My husky gal doesn't want to have sex.

[CewlHusky]

Does anyone know how they make it seem so easy in the videos with the female dogs? These are mainly the reason why I got myself a Siberian Husky and I've been patient for over 2 years now and I still haven't managed to do anything with her since she's so reluctant and I've got the feeling that I'll never be able to have an intimate relationship with her.

Seeing these videos now are making me have all these thoughts going on inside my head. I also struggle with a really bad case of envy because of that. I start to think about weird things like for example, that my husky is different, she's not the same size or color as Annika, her private parts look kinda different and somehow smaller, even though she's larger in size. I just feel miserable and regretful.

Can somebody give me advice on what to do to make my life with my dog worth it for all the sacrifices I have made to live out my sexuality? This might sound stupid, but should I just hope that I'll be more successful when I get another husky in the future that's not as - I guess - skittish when it comes to human interaction? And just give up with my current one in terms of sex.

 

[FloofyNewfie]

Can somebody give me advice on what to do to make my life with my dog worth it for all the sacrifices I have made to live out my sexuality?

If you've gotten your canine companion just for sex, you're already doing everything wrong. I have two canine girls, one that is only interested in sex while in heat and never out of heat, while my other girl is interested in sex multiple times a week in and out of heat. But even if both of my girl decided that they never want to have sex again for the rest of their lives, or they both need an emergency spay, the primary reason I got canines in the first place was for companionship. Sex is just a nice little bonus to our relationship, but certainly not why I got them.

 

[CewlHusky]

If you've gotten your canine companion just for sex, you're already doing everything wrong. I have two canine girls, one that is only interested in sex while in heat and never out of heat, while my other girl is interested in sex multiple times a week in and out of heat. But even if both of my girl decided that they never want to have sex again for the rest of their lives, or they both need an emergency spay, the primary reason I got canines in the first place was for companionship. Sex is just a nice little bonus to our relationship, but certainly not why I got them.

I wouldn't say that I've got her just for sex, it's just that that's the main reason for me, but wouldn't it be difficult for you seeing all these people and dogs like in these PL videos having such an amazing time and let's say you're zoosexual with a preference for female dogs and your only choice to fulfill your sexuality is by getting yourself one. You see how easily these guys put that husky in all kinds of positions, her enjoying it like it's the best thing in the world showing zero reluctance being handled by all these different strangers, no blood from the heat, no whining... And so you wanna try to finally do something similar with your own dog after waiting for years and her heat to come. You try to put her in some of the positions you've seen and she just freaks out and tries to go away. You try to use your finger but even that doesn't work. You get all this blood on yourself and it all of a sudden doesn't seem to be like in all of these videos. And now all you got going for you is a companion dog, with whom you can't live out your sexuality.

I've been zoosexual since the beginning of my puberty, so I began to read guides on here, seeing all these videos, that make it seem so easy and unproblematic, which is probably also true most of the time and so when I became older I got myself a husky pup and I'd say that she got a really good life with me. Been doing all these things that a husky needs, like tons of exercise including typical sled dog activities, training, going to the dog park, spending tons of money for high quality food and other dog stuff. So I'm basically always together with her, ergo companionship. But it seems like I've just had bad luck by choosing her over another dog and now I get envious and depressed seeing all these other people who do have huskies or other dogs that really seem to enjoy sex and just have a better personality than mine has.

 

[Goattobeloved]

I wouldn't say that I've got her just for sex, it's just that that's the main reason for me, but wouldn't it be difficult for you seeing all these people and dogs like in these PL videos having such an amazing time and let's say you're zoosexual with a preference for female dogs and your only choice to fulfill your sexuality is by getting yourself one. You see how easily these guys put that husky in all kinds of positions, her enjoying it like it's the best thing in the world showing zero reluctance being handled by all these different strangers, no blood from the heat, no whining... And so you wanna try to finally do something similar with your own dog after waiting for years and her heat to come. You try to put her in some of the positions you've seen and she just freaks out and tries to go away. You try to use your finger but even that doesn't work. You get all this blood on yourself and it all of a sudden doesn't seem to be like in all of these videos. And now all you got going for you is a companion dog, with whom you can't live out your sexuality.

I've been zoosexual since the beginning of my puberty, so I began to read guides on here, seeing all these videos, that make it seem so easy and unproblematic, which is probably also true most of the time and so when I became older I got myself a husky pup and I'd say that she got a really good life with me. Been doing all these things that a husky needs, like tons of exercise including typical sled dog activities, training, going to the dog park, spending tons of money for high quality food and other dog stuff. So I'm basically always together with her, ergo companionship. But it seems like I've just had bad luck by choosing her over another dog and now I get envious and depressed seeing all these other people who do have huskies or other dogs that really seem to enjoy sex and just have a better personality than mine has.

This posts should be cut and moved to the appropiate section not to derrail the thread. Because there are so many wrong things in the setup, and at the same time it is good and interesting for other people not to fall in these errors, it should work as experience advisor.

For starters... Those are commercial videos for viewer pleasure.
The one you choosed. Shesh. She is a goddamnes sexual addict and a loving mate it seems. My secret fantasy love.

There are other female husky videos in here. Nice and hot without needing to accept every position "as seen on tv". It all boils to what both sides enjoy

Then, debunking miths: All females have blood flux but you possibly do not record a video for sale that day.

whinning. There should certanly be NO whinning, if there is, you are doing wrong and it WILL backfire on you if you don't stop because she will always be skittish when you try (sounds familiar)

Huskies... Not the best breed if a first dog. Sort if wild on insticts and bit difficult to control without previous experience. If she behaves well and is social, congrats. You did a good work there

And for the bad part... You did not get a companion, you got her for sex. You put effort in caring for her, that is good. But still you intentionally skipped the part on the guides telling some might never get an interest for it and you were not prepared for it.

I can see how you say you are giving her a good life, but you never mention her giving you a better life as should be. You also talk of choosing her as being "an error"... Nah. That part is plain wrong... really.

On the what to do. I will assume you are working extra hours in trying to get her to act and she is just avoiding it cause she feels wronged at your pressure.
Just do you two a final favour..
Keep her away from you sexual advances for a time. Brush, pet, let your finger accidentally touch her back occasionally, if she is jumpy about it don't try twice in a row. She should not care much where you groom her.
If that happens, wait for next heat, do not jump on her, just be there and gentle petting on back and near the tail. Let her position herself IF she so cares for. And for dog sake .. Do not rush things!!
It has been years of her shying away from your advances. It will not be easy to recover, even less for the same person who caused it

 

[CewlHusky]

This posts should be cut and moved to the appropiate section not to derrail the thread. Because there are so many wrong things in the setup, and at the same time it is good and interesting for other people not to fall in these errors, it should work as experience advisor.

For starters... Those are commercial videos for viewer pleasure.
The one you choosed. Shesh. She is a goddamnes sexual addict and a loving mate it seems. My secret fantasy love.

There are other female husky videos in here. Nice and hot without needing to accept every position "as seen on tv". It all boils to what both sides enjoy

Then, debunking miths: All females have blood flux but you possibly do not record a video for sale that day.

whinning. There should certanly be NO whinning, if there is, you are doing wrong and it WILL backfire on you if you don't stop because she will always be skittish when you try (sounds familiar)

Huskies... Not the best breed if a first dog. Sort if wild on insticts and bit difficult to control without previous experience. If she behaves well and is social, congrats. You did a good work there

And for the bad part... You did not get a companion, you got her for sex. You put effort in caring for her, that is good. But still you intentionally skipped the part on the guides telling some might never get an interest for it and you were not prepared for it.

I can see how you say you are giving her a good life, but you never mention her giving you a better life as should be. You also talk of choosing her as being "an error"... Nah. That part is plain wrong... really.

On the what to do. I will assume you are working extra hours in trying to get her to act and she is just avoiding it cause she feels wronged at your pressure.
Just do you two a final favour..
Keep her away from you sexual advances for a time. Brush, pet, let your finger accidentally touch her back occasionally, if she is jumpy about it don't try twice in a row. She should not care much where you groom her.
If that happens, wait for next heat, do not jump on her, just be there and gentle petting on back and near the tail. Let her position herself IF she so cares for. And for dog sake .. Do not rush things!!
It has been years of her shying away from your advances. It will not be easy to recover, even less for the same person who caused it

Yeah I know it's probably not the best thread to write this in but I just seen some of the PL videos and I got this bad feeling again and seeing that here's more than just people talking about their fav PL vids, I decided to write this since it's been on my mind for a long time now. I don't want people to fall for the same mistakes that I did, if that's what you meant.

I have a lot of other videos with huskies that are not from PL and it's mostly the same, you know... from those threads that are dedicated to huskies.

How do they do it that there's no blood? It's constantly with my dog all throughout her heat.

I think my husky is more of the whining sort, mostly when she's impatient, it only happened recently when I used my finger. I've never had done anyting more than that to her, when I tried and she ultimately refused, then I let her be.

I know huskies are not the best first breed to own, but I grew up with a family dog that I took care of for most of my childhood which means that I had at least some experience and I also read some books and things about them on the internet, so I was well aware about that. But that's not really the problem here, she's becoming an obedient dog with all that training I've been doing and going to my dog trainer. The thing is that's she's not really social I guess and that's probably part of the reason why I'm struggling with her, but I'm still trying so hard to change that. It also turned out that she's been like that since she was a puppy, before I even got her. Her breeder - who I'm still in contact with - told me that she was kinda in the middle of her litter mates when it comes to being sociable with humans. Again, I just got unlucky by choosing her imo.

Seems you are right on that part, but whether I got her just for sex or not, she's still my companion to some extent. I remember that part from the guides now that I think of it and so what, she might not be interested now, that doesn't mean I should just give up and forget about my sexual instincts or desires and the person who I am, does it?

Yep, she's not making my life better when it comes to sex as of right now, but other than that owning a dog, especially a husky, made me a lot more active and healthier (I haven't been sick for years), physically and emotionally (to some degree, since these things that I mentioned like depression aren't really good for my mental well-being).

Her third heat just recently came to an end. I've never seen her position herself or anything like that, nor have I ever seen her show any kind of interest in sex while in heat whatsoever, apart from paying more attention to other dogs and howling a little during her receptive stage as usual. I did try after waiting for the right moment, where they are supposedly to get receptive to sex in their cycle, and she just didn't want to, so I immediately stopped and respected that, albeit feeling disappointed and so on. I don't think I've ever rushed or forced her to do anything, when I tried I'd do it gently and as I've read and seen it, and I think that's one of frustrating things about it. Thank you for your input and advice.

 

[Goattobeloved]

Yes, sort of related as those videos are great looking, but of course they got the right people and dog for them.

For sure, to me huskies are also hot and pretty as can be and if they are into it, sexy as hell.
No big worries about the blood. Biggest trouble us cleaning the floor after her.

Winning, yes, she possibly gets nervous and anxious cause she sees it coming and it is not a good experience by now. YOU being frustrated and anxious sure helps her feeling unsure about it. Relax, pet her and when getting near, if she starts being tense keep petting in another direction so she relaxes back.

So you already had a dog. Not a first dog makes it a better option then cause you are already with dog language and reactions. Good socialization as pups and letting them boldly explore is important, but if she behaves, I can't believe the "wrong choice".

No, I don't think you should forget your sex instincts, just set them to background task and be patient. NO obe should get depressed and anxious because there is no sex with her. On the contrary, done propperly your life should be fuller and richer for having her as a companion. If that is not so. THAT is a problem. I guess it is her feeling unconfortable about it because if the pressure. Give her some space and see if there is a change. But will likely take time. Enjoy her as a dog meanwhile.

There is a saying. "we do not get the dog we want, we get the one we need" I really have no idea how this works in your case but I will be happy if in a couple of years you could post it was right and everything worked out great with or without sex



In any case, that is the sort of post that usually would end up in a lot if name calling -it still can-, but personally I sense a case of "good intentions, bad reasons" as to say. Even it the reasons were wrong from the start, and sex as main reason still is, you are putting a lot of work effort and caring for her to be well and taking responsability for your decision.
Please, keep it like that, but try to bond a bit deeper, like in enjoying your plays and not regretting what does not work.

@FloofyNewfie @Oldman
Any chance to use those magical mod powers to split this thread and move posts to a zoo section out of porn?
I feel it is a relevant example for anyone going this way.

 

[FloofyNewfie]

I wouldn't say that I've got her just for sex, it's just that that's the main reason for me, but wouldn't it be difficult for you seeing all these people and dogs like in these PL videos having such an amazing time and let's say you're zoosexual with a preference for female dogs and your only choice to fulfill your sexuality is by getting yourself one.

Again, if that's the main reason you've gotten a dog, you're already doing everything wrong. Let me tell you a story from another zoo, he had gotten a dog and she wasn't interested in sex. He was fine with that, because he still loved her and cherished for for her personality and the love she gave him. Eventually he got another female dog and again, this doggy gal was also not interested in sex. That was fine, he still loved her for who she was and she still loved him. Eventually he wound up with a third female dog, and she actually was interested in sex. Cool deal. He still loved her for who she was and she still loved him as well. Dogs are not sex toys. They have their own wants, needs, and desires. And sex isn't always a part of their wants.

What you see in the PetLust videos is often NOT what occurs in reality. I've already mentioned that I'm sexually active with one of my doggy gals, but here's the thing... she only, and I mean ONLY likes doggy style. She really doesn't like any other position. Due to her size, she's a big gal, this makes things a bit complicated. But I do thing on HER TERMS, not mine. It's also why I don't try to pressure my other doggy gal into sex. She likes humping my hand sometimes when out of heat, and that's it. When it comes to sex, the animal ALWAYS calls the shots in the matter. I don't care how pent up you are, if they aren't interested, then you have a platonic buddy that will still love you for who your are. Period.

 

[Cowboi69]

No means no OP. You got a thinking living thing not a pocket pussy.
But if you learn robotics you can create a robot that looks and acts like a dog.

 

[dogluver101]

I wouldn't say that I've got her just for sex, it's just that that's the main reason for me, but wouldn't it be difficult for you seeing all these people and dogs like in these PL videos having such an amazing time and let's say you're zoosexual with a preference for female dogs and your only choice to fulfill your sexuality is by getting yourself one. You see how easily these guys put that husky in all kinds of positions, her enjoying it like it's the best thing in the world showing zero reluctance being handled by all these different strangers, no blood from the heat, no whining... And so you wanna try to finally do something similar with your own dog after waiting for years and her heat to come. You try to put her in some of the positions you've seen and she just freaks out and tries to go away. You try to use your finger but even that doesn't work. You get all this blood on yourself and it all of a sudden doesn't seem to be like in all of these videos. And now all you got going for you is a companion dog, with whom you can't live out your sexuality.

I've been zoosexual since the beginning of my puberty, so I began to read guides on here, seeing all these videos, that make it seem so easy and unproblematic, which is probably also true most of the time and so when I became older I got myself a husky pup and I'd say that she got a really good life with me. Been doing all these things that a husky needs, like tons of exercise including typical sled dog activities, training, going to the dog park, spending tons of money for high quality food and other dog stuff. So I'm basically always together with her, ergo companionship. But it seems like I've just had bad luck by choosing her over another dog and now I get envious and depressed seeing all these other people who do have huskies or other dogs that really seem to enjoy sex and just have a better personality than mine has.

Those dogs were already open enough and it's just paid actors. Don't base on how you see a video means you'll easily get balls deep in your girl with no effort.

 

[CewlHusky]

So you've gotten her just for sex.

If your sexuality is based on having sex with dogs and then you eventually get one, I don't think you can't deny that that's (at least) one of the primary reasons why you got one.

 

[CewlHusky]

Let me tell you a story from another zoo, he had gotten a dog and she wasn't interested in sex. He was fine with that, because he still loved her and cherished for for her personality and the love she gave him. Eventually he got another female dog and again, this doggy gal was also not interested in sex. That was fine, he still loved her for who she was and she still loved him. Eventually he wound up with a third female dog, and she actually was interested in sex. Cool deal. He still loved her for who she was and she still loved him as well.

It sounds like he kept trying until he eventually got lucky, but I could be wrong of course.

If I were in a position to get another Husky (which I'm striving for rn in sake of my current one so that she gets a friend) that does enjoy it, it'd be the same, I'd still love the other. And at the end of the day I'd never get rid of her just because I can't have sex with her.

 

[pes]

I wouldn't say that I've got her just for sex, i

It sure does sound like it.

And now all you got going for you is a companion dog, with whom you can't live out your sexuality.

Sex with a dog is not a given right. It is a possibility. And you have to accept the chance that there will be no sex.

Been doing all these things that a husky needs, like tons of exercise including typical sled dog activities, training, going to the dog park, spending tons of money for high quality food and other dog stuff. So I'm basically always together with her, ergo companionship.

She does not owe you sex for doing that though. Do not make it sound like it.

she might not be interested now, that doesn't mean I should just give up and forget about my sexual instincts or desires and the person who I am, does it?

Yes it does. If your dog constantly does not want to have sex with you, you just stop pushing the dog and accept it.
The same goes for practices and positions and so on. If a dog does not want to do one of your sexual fantasies, you just do not do that and focus on something else. You are supposed to adapt to what a dog can give you, not the other way around. My dog for example is not into licking, I used to enjoy long 45 minute lickings before, but it sure does not mean I am going to smear liters of peanut butter on myself to make my current dog lick me too.
My dog also is not into rimming and when I found out I am not to touch him under the tail, I stopped doing that, there is simply not going to be that sexual practice in our relationship.

And at the end of the day I'd never get rid of her just because I can't have sex with her.

That is good. We have had people here, who would.

 

[CewlHusky]

No means no OP. You got a thinking living thing not a pocket pussy.
But if you learn robotics you can create a robot that looks and acts like a dog.

If I thought she were a sex toy I'm pretty sure we wouldn't be having this discussion now, since I do care for her feelings and wants, unlike that of a toy or robot.

 

[Twelvepaws]

This is a difficult topic and it is also difficult to help via the internet. And I'm sorry, but I don't speak the language well, so I can help you especially hardly.

Probably your dog is "hysterical." Otherwise typical husky behavior. She probably only has "chick hysteria", husky is a hard-to-keep breed anyway. She is probably actually interested in sex, just stranger to her and afraid.

Sites and forums like this are usually approached in such a way as to release the dog with the slightest resistance. This attitude is somewhat "false", because a large proportion of female dogs would never afford a human because it’s not natural for them (!). They may be shy because of the novelty. Here it is very difficult to decide if she is afraid of new things, but will about her, or not want new things at all.
Try a different approach. I have a dog that doggy style doesn’t allow anything, but if you’re on the side missionary you can “do everything”.

You may need to be a little more determined, an “alpha male,” a slight discomfort for your dog. You gently grab she legs, hold it there, talk, teach, put a collar on it, and grab it (don’t tie it!). By no means violently (!!!), but determination may be needed. Many zoos never admit it, but it is often needed, especially in the beginning. Otherwise, the dog would always leave. There are so few times that the dog gives itself up completely after a lot of caressing. It was later when the relationship came together, that already real, but it rare at the very beginning.
Male dogs are violent, not lovely, want to breed and fuck. The female dogs is programmed for this, so there are "hysterical" dogs. This section is difficult to get through and the dog is very sensitive to it, but if it succeeds afterwards everything will work.

Short:
-a sex with a dog and a man is not natural, so the first few times may be "hysterical"
-female dog is programmed for the violent male dog, so the first few times he may be "hysterical", because she doesn't know how to "have sex differently a man"
-also weird that they want to have sex with heat out
-to which is added the beginner dog handler and the overly mild attitude of the forums

Don’t worry, your dog will love having sex with you, only the very first times are the hardest and most complicated. Be more determined, but by no means violent. Show him other ways you can explain to him that what you want to do with her is pleasant and not painful (like mating with a male dog).
If you go beyond that, you still have a lot to learn about how much your dog likes it, what she want better at that moment. These are all things you need to learn from yourself with your dog. In the beginning, everyone makes mistakes, that’s natural. You have to be careful and then the mistakes are not problems but lessons learned.
Petlust, ****** and similar videos are lying, fucking and not making love.

And yes, I know what you're talking about. Physical and spiritual connection are equally important. I’m not saying there is no love without sex, but the power of love is definitely further enhanced by having sex.

Of course, there’s a chance the dog doesn’t want to have sex and you’ll never sex with it. But this is quite rare.

 

[CewlHusky]

She does not owe you sex for doing that though. Do not make it sound like it.

That's not what I was trying to say. I contextually mentioned those things I do for her to signify the companionship that we have and that I truly care for her, regardless of sex.

Yes it does. If your dog constantly does not want to have sex with you, you just stop pushing the dog and accept it.
The same goes for practices and positions and so on. If a dog does not want to do one of your sexual fantasies, you just do not do that and focus on something else.

I'd never want to push her to do anything, that's why I'm having trouble, because I want it to be on her terms.

 

[CewlHusky]

What you see in the PetLust videos is often NOT what occurs in reality. I've already mentioned that I'm sexually active with one of my doggy gals, but here's the thing... she only, and I mean ONLY likes doggy style. She really doesn't like any other position. Due to her size, she's a big gal, this makes things a bit complicated. But I do thing on HER TERMS, not mine. It's also why I don't try to pressure my other doggy gal into sex. She likes humping my hand sometimes when out of heat, and that's it. When it comes to sex, the animal ALWAYS calls the shots in the matter. I don't care how pent up you are, if they aren't interested, then you have a platonic buddy that will still love you for who your are. Period.

Mine's also on the bigger size, especially considering the breed standard, even though she's purebred. That's also what bothers me I guess because I start to think things like if she were more like the standard husky - that I had hoped her to become when she was a pup - that it would be more like in the dozens of videos that I see.

For example, there's this one scene in one of the PL videos with the husky where the guy picks her up while still inside her and walks to the other side of the bed, not the slightest hesitation and completely relaxed, and I'm just completely boggled. Not only is mine slightly bigger and heavier, she really can't stand being propped or picked up. I sometimes get the feeling that there might be some sketchy things going on in the background that make the animals be so submissive to everything, but I know that doesn't necessarily have to be the case and I'm not making any presumptions.

The other thing is, was it you who wrote here once that you had the chance to have sex with a husky of one of your friends or something like that? Sorry if I'm confusing you with someone else, but the way you/that person described it - if I remember correctly - made it seem like it was "just one of them things, although amazing, but you know, not really a big deal", while I'm deadass just sitting here with my perfectly healthy intact dog, being a zoosexual, pursuing my dream of getting a husky for a long time and after working so hard to finally reach it, and bam, she's not interested in sex whatsoever and now I have to be fine with that and hope that it'll change and that my sex life gets better someday.

What I'm trying to say here is that seeing or reading things like these I mentioned above and seeing how some people have it so easy and better than me in regards to this topic, make me envious and I end up being depressed from trying to do better but ultimately failing in the end and that's likely the reason why I'm having some difficulty coming to terms with and accepting these grudges that I'll have to live with.

 

[FloofyNewfie]

Not only is mine slightly bigger and heavier, she really can't stand being propped or picked up. I sometimes get the feeling that there might be some sketchy things going on in the background that make the animals be so submissive to everything, but I know that doesn't necessarily have to be the case and I'm not making any presumptions.

I can tell you now that the majority of female dogs will not tolerate being picked up during sex. That's likely something she had to be acclimated to, which is absolutely not how you want to do things. As for PL themselves, while I don't have concrete evidence, I have heard rumors that many of the dog's were drugged during shooting. One doggy girl in particular, one of the great danes, she looks to be awake, but it doesn't appear that there's any lights on upstairs. It makes videos like those heartbreaking and disgusting to watch, if that's actually the case. While videos such as the dog in "Chunky not creamy" appear to be fully aware of what's going on and loving every minute of it.

The other thing is, was it you who wrote here once that you had the chance to have sex with a husky of one of your friends or something like that? Sorry if I'm confusing you with someone else, but the way you/that person described it - if I remember correctly - made it seem like it was "just one of them things, although amazing, but you know, not really a big deal", while I'm deadass just sitting here with my perfectly healthy intact dog, being a zoosexual, pursuing my dream of getting a husky for a long time and after working so hard to finally reach it, and bam, she's not interested in sex whatsoever and now I have to be fine with that and hope that it'll change and that my sex life gets better someday.

Yes, that was likely me. I did mention a couple of times on the forum that me and a fellow zoo swapped female doggy partners. He was able to have sex with my Newfie once, while I was able to have sex with his smaller husky girl twice. It was definitely fun, but the thing is that it was fun for all parties involved. If she had rejected my advances, then that would have been that. If my girl had rejected his advances, then that would have been that. But since all parties were willing in the matter, the fun was able to commence.

But like many have said, when you get a dog, you're not guaranteed sex. It's something that only happens IF the dog is interested. But not all dogs will be interested, and that's something you'll have to live with. As I mentioned, my other doggy girl, my mutt mix, is only interested in sex during heat. Otherwise, she does not like to be topped. That's something I've accepted about her, because those are the terms and boundaries that she's set.

Now, if both my girls decided that they never want to have sex again for the rest of their lives, would I be disappointed? Absolutely. As a straight* male one of my most primal urges is to empty my ballsack in a pussy. But the thing is, I didn't get my girl TO merely empty my ballsack in their pussies. I got them for companionship. I got them for the love dogs can give us. I got them because I wanted something that I could pour my love towards. I got them because I absolutely love dogs. I didn't get them for their pussies. The fact that my Newfie girl loves sex outside of heat is lucky... damn lucky. Because, more than likely, the majority of female dogs won't be interested in that.

 

[Twelvepaws]

The fact that my Newfie girl loves sex outside of heat is lucky... damn lucky. Because, more than likely, the majority of female dogs won't be interested in that.

And you described reality. Most female dogs are aware that they cannot reproduce with humans, are not their mates, and are out of heat.
Either way we twist the thing, this is not natural for dogs. So have to accept that are basically having sex for "selfish" purposes. BUT! This does not mean that it is bad or harmful to the dog. But it must be accepted that "many" times sex is for its own purposes and the dog only allows it because it loves its owner. Much of the zoophilia is about this, if you like it, if you don’t like it. Anyone whose dog behaves differently is very lucky, but we can’t expect the majority not to have sex because the dog is a little reluctant. The dog must be taught that he will live such an "unnatural lifestyle."
Of course the violence, the rough approach, "we fuck anyway!" cases should not be allowed because it is already rape (!).

Don't just think about sex. A human wants sex from a dog and the dog gives it in 95% of the time, even though the dog doesn’t want 100% of it. However, she don't feel bad in the meantime (!). "Neutral, slightly positive, or higher positive."
The mutual, good life is thus given back to the dog outside of sex, in the form of a better, higher quality of life etc. In sex, we won’t be able to give them back what they give us because most dogs basically "don’t" want to have sex with their owner. We can give this back in other areas of our lives, in our everyday lives: better food, better quality of life, more activities, walking, more love.
Somewhat similar to a relationship between two people. Yes, since one of the partners is human, so the type of relationship will be semi-human, semi-animal.

I love my dogs more than anything, we have a common soul, a common breath, a common heartbeat, we live in a big herd. But I don’t stray from reality, I know it’s not natural for a dog when its owner has sex with it, but it doesn’t bad her either. And the owner likes to have sex. In another form, I "compensate" them for "giving themselves to me." e.g. much higher quality of life.

It may sound ugly and objectifies the relationship, I can’t describe it better in this language, but a relationship with a dog is "like a human relationship", not 100% about perfection. This is rare. We should strive to be the best for everyone, I give and receive, mutual positive coexistence, "this is what life" is all about, the rest is just a fairy tale. Even so, it is much more beautiful and honest with each other than a relationship between two people.

 

[CewlHusky]

So is it rare for a dog, especially females to not be interested in sex with humans?

Also, does it play a role if the dog's attitude towards humans in general is somewhat more skittish? Do you think that a dog, that's anxious towards other people, and maybe even slightly to its owner, not from abuse or bad past experiences, but genetically speaking and having been well socialized and all, is less likely to be open to sex?

Maybe that's another reason why I'm not succeeding in it since she's unfortunately not the kind of husky or dog that goes up to people to be petted and wag her tail because of it. Just recently at the dog park, there was this other incredibly beautiful male husky and three people were crouching down to call for him to pet him. He was so happy, wagging his tail, even licking them, and leaned his whole body against these complete strangers, like you would think a Labrador Retriever for example would normally do. Right after that, my girl approached them, not even cautiously but as soon as they reached out to pet her, she immediately turned away. I hope that I'll be able to make her more open to human interaction, and perhaps it'll help me someday.

 

[Goattobeloved]

You may need to be a little more determined, an “alpha male,” a slight discomfort for your dog. You gently grab she legs, hold it there, talk, teach, put a collar on it, and grab it (don’t tie it!). By no means violently (!!!), but determination may be needed. Many zoos never admit it, but it is often needed, especially in the beginning. Otherwise, the dog would always leave. There are so few times that the dog gives itself up completely after a lot of caressing. It was later when the relationship came together, that already real, but it rare at the very beginning.
Male dogs are violent, not lovely, want to breed and fuck. The female dogs is programmed for this, so there are "hysterical" dogs. This section is difficult to get through and the dog is very sensitive to it, but if it succeeds afterwards everything will work.

Short:
-a sex with a dog and a man is not natural, so the first few times may be "hysterical"
-female dog is programmed for the violent male dog, so the first few times he may be "hysterical", because she doesn't know how to "have sex differently a man"
-also weird that they want to have sex with heat out
-to which is added the beginner dog handler and the overly mild attitude of the forums

Don’t worry, your dog will love having sex with you, only the very first times are the hardest and most complicated. Be more determined, but by no means violent. Show him other ways you can explain to him that what you want to do with her is pleasant and not painful (like mating with a male dog).

Worst possible advice ever, specially when told to someone who is overly eager to get results with her.

She is a husky. If she is obedient and respectful, He IS already on an alpha position.

She is already anxious when he tries, so any forcing will make her more skittish and unwilling.

First. get her to relax whatever he does, and rely she does not have to be alert to what will happen as Pete is near (Sort of like a relation and a confidence zone when near). Then, maybe, try other things.

 

[Goattobeloved]

@Pete2018
Not getting rid of her. Yes, that is the good part I saw, and made me think it was worth writting some.
Many would just dispose and get try luck with another, and digs do not respond well to owner changes.
Thanks on her behalf for that.

The error is, zoo or not, having sex as primary reason and expect to work. Policy should be "Be ready for the wirst, expect the best"

Since are at stories, some years ago I givesome goats for company.
Reason? Sex? Sure!
But also I was in a low and particularly dark time of life. My only hope was getting some animal company.

At the time I could not have a dog. Basically fear of having his life shadily ended by family old fart family member, and... I did not want to risk dog's live... or end in prisin fir what would have happened in that case.

I knew shit about goats except I met a couple of times and looked clever and nice and... I would be able to keep some additional distance in case something happened. So a few months of investigation and then looking for them.

Once I got them... I still knew shit about goats. Found a lot of great information for feeding, living, caring and I did well on that but sex... No, no guides.

Well It took over two years until I could start, then one more before I actually enjoyed... because they would seem to refuse me, which was not the case but they tend to walk away and move.

So, to the point, I regreted not having sex and that they would go, for sure, but objective 1 was, having an anchor to this life and that worked great. Working on setting all before I got them, and letting them teach me after. The responsability of having to care... All of it changed my life and took me back to being a person again.

Oh, few years after that, there was sex. Great and welcomed but... I got the best from them before that.

So, even on my altered mind it was like
40% I needed ANY reliable beeing at my side
30% I wanted animal to fuck
18% Deeply regretting it could not be a dog.
10% Curiosity and learning new things
2% Big garden, lits of weeds and bushes

The 40% and the 10% worked great from day one, and it was a change

 

[CewlHusky]

Worst possible advice ever, specially when told to someone who is overly eager to get results with her.

She is a husky. If she is obedient and respectful, He IS already on an alpha position.

She is already anxious when he tries, so any forcing will make her more skittish and unwilling.

First. get her to relax whatever he does, and rely she does not have to be alert to what will happen as Pete is near (Sort of like a relation and a confidence zone when near). Then, maybe, try other things.

Do you think I'm "overly" eager? Kinda sounds negative. I'd say it's just something that I desire and see many people do and talk about so casually.

But other than that I agree with what you've said. This "being the alpha" is a pretty common notion, especially amongst husky owners, and it's likely a crucial requirement when wanting them to be obedient.

 

[Goattobeloved]

Do you think I'm "overly" eager? Kinda sounds negative. I'd say it's just something that I desire and see many people do and talk about so casually.

But other than that I agree with what you've said. This "being the alpha" is a pretty common notion, especially amongst husky owners, and it's likely a crucial requirement when wanting them to be obedient.

Overly eager in that it was your first and main reason, and you are frustrated it does not happen. Up to the point of thinking she was an error.
It sounds negative because I feel it is not a good mindset.

Long and short if it.
The advice you have been given in my quote is such a shady zone, it can easily be read as "hold her and make it happen and she will come to like it" It sounded quite irresponsible to me, much like a rapist justification.

You may hopefully claim it will not be in your case. But there will be more people reading these posts looking for advise and someone at some point WILL think it is a great idea and will force things.

 

[Goattobeloved]

Don't listen to anyone that says you shouldn't have bought her for sex.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, animals are purchased every day legally for much worse than to be pleasured.
Horses and mules that live only to be worked, cows only to be milked, if you buy a dog only for sex as long as she's enjoying it there is nothing wrong with that.~♡

Makes sense...

Of course we all know what happens to mules that can't work and cows that do not produce milk.

So since OP problem is her lady is not providing sex despite treating her well, I take your advice is he should sell her to the glue factory?

 

[nekdoneco123]

Don't listen to anyone that says you shouldn't have bought her for sex.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, animals are purchased every day legally for much worse than to be pleasured.
Horses and mules that live only to be worked, cows only to be milked, if you buy a dog only for sex as long as she's enjoying it there is nothing wrong with that.~♡

so much wrong with that statement i'm actually quite amazed. what separates "us" from "the rest" is "us" treating animals as much more than third class citizens. getting a dog with "main reason being" sex is literally just that. hopefully there isn't more of "you" lurking around here.

I've been zoosexual since the beginning of my puberty

i'll be honest with you. you sound nothing like a zoosexual.

You may need to be a little more determined, an “alpha male,” a slight discomfort for your dog. You gently grab she legs, hold it there, talk, teach, put a collar on it, and grab it (don’t tie it!). By no means violently (!!!), but determination may be needed. Many zoos never admit it, but it is often needed,

i hope you don't have a dog.. or you didn't do anything of this sort to her.

 

[CewlHusky]

Overly eager in that it was your first and main reason, and you are frustrated it does not happen.

How is one overly eager to have sex just because it's the main reason for wanting to be in a relationship? I'm sorry but that doesn't make sense to me. Let's say I was heterosexual and I want to have a girlfriend. Isn't it somewhat expected that in doing so one does so for the benefit of having at least sex once with that person and how would that be considered "overly eager"? I think it's extremely unlikely that the majority of people get into relationships for the sole reason to have a companion and only discover later on that sex is just a little perk to have. It's a substantial reason beforehand, if not more most of the time.

And when I say:

and I think that's one of frustrating things about it.

doesn't mean that I am frustrated. Having it not easy to have sex with her makes me feel more sad and miserable than frustrated. You have to be careful not to put the wrong words in other people's mouths and interpret things incorrectly before making
assumptions.

The advice you have been given in my quote

What advice did I give you? I'm the one here who gets advised here.

So since OP problem is her lady is not providing sex despite treating her well

Man... misinterpreting things again. That's not the problem I described earlier at all. Regardless of how I am treating her, that wouldn't solve it.

I really appreciate your help, but you should try not to unnecessarily portray people in a bad light.

 

[CewlHusky]

i'll be honest with you. you sound nothing like a zoosexual.

And why's that? Could you please elaborate? Who are you to decide whose attraction is determined by the way they sound I might not sound like your idea of a zoosexual, but I am sexually attracted to female dogs since I was quite young and it will always be like that.

 

[Twelvepaws]

i hope you don't have a dog.. or you didn't do anything of this sort to her.

Don’t worry, my dogs are fine. I’m sorry I see zoophilia realistically and not as a fairy tale.

 

[Goattobeloved]

What advice did I give you? I'm the one here who gets advised here.

We are getting lost in the quotes.
That was about the advice given TO you by someone else I quoted in my related post (actually, in a separeted post to try avoid this sort of confusions).

About the "overly", well. We have that much as a few posts to understand a whole history and situations. I tend to consider all true for the sake of a logic working scenario, and need to fill in the gaps.
Did I get thing wrong? Maybe, but with the present information this is still my thought that this problem is too much of an important part to you, and causes you to miss the good parts that are there for you two to enjoy.

 

[CewlHusky]

Did I get thing wrong? Maybe, but with the present information this is still my thought that this problem is too much of an important part to you, and causes you to miss the good parts that are there for you two to enjoy.

Yes, you may be right that this problem is too much of an important thing to me, and it probably always will be until I get to be in a relationship with someone that I would consider to be complete, since this one's missing a piece, but as I've said I'd be okay if it won't ever work out, I'll just keep on enjoying all the other things that I'm also enjoying with her now.