker. I’m very confused on whether or not he’s holding back his true thoughts to protect himself.

Honestly I wouldn’t even care if he was practicing, I just don’t want to be lied to. None of this is contributing to my mental health in a positive way and has caused my anxious compulsions to ramp up exponentially. I almost feel a little gaslit by all of this and it’s quite literally driving me to a point of delusion. I just really want a hug.
 
That’s so tricky!! I hope this resolves for you really soon. Maybe he thinks you’re pulling his strings.. maybe he doesn’t care and is into it but he’s scared to admit it.. when you say anti zoo what kind of commentary? Only if you want to talk about it of course!
 
Sit down and have a real conversation on the subject. Direct, calm, serious but considerate of feelings. Its a fantasy of yours and you want to know his opinion on that fact. And real opinion, not jokes or kink play. Your both adults. This is an adult conversation subject.
 
Spike-o said:
That’s so tricky!! I hope this resolves for you really soon. Maybe he thinks you’re pulling his strings.. maybe he doesn’t care and is into it but he’s scared to admit it.. when you say anti zoo what kind of commentary? Only if you want to talk about it of course!
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I just want to tell him about this part of me that I have felt so much shame about for most of my life. I wanted to share that vulnerability, because I have never felt safe enough to do so before.

Without giving too much context, I had mentioned a story where beast was involved (specifically dogs) and there were a few words exchanged through some silence and I finally said “well how do you feel about it” and the anti-zoo commentary of “I see them as a family member, that’s like on the same level as p3do stuff.” But the tone wasn’t there. It wasn’t fueled by disgust.
 
Hmmm. As hard as it is I would take a step back and let him process it for a couple of days. He might not be thinking what you think. And the fact it wasn’t a disgust response more of a generic “that’s not right” is probably a good thing. But I do think what Beta7 is also very valid.. I guess it’s hard to know when to approach it again timescale wise.
 
beta7 said:
Sit down and have a real conversation on the subject. Direct, calm, serious but considerate of feelings. It’s a fantasy of yours and you want to know his opinion on that fact. And real opinion, not jokes or kink play. You’re both adults. This is an adult conversation subject.
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Hey, I really do understand and appreciate where you’re coming from. I know my post may come off as immature or dramatic, but therapy doesn’t really teach you how to navigate this SPECIFIC situation lol. I do think him and I have put in a tremendous amount of intentional communication and have a mature relationship OUTSIDE of kink. my biggest struggle is waiting for the correct opportunity and not to push for immediate resolution.
 
squishcookiepup said:
Hey, I really do understand and appreciate where you’re coming from. I know my post may come off as immature or dramatic, but therapy doesn’t really teach you how to navigate this SPECIFIC situation lol. I do think him and I have put in a tremendous amount of intentional communication and have a mature relationship OUTSIDE of kink. my biggest struggle is waiting for the correct opportunity and not to push for immediate resolution.
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Truly if this is impacting your mental health and you both have quality communication skills, well you likely know whats best to do.

We all have felt your fear at some point.

The anxiety is your body preparing for action.

Best the forum can do is be here to talk as you need to.
 
I'm no expert....but have talked a fair percentage into at least taking a shot. Those FAIL far more than they succeed, but, you catch enough flies to feed .......

Get BOTH of you good and feeling happy with whatever alcohol choice works best for each, and then you let rip....on ONLY the k9 lets do it plane.....

If it fails, hey, I was drunk, fuck you, quit making those jokes about k9, dick.

If it goes, then go there, real or simulted, have the fuck at it.

If it burns, then see above hey I was drunk..........
 
Summing that up..........

If it flys, it fucking flys.

If it dont, you were drunk and its HIS fault. Always transfer it to them. AND blame drinking.

perfect subterfurge. Everyone accepts this concept without thought or challenge.
 
Also do keep us up to date. At this point I'm more invested then Breaking Bad. (I barely made it through the first episode, don't at me)
squishcookiepup said:
Hey, I really do understand and appreciate where you’re coming from. I know my post may come off as immature or dramatic, but therapy doesn’t really teach you how to navigate this SPECIFIC situation lol. I do think him and I have put in a tremendous amount of intentional communication and have a mature relationship OUTSIDE of kink. my biggest struggle is waiting for the correct opportunity and not to push for immediate resolution.
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squishcookiepup said:
I’m a puppy girl with a master who I love and devote myself to. We are both heavily into pet play with it involving aspects of our day to day lives. It’s lovely and provides me a sense of safety and security….but I wish more than anything that I could tell my partner about this side of me.

We have both made jokes alluding to fucking dogs (the joke then turns into him saying, yeah- YOU). When I brought up getting a knotted dildo he wanted to see and thought it was hot. We’ve shared feral-adjacent porn w eachother. He didn’t question me or have a negative reaction when I chose a pretty beast-centric option in a video game, if anything i felt a sense of excitement….. There are just too many overlapping instances of zoo/beast things for me to think it’s all in my own head lol.

We may both be on ZV. I don’t know. I think him and I are just both too afraid to come to eachother.

Any advice is welcome <3
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The next time it comes up don't let it end as a joke. If he responds with "yeah...you" then say "yeah, me...the bitch." Anything to keep the conversation going.
 
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