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User Permission Updates and Forum Changes

CdB said:
Hello,

the new minimum limit of 20 posts was introduced in order to reduce lurker spam. This refers to spam actively sent by people who have fewer posts than this minimum limit. Why, then, are members with more than 20 posts, who are assumed to send less spam, unable to send private messages to people with fewer than 20 posts, i.e. in the opposite direction?

Greetings
CdB
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Perfectly said. I had not seen this before I posted about this issue myself, and if you have the ability to start PMs as a citizen here if you are interested I would love to have a conversation with ya

It does seem like I do still have the ability to PM accounts that already have access to PM which makes sense. I was a bit confused with the wording of this post but it seems to be a really good idea and I was actually wrong about my only concern.

Apologies to staff for the confusion here 🫡
 
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littlegaypup said:
Im here to meet other people who feel the same way I do, and I am not one who likes to say something if i dont feel like i have something to say. I also cant spend every waking hour here looking for something to respond to publicly. Im an introvert and these topics are sensitive already, so for me to have to post 120 more times - and not spamming - will take months. Ive already been around a while on here so it kinda feels pretty crappy to loose access to starting private conversations with people. Most of those conversations I have been able to start havent gone anywhere - so i do understand creating some systems to clear out the "wank brigade" as you say, it just feels like im being punished and I didnt do anything wrong.
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Goodness, you're acting like the world is ending. These are the new rules, accept them and stop whining. This isn't a dating site, and the majority of users like the new rules..
 
Blacksoul said:
Goodness, you're acting like the world is ending. These are the new rules, accept them and stop whining. This isn't a dating site, and the majority of users like the new rules..
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I appreciate what this site is for, and that it isnt mine. I should be allowed to have a reaction - and voice concerns.

My initial post was asking for clarification (from staff) because of a concern i had(based on the language used) and i do believe i was pretty mature in how i went about it as well.

Side note: Im not really here to date, just meeting people who feel the same way. I'm glad to know I still have the ability to start those private conversations.

In any case, I have already apologized to staff(about the confusion causing my concern - not about having a concern), which you are not. Either way I do apologize, I seem to have offended you and this wasn't my intention, as I'm sure is apparent.
 
littlegaypup said:
Firstly, I completely understand.

So to clarify, first you said to PM you must be member 30 days and then also have 20 posts, and then you say we may loose ability to PM if we dont meet both thresholds...
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Exactly.
You have bern here for over 30 days, and you presently have 52 messages, so you have an "start conversation" button and you CAN message people now.

littlegaypup said:
I understand not being able to send photos in PMs without meeting a higher threshold, but do i now have to post 120 more times to be able to privately message other users now?
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No. You can message them now as is. Just you can not send dick pics orcwhatever attachement you fancy sending.

It is not 120 *more* cause you already have 52.
 
littlegaypup said:
Firstly, I completely understand.

So to clarify, first you said to PM you must be member 30 days and then also have 20 posts, and then you say we may loose ability to PM if we dont meet both thresholds...

I understand not being able to send photos in PMs without meeting a higher threshold, but do i now have to post 120 more times to be able to privately message other users now?
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If you don't have 20 posts in general, then you don't get the ability to. Its just being signed up in general for 30 days and having 20 posts, if you don't have 20 within 30, then no pm. Till you get 30.
Also doesn't mean quickly spam 20 posts just to get it, because one of us will just happen to delete all of them.


littlegaypup said:
Im here to meet other people who feel the same way I do, and I am not one who likes to say something if i dont feel like i have something to say. I also cant spend every waking hour here looking for something to respond to publicly. Im an introvert and these topics are sensitive already, so for me to have to post 120 more times - and not spamming - will take months. Ive already been around a while on here so it kinda feels pretty crappy to loose access to starting private conversations with people. Most of those conversations I have been able to start havent gone anywhere - so i do understand creating some systems to clear out the "wank brigade" as you say, it just feels like im being punished and I didnt do anything wrong.
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Its not that you should make it a job to post on here everyday, find a thread you like to respond to. Or make one of interests that fits a category. You just take as long as you like.
 
Are posts the same as replies to posts or must they be new threads? Personally this makes me feel a lot more comfortable about the site. It's not something you want to talk to just anybody about. Happy to wait the 30 days.
 
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