Deviant-By-Design
Tourist
I'd like to again point out I am new to the forum and the community. This is still only my 3rd post, and 1st topic post. The first post was in response to another post. So far I have been met with a very positive and friendly greeting from the community.
I would love to hear people share the events that unfolded and the one on one exchanges of how it all led to your very first experience.
My girlfriend and I have been discussing the fantasy for almost two years. We do not currently own a dog, but it is a fantasy we regularly visit and we have also had serious conversations outside of the bedroom and free of the sexually charged and polluted mind. We have talked about the reality of making something happen, the implications making it a reality and acting on our urges. We have talked about the positives and negatives that come with anyone who crosses the threshold and indulging in any fantasy. Crossing the line from just purely a lustful idea to the reality of something you can not undol; it never presents the real implications we didn't plan for.
I always am honest with my lovers about everything because people have no right to steal away another person's choice to decide for themselves on the things that impact more than one person. The reality is that more often than not, telling people the truth is positive because that's what people truly want. They usually don't get mad at the truth when it is presented in the right way. They just want the truth brought to light in a normal and mature setting before it hits them in the face like a fast moving train. You can't ever walk back your deceit when that happens.
When I first confessed my fetish to her, her first response was typical. She wasn't into it, a bit surprised, but it didn't bother her. She wasn't into it though, in no way was she appalled or judgmental. She just thought the idea of it, didn't seem appealing and was a bit grossed out by the idea. I'm lucky though, she is 100% devoted to me and she will go with me on pretty much any fantasy and there is no secret in my life or any sexual instance that she doesn't know about. She is about as close to me as I am with myself.
For example not more than 20 minutes ago I told her I felt like entertaining myself with some porn today, jumping into my various communities and checking in and eventually maybe getting myself. I am extremely lucky to have that kind of love and trust with my partner as much as I can, knowing I will not be judged. It isn't that I need a porn fix, either. I just love switching to that mindset, and tuning out everything in my head that is stressing me out, then entering into the sexual mindset. It is a great distractor because the energy is overwhelmingly energetic and it keeps you in present moment.
In the bedroom she still played out the fantasy in talk, always making a convincing argument that she was interested or willing to in order to please me, but it was never something either of us believed would ever happen or become of any real interest on her part. Nevertheless, fantasy is still a lot of fun. Eventually she watched some videos, and her reactions were shocking, and sometimes she was grossed out depending on the scene. It generally was looked at with curiosity, wonderment and fantasy. She just couldn't wrap her mind around why it would be appealing and had a lot of questions.
For me whenever I get interested in a fetish, I dive into researching every aspect. I engage in the communities of those actively living the lifestyle and read about their experiences, their concerns and try to get a feel for the mindset. I always want to educate myself as much as I can to get a better idea of what brought on my own interest. I want to know for myself, if it is ultimately something unhealthy for my own growth and mental well being. I either need to make peace with it, or reverse my engagement. Education is the only way to determine this.
For this, I was able to help answer a lot of her questions, and explain why it turns so many people on, including myself. I also was able to debunk a lot of misconceptions and preconceived myths. Fear of the unknown is usually the motivator in anyone's initial reactions to most things. As she learned more, she became more receptive and intrigued. Eventually some of the videos turned her on because of the way some women react to the pleasure but mostly what turns her onto the idea is that it turns me on. She'd admit though, that she does think she'd really enjoy it. She has since actively masturbated to some of the videos I've showed her but she really just enjoys watching my reaction and has even participate in jacking me off or blowing me or even staying on her knees with her mouth over my dick while I jack off until I cum on her lips, in her mouth and face. As I said, I'm very lucky.
We don't currently have a dog, but we've discussed the idea of getting one. Mainly because I want a therapy dog. Before anyone jumps the gun. Owning a therapy dog is my top priority and should anything actually gear up to any real sexual engagement; I can assure anyone concerned, the mental and physical well being of our dog, would come first. If there was no interest being showed or if a members of this community with the experience to voice their expert opinion and concerns that it could be harmful to a therapy/service dog, then it would forever remain a fantasy. With that said, if we took the extra steps to keep us all safe and it would be a positive experience for all parties involved, than our fantasy could become a reality. After many conversations my gf has made it very clear to me her intentions. She wants to make this happen. Not just to make my fantasy come true (even though that has a lot do with her decision) but also she wants to experience it herself for the obvious benefits.
The idea of being able share that with her, and be a witness to it becoming a reality is a huge turn on for me but really to us both. I just know that if it happened, I would also enjoy looking back on the long and slowly evolving journey that led us there.
Sometimes the story of what leads us to that magical moment, is just as exciting to read about as the event itself.
So, if you feel like sharing; what was your journey like for all of you who have had the privilege? Was it a scary to first bring it up, was it mutual, a challenge, or met with resistant? Then was it like afterward? Was it a positive, different than you had always fantasised or did you regret it?
I'd love to hear your personal journeys.
-DBD
I would love to hear people share the events that unfolded and the one on one exchanges of how it all led to your very first experience.
My girlfriend and I have been discussing the fantasy for almost two years. We do not currently own a dog, but it is a fantasy we regularly visit and we have also had serious conversations outside of the bedroom and free of the sexually charged and polluted mind. We have talked about the reality of making something happen, the implications making it a reality and acting on our urges. We have talked about the positives and negatives that come with anyone who crosses the threshold and indulging in any fantasy. Crossing the line from just purely a lustful idea to the reality of something you can not undol; it never presents the real implications we didn't plan for.
I always am honest with my lovers about everything because people have no right to steal away another person's choice to decide for themselves on the things that impact more than one person. The reality is that more often than not, telling people the truth is positive because that's what people truly want. They usually don't get mad at the truth when it is presented in the right way. They just want the truth brought to light in a normal and mature setting before it hits them in the face like a fast moving train. You can't ever walk back your deceit when that happens.
When I first confessed my fetish to her, her first response was typical. She wasn't into it, a bit surprised, but it didn't bother her. She wasn't into it though, in no way was she appalled or judgmental. She just thought the idea of it, didn't seem appealing and was a bit grossed out by the idea. I'm lucky though, she is 100% devoted to me and she will go with me on pretty much any fantasy and there is no secret in my life or any sexual instance that she doesn't know about. She is about as close to me as I am with myself.
For example not more than 20 minutes ago I told her I felt like entertaining myself with some porn today, jumping into my various communities and checking in and eventually maybe getting myself. I am extremely lucky to have that kind of love and trust with my partner as much as I can, knowing I will not be judged. It isn't that I need a porn fix, either. I just love switching to that mindset, and tuning out everything in my head that is stressing me out, then entering into the sexual mindset. It is a great distractor because the energy is overwhelmingly energetic and it keeps you in present moment.
In the bedroom she still played out the fantasy in talk, always making a convincing argument that she was interested or willing to in order to please me, but it was never something either of us believed would ever happen or become of any real interest on her part. Nevertheless, fantasy is still a lot of fun. Eventually she watched some videos, and her reactions were shocking, and sometimes she was grossed out depending on the scene. It generally was looked at with curiosity, wonderment and fantasy. She just couldn't wrap her mind around why it would be appealing and had a lot of questions.
For me whenever I get interested in a fetish, I dive into researching every aspect. I engage in the communities of those actively living the lifestyle and read about their experiences, their concerns and try to get a feel for the mindset. I always want to educate myself as much as I can to get a better idea of what brought on my own interest. I want to know for myself, if it is ultimately something unhealthy for my own growth and mental well being. I either need to make peace with it, or reverse my engagement. Education is the only way to determine this.
For this, I was able to help answer a lot of her questions, and explain why it turns so many people on, including myself. I also was able to debunk a lot of misconceptions and preconceived myths. Fear of the unknown is usually the motivator in anyone's initial reactions to most things. As she learned more, she became more receptive and intrigued. Eventually some of the videos turned her on because of the way some women react to the pleasure but mostly what turns her onto the idea is that it turns me on. She'd admit though, that she does think she'd really enjoy it. She has since actively masturbated to some of the videos I've showed her but she really just enjoys watching my reaction and has even participate in jacking me off or blowing me or even staying on her knees with her mouth over my dick while I jack off until I cum on her lips, in her mouth and face. As I said, I'm very lucky.
We don't currently have a dog, but we've discussed the idea of getting one. Mainly because I want a therapy dog. Before anyone jumps the gun. Owning a therapy dog is my top priority and should anything actually gear up to any real sexual engagement; I can assure anyone concerned, the mental and physical well being of our dog, would come first. If there was no interest being showed or if a members of this community with the experience to voice their expert opinion and concerns that it could be harmful to a therapy/service dog, then it would forever remain a fantasy. With that said, if we took the extra steps to keep us all safe and it would be a positive experience for all parties involved, than our fantasy could become a reality. After many conversations my gf has made it very clear to me her intentions. She wants to make this happen. Not just to make my fantasy come true (even though that has a lot do with her decision) but also she wants to experience it herself for the obvious benefits.
The idea of being able share that with her, and be a witness to it becoming a reality is a huge turn on for me but really to us both. I just know that if it happened, I would also enjoy looking back on the long and slowly evolving journey that led us there.
Sometimes the story of what leads us to that magical moment, is just as exciting to read about as the event itself.
So, if you feel like sharing; what was your journey like for all of you who have had the privilege? Was it a scary to first bring it up, was it mutual, a challenge, or met with resistant? Then was it like afterward? Was it a positive, different than you had always fantasised or did you regret it?
I'd love to hear your personal journeys.
-DBD
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