Zhike
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Gay male here. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a month now, and when we first met it was through online messaging. We pretty quickly delved into kink discussion after the first time we jacked off together, and the question came up of "what's the most extreme or taboo thing you're into?" and for some reason I felt like I should just own it, so I straight up said bestiality and it wasn't a dealbreaker for him. He just said that it wasn't a turn-on for him, but he understood that people are into the things they're into. Anyway, fast forward to tonight where we had a deeper discussion on taboos like incest and bestiality, and the topic got brought back up again, so I explained my previous experience, how often I masturbate to it (vaguely infrequently), and that I can include him in as much or as little of that world as he feels comfortable. It felt really good to just be entirely honest with my partner and create an open place where I invited him to ask anything he wants about it from now on and I'll reply honestly in return. We have a full transparency rule that we both honor as long as we know we're both going into the conversation just wanting to learn, listen, and not to judge or shame each other. It feels nice to be fully seen and known and not have to dance around the topic in the future when there's more at stake, potentially.
