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Why do y'all think many women are uncomfortable online?

Ginger_Ale

Ginger_Ale

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So, I have my own personal beliefs that I've gained from talking with the many women I've been friends with over the years, but I believe it's because the Internet—for so so many reasons—is just generally hostile to women.

Now I don't want this to be some kind of post where people come to rant about how there's actually more women online than men or other bullshit arguments. I also really don't think arguing under this post will result in anything if you disagree.

I'm just wanting to know why you personally think comparitively few women are openly active online?

You can be a man or a woman to reply, it doesn't matter.
 
Speaking as a man, the problem is men - I get that there are positives to being a welcoming, supportive community in reaching out to people and connecting over common interests and experiences, but sometimes it feels like guys have a tendency to hit on anything that moves (particularly in a sex-positive environment like ZV)

I can definitely imagine that a woman could feel overwhelmed and intimidated when hit with hundreds of messages as soon as they post a hello.

I would argue that there *are* indeed more women in the community that can be seen through the activity that you see, but most prioritise their safety, privacy and sanity over actively posting in an environment that does attract a lot of that behavior.

(none of this applies to everyone, regardless of gender - just a broad-strokes take on the question)
 
TantsPants said:
Speaking as a man, the problem is men - I get that there are positives to being a welcoming, supportive community in reaching out to people and connecting over common interests and experiences, but sometimes it feels like guys have a tendency to hit on anything that moves (particularly in a sex-positive environment like ZV)

I can definitely imagine that a woman could feel overwhelmed and intimidated when hit with hundreds of messages as soon as they post a hello.

I would argue that there *are* indeed more women in the community that can be seen through the activity that you see, but most prioritise their safety, privacy and sanity over actively posting in an environment that does attract a lot of that behavior.

(none of this applies to everyone, regardless of gender - just a broad-strokes take on the question)
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Or if they aren't hitting on us, they are super pushy about wanting us to role play or type out every experience and fantasy we have ever had in our lives
 
Women can feel comfortable online but less comfortable on sex related platforms because women don't talk with strangers about sex as openly as men do. Women often require an emotional connection and trust before they can bring out their sexual side since their self-preservation instincts tend to be quite strong. (Of course, this doesn't apply to all women.) Typical women don't joke, ask or wonder about sex that often even when hanging around with their friends unlike many men do. Maybe this is because women are expected to be more pure?
Younger women may not have much experience in talking to men so they might not be sure how to interact with them. Some women are only looking for validation or checking out others' profiles due to curiosity but not actually interested in properly connecting with anyone. Aaaand, many web users suffer from social anxiety and are awkward in all social situations until they gain enough confidence and practice.
Personally, I can talk about sex but if that's ALL or the most the other person wants to talk about, it gets boring and I feel objectified. So some men making everything about sex is another reason women feel like pulling back.
 
As a woman I get flooded with DM’s. About 75% are low effort that aren’t worth my time, and 24% are too “needy” so to speak and blow me up when I don’t answer for a few hours. I can go days in between replies because I’m so busy. It’s incredibly overwhelming and getting 1% of the DM’s I receive being worth my time isn’t really worth the energy of being in a lot of online NSFW spaces.
 
A screen does weird thing to people, as if there is no need for civility anymore. And yes, men are the main culprits here. Their desperation and self-entitlement ruin it for everybody (that's one reason why this guy won't date them), not to mention the school of catfish on forums like this one.
 
It's cuz their tiny little hands can't properly type on a keyboard designed for men. Can't be comfortable on the internet if your hands are all out of position. Sadly it's just another example of the patriarchy keepin a brother down 😔
 
Yup.
bordercolliez said:
As a woman I get flooded with DM’s. About 75% are low effort that aren’t worth my time, and 24% are too “needy” so to speak and blow me up when I don’t answer for a few hours. I can go days in between replies because I’m so busy. It’s incredibly overwhelming and getting 1% of the DM’s I receive being worth my time isn’t really worth the energy of being in a lot of online NSFW spaces.
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Too much demand, not enough supply. Message and attention overdose.
 
Dudes will say a lot of things online that would get them punched in the throat in person. There's also a deep safety issue. Doxing, blackmail, coercion... these are things the typical guy doesn't even fathom before he fires off a dick pic into the wild. Talk to a woman who enjoys going out and experiencing her local night life... and I bet she puts a LOT more thought into where she parks her car, where the street lamps are, how easily accessible her keys are, etc. than your average guy.
 
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