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Are you happy?

BrotatoChip

BrotatoChip

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I don't mean solely through the lens of zoophilia, your relationship to your partner(s), and things of that nature. I also don't mean are you happy right now, I'm talking climate more than weather, if that makes sense.

This probably also inherently gets into the question of what is happiness, so feel free to get as philosophical as you want here, I'm legitimately so here for it. I will absolutely read walls of text so go fucking nuts if you want to.
 
Nyvi said:
I think I overthink too much to be happy.
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Good goddamn, I hear that. I hear that so hard.

Though I'm starting to think for possibly the first time ever that I may be capable of being happy. There was a part of me for a time that considered I had anhedonia.
 
bc161 said:
Good goddamn, I hear that. I hear that so hard.

Though I'm starting to think for possibly the first time ever that I may be capable of being happy.
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I hope you are! I hope I am too and just haven't gotten there yet. Life would be nicer if we were happy I think
 
things are better, i wouldn't call my current state as "happy". i've lost three loved ones over the course of a single year. my princess who was also my first in multiple ways. my boy who turned from someone who tried to kill me into this solid rock i could rely on without hesitation. my mom who was always there, she was the one person i might have opened up to. i went through a phase of scribbling farewell notes and deciding how to end things...

i got to experience what hopelessness, when the girl's lab results came in, feels like. i know what a "it's now or never" situation, when the boy's heart suddenly stopped and i had to rush him to a clinic to at least try, feels like. i know what saying final goodbye to someone who taught me everything feels like.

even tho i have someone new to look after now, i am past "happy".
 
nekdoneco123 said:
i went through a phase of scribbling farewell notes and deciding how to end things...
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Dang, I've been there for sure. I actually came at it from kind of the opposite way pretty recently in that I had what felt like a legitimate near death experience, and there was a part of me that was like, "Well shit, I wish it would've gone all the way."

I know there are people that are happy out there though. I know there are people out there that are happy that have had it even harder than me. I think that's what keeps me going and why I love to hear that people are happy and I like to witness their joy.

If any of you are happy out there, please savor it. I'm not jealous so much as thrilled for you, just don't take it for granted even if it came easy.
 
Someone gave me permission to get philosophical? Oh boy!
I would say I am very happy.
I live the philosophy of Stoicism, which teaches to not be worried about things out of your control and to focus on finding peace in yourself through living a virtuous life. To live with the four virtues of wisdom, courage, temperance, and social-mindedness and to stop chasing after things like wealth, fame, pleasure, or excessive comfort. It teaches to lessen the emotional attachments of life, to practice resilience to adversity and hardship, and to focus on what you can control.

If you live your life searching for happiness you will never be satisfied and you will always, at some point, be disappointed. Our brains weren't designed to keep us happy they were designed to keep us alive. So then the goal of life is not to find happiness, but to live a meaningful, flourishing life that cultivates happiness. Thinking about the past is just memories getting in the way of living and thinking about the future is just imagination, the present is all we have.

The world is unjust, unfair and horrible things just happen to us. But they are out of our control. The weather, what other people think of you, your health, getting let go, all of it is an external event that has been pushed onto you. What is in our control is how we respond to them. You choose the narrative in your head. Your thoughts dye the fabric of reality in which you live. When someone insults you you do not choose the words that were spoken, but you can choose your judgement about the words.

Living a virtuous life despite the goofy storm that is constantly swarming around us beings you peace that no storm could ever steal.
In the bad times, you get to demonstrate your virtue to the world and test your strength against every obstacle in your life, which is fun as hell.
In the good times, you get to enjoy life in the purest way possible with the ones you love, which is heaven.
Thank you for reading!
 
Yeah, I started reading a book about stoicism recently because it's always seemed pretty interesting and they were talking about truthfulness as a portion of one of the virtues (I read slow AF so don't ask me to expand on that, ha). That was one thing that really pushed some of my issues to the fore, as I was like, man I essentially lie constantly because of the zoophilia thing and even outside of that I think I've gotten to be a reflexive liar just because of the constant use of it for defense. I'm not like, a conman level liar where I'm going out and proactively using it as a tool, I just do it more than I should to take the edge off of situations and I don't like how reflexive and stunting it is.

I've heard people say that happiness either isn't a thing, or isn't a thing that should be actively pursued, but then they often tend to say that something I would identify as happiness is the appropriate thing to be in pursuit of. It's usually some variation or combination of fulfillment, contentedness, inner peace, and the like. I suppose it's really my fault for posing the question in the way that I did, but also why I mentioned what IS happiness to the folks answering the question? I think that's really my question: have people found themselves in a state that would describe as [insert desired goal akin to happiness], or do they feel like they're consistently moving towards that state in a way that they feel pleased with?

Anyways, good post, thanks for the input. (y)
 
bc161 said:
I don't mean solely through the lens of zoophilia, your relationship to your partner(s), and things of that nature. I also don't mean are you happy right now, I'm talking climate more than weather, if that makes sense.

This probably also inherently gets into the question of what is happiness, so feel free to get as philosophical as you want here, I'm legitimately so here for it. I will absolutely read walls of text so go fucking nuts if you want to.
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Happiness is a state of mind.

Guns are oiled, car servicing done (Regular maintenance type stuff) Animals are all healthy (ATM) (Lawn mower maintenance, salt block, feed) Didn't oil the sheep and feed the car! (All ways a win) All so beat the rain for value added bonus!

So yes, mainly because even though very inconvenient and harder to live the way I do, I am doing it my way, and that is what counts, living your life the way you see fit and being left alone

but like wise, I'd been just as happy living in a ditch with a tarp over my head with my woofy wife, because in the end I have a tarp to keep my dry, and a ditch to protect my self from attack and weather.

problem is so many are very ungrateful and focus on what they don't have failing to realize how wealthy they truly are even if they own very few things, just the fact you are breathing one should be grateful for!
 
WalkingStarFish said:
Someone gave me permission to get philosophical? Oh boy!
I would say I am very happy.
I live the philosophy of Stoicism, which teaches to not be worried about things out of your control and to focus on finding peace in yourself through living a virtuous life. To live with the four virtues of wisdom, courage, temperance, and social-mindedness and to stop chasing after things like wealth, fame, pleasure, or excessive comfort. It teaches to lessen the emotional attachments of life, to practice resilience to adversity and hardship, and to focus on what you can control.

If you live your life searching for happiness you will never be satisfied and you will always, at some point, be disappointed. Our brains weren't designed to keep us happy they were designed to keep us alive. So then the goal of life is not to find happiness, but to live a meaningful, flourishing life that cultivates happiness. Thinking about the past is just memories getting in the way of living and thinking about the future is just imagination, the present is all we have.

The world is unjust, unfair and horrible things just happen to us. But they are out of our control. The weather, what other people think of you, your health, getting let go, all of it is an external event that has been pushed onto you. What is in our control is how we respond to them. You choose the narrative in your head. Your thoughts dye the fabric of reality in which you live. When someone insults you you do not choose the words that were spoken, but you can choose your judgement about the words.

Living a virtuous life despite the goofy storm that is constantly swarming around us beings you peace that no storm could ever steal.
In the bad times, you get to demonstrate your virtue to the world and test your strength against every obstacle in your life, which is fun as hell.
In the good times, you get to enjoy life in the purest way possible with the ones you love, which is heaven.
Thank you for reading!
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pretty much how I do it. be thankful for the morning, just for the fact you are gifted to be even alive! as so many things can take you in your sleep, be great full for every bite, for you could be with out, charrish every moment as they are your last, as any moment it can be!

I been blown up, gassed, run over, electrocuted, drowned, Homeless, but I am still here, and achieved my goals in spite of it all.

I try to share the wisdom that lead to my success, as a way to return to what ever forces may be in repayment for such luck,
 
bc161 said:
Yeah, I started reading a book about stoicism recently because it's always seemed pretty interesting and they were talking about truthfulness as a portion of one of the virtues (I read slow AF so don't ask me to expand on that, ha). That was one thing that really pushed some of my issues to the fore, as I was like, man I essentially lie constantly because of the zoophilia thing and even outside of that I think I've gotten to be a reflexive liar just because of the constant use of it for defense. I'm not like, a conman level liar where I'm going out and proactively using it as a tool, I just do it more than I should to take the edge off of situations and I don't like how reflexive and stunting it is.

I've heard people say that happiness either isn't a thing, or isn't a thing that should be actively pursued, but then they often tend to say that something I would identify as happiness is the appropriate thing to be in pursuit of. It's usually some variation or combination of fulfillment, contentedness, inner peace, and the like. I suppose it's really my fault for posing the question in the way that I did, but also why I mentioned what IS happiness to the folks answering the question? I think that's really my question: have people found themselves in a state that would describe as [insert desired goal akin to happiness], or do they feel like they're consistently moving towards that state in a way that they feel pleased with?

Anyways, good post, thanks for the input. (y)
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That's what I've loved about stoicism, it brought my issues to the forefront too. I had a relatively similar experience. It's helped me go through the worst year of my life and come out the other side grateful as hell. I think happiness and how it is found is really up to the individual. It's nice to think that there is some best route to take and a rulebook to how we should be living our lives but everyone is so mind-blowingly unique in their completely one of a kind lives that we all have different reasons for doing everything. Just because stoicism works for me doesn't mean it'll work for anyone else.

I loved your question! I've lived long enough to see that as the seasons change so do my priorities and mindsets. You just have to sit back and enjoy the process along the way.
 
offgridk9lover2 said:
pretty much how I do it. be thankful for the morning, just for the fact you are gifted to be even alive! as so many things can take you in your sleep, be great full for every bite, for you could be with out, charrish every moment as they are your last, as any moment it can be!

I been blown up, gassed, run over, electrocuted, drowned, Homeless, but I am still here, and achieved my goals in spite of it all.

I try to share the wisdom that lead to my success, as a way to return to what ever forces may be in repayment for such luck,
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When I wake up I have the same thought every single morning. I am grateful my eyes have opened today and I get to experience one more day of life. Stoicism is big on Memento Mori or Remember You Must Die. Life happens today, not tomorrow, not yesterday, not in your head either. Seize the day and make the most of it, and be thankful for everything.

Olympic class struggles make Olympic class material. There's always someone who has it worse, in one way or another.
I'd say, just because the fact that you are grateful in life, you have more than most people! Thank you for the Reply!
 
no

It is a problem with my endocrine system. Insufficient hormones which should be produced. Even when things are going well, sometimes ... something just drops out.
What helps? Meditation? Mindfulness? Zen? Not much help. Antidepressants? A little bit of help.
And when things are going well and a wave of unhappiness arrives for no reason, that is even more depressing.

The climate v. weather comparison you made is apt.
 
No. Lonely, horny, frustrated, touch starved. Wanting sexual pleasure from any species and any gender. No but stuff on me though. Not right away. Ease me it stuff. But. Any sort of physical touch would be nice. Doesn’t have to be sexual.
 
milabue said:
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It is a problem with my endocrine system. Insufficient hormones which should be produced. Even when things are going well, sometimes ... something just drops out.
What helps? Meditation? Mindfulness? Zen? Not much help. Antidepressants? A little bit of help.
And when things are going well and a wave of unhappiness arrives for no reason, that is even more depressing.

The climate v. weather comparison you made is apt.
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I'm trying meditation again, though very lazily and without a lot of commitment. I can't get myself into it somehow. I'm taking meds too which has always frustrated the ever loving shit out of me. Like, if I'm really in a bad spot I'm usually doing a whole bunch of mental health triage at once, so I'm trying to eat better, sleep better, trying therapy, whatever the combo is for my particular issue is at the time and I'm often fiddling with my meds during these times. Then if I do feel better and come out of it, I look at my medication bottle and I'm like, are you little shits making me feel this way or was it everything else? I know the answer is probably it's a combo, but I remain highly skeptical of if I do or do not need medication. I think my issues are because I'm not dealing with shit, not because of chemical imbalance, but my thinking is also really flawed so maybe it helps with that? I don't know why I care so much, but that part always gets the ol' noggin joggin.
 
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