m1977
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I thought'd I'd reach out and see if anybody else has been through long periods of depression and all the knock-on effects of that and medication on relationships, both human and canine.
I've always recognised that I'm more predisposed to negative thoughts and cycles, am an introvert with relatively few social interactions. but I had so far in my life avoided any really dark times until the last couple of years. I think it started during the pandemic, but I don't think there was any particularly strong link to that in itself. What did happen was that I experience family bereavement, poor overall health (and I've always been pretty fit and active my entire life) and change in living circumstances as my husband was now working from home for long periods.
My husband and I had what I thought was a stable relationship, where he's the more outgoing and confident partner, while I'm admittedly the submissive (though I'm not complaining, it's just a matter of fact). Being so close together for so long affected him more, but after a while this rubbed of on me, as I'm pretty sensitive to other peoples moods. And although he'd been the one to get me started with our dog (I initially did it for his benefit) he'd kind of lost interest for a time, but now it being in his face so much I think he was resenting it just a little.
Anyway, late last year I was prescribed SSRI's to help me cope as I was having very dark thoughts. This has helped to some degree, though no without some real negative consequences. The big deal was losing most of my sex drive. I've always had a healthy sex drive and with the two males in the house never went long without. I can't get aroused so am always dry and can't actually orgasm at all right now and because of this anal sex is also very difficult. I've never had issue with anal sex, which I've always done with both husband and dog and simply can't relax my muscles enough which for the first time has made that activity uncomfortable.
So yes there are alternatives to getting them both off, but I'm just not into it and neither of them are very happy. At least I can explain to my husband.
It has been suggested that I may be perimenopausal, which could explain the lack of interest in sex and physical response. Or it could just be the SSRI's. I'm not sure what way out of this as the medication has been a life-saver. At this point I don't know what the solution is. I miss my old life and I have two others in my life who are also affected.
I've always recognised that I'm more predisposed to negative thoughts and cycles, am an introvert with relatively few social interactions. but I had so far in my life avoided any really dark times until the last couple of years. I think it started during the pandemic, but I don't think there was any particularly strong link to that in itself. What did happen was that I experience family bereavement, poor overall health (and I've always been pretty fit and active my entire life) and change in living circumstances as my husband was now working from home for long periods.
My husband and I had what I thought was a stable relationship, where he's the more outgoing and confident partner, while I'm admittedly the submissive (though I'm not complaining, it's just a matter of fact). Being so close together for so long affected him more, but after a while this rubbed of on me, as I'm pretty sensitive to other peoples moods. And although he'd been the one to get me started with our dog (I initially did it for his benefit) he'd kind of lost interest for a time, but now it being in his face so much I think he was resenting it just a little.
Anyway, late last year I was prescribed SSRI's to help me cope as I was having very dark thoughts. This has helped to some degree, though no without some real negative consequences. The big deal was losing most of my sex drive. I've always had a healthy sex drive and with the two males in the house never went long without. I can't get aroused so am always dry and can't actually orgasm at all right now and because of this anal sex is also very difficult. I've never had issue with anal sex, which I've always done with both husband and dog and simply can't relax my muscles enough which for the first time has made that activity uncomfortable.
So yes there are alternatives to getting them both off, but I'm just not into it and neither of them are very happy. At least I can explain to my husband.
It has been suggested that I may be perimenopausal, which could explain the lack of interest in sex and physical response. Or it could just be the SSRI's. I'm not sure what way out of this as the medication has been a life-saver. At this point I don't know what the solution is. I miss my old life and I have two others in my life who are also affected.