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I’ve been getting really close to my sisters dog

rexus921

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I’ve known I’m a zooer since like 2010 (I’m in my late 20s now), but I like to keep it in my imagination, not gotten close to anything like that, I have cats but they are my children.
Anyway, my sister moved to London, and basically abandoned all of her animals, including Ember, a beautiful 2 year old lab-bordercol-gsd. I used to walk her to help out my sis, as she never did, she was stuck in a hall way for most of her life and has had little contact inside or out. I feel soo bad about that, and when she said she’s getting ember rehomed, I was overjoyed, as going to any house was better than the life she has been living.
I have had ember over at mine as much as possable, she’s adorable, soo loving and full of, er, well, love. I’ve been taking her out around to shops and walks, but she’s very scared of some people and allllll animals, her fur goes all ruffely when other dogs come near. But I’m trying to get her used to contact with the outside world.
The problem is, the more I take care of her, the more I get invested in her, the sadder I’m going to be if she finnaly gets rehomed. Sadly one attempt failed earlier this month due to my sis lying to the people who came to see her, she said that she was fine with all other dogs and small animals, but she’s bloody not. Not at all. They drove 4 hours just to go home disappointed. I also feel very bad for them, as it was just a waste of time.
I’m now at the point where I’ve spent soo much time with her, i am properly in love with ember. More than any human I’ve know. We click soo much, I love her soo much I don’t even know how to explane. She has serous police dog mode, but then She has goofy floppy girly mode aswell, like if there’s a noise she will stand in front of me and go into guard mode, and then she snaps out of it and rolls over for me to pet her.

Now comes the other part of what I’ve been feeling. Which I feel mixed about. When ever I’m with her, I have the rediculous giddy exitment one would get when talking to a girl you like at school when you were back in the day. I literally get a hard on every time she goes into super pet me mode. And she asks for more, like if I stop giving her attention for a second, she paws my hand to her and looks at me with the eyes of “come on”. She throws herself at me, does a little growl, rolls over and waits for the belly rubs, then she licks her private parts, which the entire situation just gets me hot.

All I want is for her to be happy, my parents are adement that I can’t keep her, and I think she’s never going to be adopted as she’s far too afrade or other animals unless she has proper PROPER training, and my dad says, unless my sis pays for it, no.

I’m going to keep looking after her, try to make her life better, and hope beyond all hope that the people who rule me can see how happy she makes me, and I make her.

She is the love of my life. I can’t think of how I can function without her.
 
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obviously she seems sweet, but if she is fixed, you can't take it beyond that, it is likely to cause injury, if she isnt fixed, well, why haven't you started trying to seduce her, or let her seduce you? :cool:, if she is as receptive as you say, it shouldn't take much.
 
obviously she seems sweet, but if she is fixed, you can't take it beyond that, it is likely to cause injury, if she isnt fixed, well, why haven't you started trying to seduce her, or let her seduce you? :cool:, if she is as receptive as you say, it shouldn't take much.
Indeed she is, but that’s no problem, I’ll keep it in my mind, and love her all the same.
 
SO the real question is. Do you care about Ember to take the next step. Becoming her care giver. Your sister does not care about Ember. When you get a dog you are there for the dogs life. Not just when it is convenient for you. It's not about sex, it is about bonding. Having a dog is a lifetime event for them. Will you be the alpha she needs in her life? Will you train her? Make her part of your pack. If you are not willing to do these things for Ember, Then MOVE ON. It is not to be. Female dogs are sluts. Once they know you are available ALL the time, they want sex all the time.
 
Number one , learn about dog training and desensitization routines to work on her reactivity issues with the outside and other dogs. Plenty of resources out there to learn how. Also basic dog training, again tons of resources out there. Positive reinforcement and consistency are imperative. (edit) professional help is always the first thing to try if you can afford, but a lot of what dog trainers do is to help train you.

Simultaneously work on your parents to see if you can convince them to allow you to keep her (sounds like you live at home) . Demonstrate to them that you will be her caregiver with feeding, grooming, vet trips, training, walking, etc. All responsibilities even financial (dogs cost money to keep healthy). They need to feel confident that you won't up and off like your sister leaving them in a pinch with Ember. I bet this is their main concern here, as it is clear they do not want a dog to have to be responsible for.

If keeping her is still not going to work, at least with a trained and confident dog you will be more able to find her a forever-home with caring people.
 
SO the real question is. Do you care about Ember to take the next step. Becoming her care giver. Your sister does not care about Ember. When you get a dog you are there for the dogs life. Not just when it is convenient for you. It's not about sex, it is about bonding. Having a dog is a lifetime event for them. Will you be the alpha she needs in her life? Will you train her? Make her part of your pack. If you are not willing to do these things for Ember, Then MOVE ON. It is not to be. Female dogs are sluts. Once they know you are available ALL the time, they want sex all the time.
This!, This!, And This! If you cannot offer her a lifelong bond, don't deny her one with someone who can. The lack of this need hurts them emotionally.
 
This!, This!, And This! If you cannot offer her a lifelong bond, don't deny her one with someone who can. The lack of this need hurts them emotionally.
Precisely, if there’s possibility for adoption to a good home, no matter what I feel, it’s the right thing to do. And lol there’s no sex on the line, I just want to look after her and make her happy.
 
Update, I’m still trying to train ember on people and other animals, it’s slow going, and I keep having her over at my place for longer so my parents get used to her, and very oddly, my mum, who is very against it, just now said she can see how much happier ember is with me, as she gets AAAALLL of the attention all day rather than being in a stupid under stair cupboard at my sisters old house that her ex lives in as she moved out. Jeez. I just want her to not be alone 23.5 hours of the day. And if I am the only one that can do something about it, then I will. I just need my dad to agree. yes I know I’m In My late 20s, but I still live in my parents house because I’m bloody autistically afrade of the outside world myself. But dogo makes it easier as she seems to love it when she’s not barking at other dogs or people she doesn’t like the look of.
 
I think you should adopt her. By all means necessary, maybe? Convince your sister that Ember will not have to be rehomed anymore.

But honestly, it really seems things aren't this simple
Bump, I agree with this, if you can look after her and love her so much with such a bond, you should adopt her and that way you won't have to let her go if she gets rehomed 🙂
 
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